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PrintableReincarnate said: LolaM said: I do agree with everything you said. Its just knocked my confidence so much that I keep wondering what I did to stop him from caring about me. However, I know that he's never really stuck it out very long with anyone (I'm his most long-term g/f to date) and isn't into commitment. My Mum keeps telling me its not my fault but she would tell me anything to cheer me up. My only problem is that I think people that aren't ready for commitment shouldn't be engaging in this sort of relationship. Surely you should casually date or have one-night stands rather than fuck around with someones head!!! Do you know what I think? I think you must be really special if you're his most long-term girlfriend to date. And I also think your mum's right and that you shouldn't underestimate the wisdom she has - of course she wants to make you feel better but mums can also generally be relied upon to tell it as it is 
And perhaps he really did want to make it work with you, maybe you were the closest he's found to someone he thought he could settle down with. But in the end, he decided he's not ready and may never be ready. Girl, don't feel bad about yourself - feel special ... it certainly sounds like you've played a unique role in this man's life. x Once again, words of wisdom from Reincarnate. You should be a counsellor!! He told me that he cared more about me than anyone else in his life, that I'm his best friend and the only one he can really talk to. When I think of that it makes me smile cos I know I've made an impact on his life. The more time passes, the more I understand and respect his feelings, mostly because he's my best friend too and I don't want to be angry with him. Although I think its tragic that two people obviously care so much about each but it can't go anywhere.....I suppose I just have to accept that as you said he's not ready to commit to anything deeper and may never be. Thanks again all  I'll leave graffiti where you've never been kissed | |
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LolaM said: thesexofit said: time is a motherfucker. I still miss my last girlfriend. And for mounths now i have had no one steady. Heck iam here on a firday night. Some nights i'd rather be home with my mates then go out. I'd rather be home alone and date someone with a heart then go out "ripping the streets". Anyway, sorry for the (new)jack of ur thread.
Hey sexofit, don't worry about the (new) jack of the thread. Its nice to see that a guy feels lonely too. Sometimes I would rather have a quiet night in than go out clubbing and "on the pull". Yeah, "pulling" (hey, are u english?), can get tiresome. Maybe its my age (almost 20 now) is making me grow up. Trying to just get sex when u know u are not compatible is just not worth it, it seems to me sometimes. I can happily live without sex. I talk to girls just as much as boys. No need for sex 24/7. I do want to meet a proper girlfriend in clubs or wherever, but, i'd be lying if i said i loved them, as i still love someone else 
Still, i got michael bolton on stand by. "said i love u but i lied" springs to mind for irony. 
I swear sex is everywhere, i gotta grip. Dont need it all the time. And some girls do seem to need it 24/7 ans much as boys. | |
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thesexofit said: LolaM said: Hey sexofit, don't worry about the (new) jack of the thread. Its nice to see that a guy feels lonely too. Sometimes I would rather have a quiet night in than go out clubbing and "on the pull". Yeah, "pulling" (hey, are u english?), can get tiresome. Maybe its my age (almost 20 now) is making me grow up. Trying to just get sex when u know u are not compatible is just not worth it, it seems to me sometimes. I can happily live without sex. I talk to girls just as much as boys. No need for sex 24/7. I do want to meet a proper girlfriend in clubs or wherever, but, i'd be lying if i said i loved them, as i still love someone else
Still, i got michael bolton on stand by. "said i love u but i lied" springs to mind for irony.
I swear sex is everywhere, i gotta grip. Dont need it all the time. And some girls do seem to need it 24/7 ans much as boys. Hey again. I'm from Northern Ireland so we speak the same lingo. I feel exactly like you do. I was going out really early and I seem to have gotten over the whole "pulling" thing. It just feels so cheap and tacky sometimes - just my opinion, thats all. I'll leave graffiti where you've never been kissed | |
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