1sexymf said:

Thanks... another thought... the number of sex-partners doesn't tell anything about the frequency of having sex. If often think I don't have/didn't have as much sex as others have/had, or maybe others just brag. I don't see myself as being very focused on having sex.

I guess it has to do with me being very honest whenever I had sex with someone. If in the past I would only have had sex when I was really in love with someone... it would have been all concentrated of one year, and that just doesn't work for me that would NOT have been enough. So I had sex whenever I felt like no one was getting hurt by it, it was safe, and both parties really wanted it. After a while, sex gets dangerous. This 'sex-partners'-thing was not really working for me. One of the two persons just falls in love and then it starts to hurt. So I've always layed my cards on the table and told these guys what I felt, what I wanted, and what I refused... And most men have been very very respectful... Of course, as much as I am saying this sex-partners thing doesn't work, I've been there of course. I only had two one-night-stands.

Still, it is true people get upset when I talk openly about it. A woman has to be qualified... is she an angel, or is she a whore? Something inbetween doesn't seem to exist. But aren't we all in this zone? It's a matter of personality how you express this 'internzonality' over the years, and people change.

I just hope I don't end up having sex in parking lots, ever ever ever. No sex with strangers, thanks. I always 'knew' these guys, there was always a strong connection. And they couldn't vote for Bush, this was just not done.

Spats said:

same on the other side too buddy.

Well if u the only one hitting it for the tme being why should it mattered how many she or he have!!!!

MarieLouise said:

Well said. If more people thought like you, the world would be an easier place to live in.

saintsation said:

Tell that to the bonehead!

MarieLouise said:

If I waited to fall in love with a man before having sex with him, I'd still be a virgin.

SammiJ said:

Don't even bother with him, Sammi. For all we know, he might be sitting at his computer right now, laughing because he intentionally says things to rile people up.

And don't start with the diseases-argument. The only man I ever had to argue with to use a condom (if they didn't it just didn't happen) only had one sex-partner his whole life. He was just SOOOOO sure nothing would happen to him. He looked at the condom as if it was some kind of tropical animal ...

I am not trying to rile anyone up. When you have been with that many people you should worry about diseases. Don't live in a dream world. I wouldn't trust a woman who has been with that many men at that young of an age. That is a lot of sex partners at that age. I couldn't believe it when they posted that.

I always ask the women i have been with how many guys they have been with. Hopefully they have been honest.

Spats said:

How many women have you slept with?

it was very immature for him to dump her based on the number of sex partners she's had. There is more to a relationship than sex. he just seems like an idiot.

however, having sex with 18-20 men by the time she's 23 years old is a whole hell of a lot of men to of had sex with. maybe she needs to ask herself why she's sleeping with so many men. the fact that she's so broken up abuot him leaving her because of the number of men she's been with makes it seem like perhaps she's uncomfortable with the number as well.

And spats does have a point about disease but as long as she visits her doctor regularly and always uses a condom, she should be fine. The only reason why he should be worried about disease is if she said that she's had unprotected sex with 18-20 guys. that's just scary and nasty.

JasmineFire said:

She's told me she has insisted in protected sex only and does have regular doctor visits. She's not a skank. I don't know if she has had an insecurity thing about herself to have slept with that many men, but maybe she just likes sex. I

Spats said:

LOL that is just stupid and funny... ooh and by the way I know a girl who is 23 and had sex only 5 times!! Just five times!! OOh boy I guess that makes her better than the chick who had partners 23 right.....












OOh I forgot to mention THIS girl has 5 kids and herpes. So dont be so quick to judge who is sexually naughty or nice by some stupid number anyway LOL.

1sexymf You tell your friend the next time some fool asks her how many guys she has done to tell him ... "who she fucked from her past up to the day before she met him is none of his fuckin business".

As long as she is handlin her business (health & protection wise)its no one elses and if he flips, take it as a sign from her higher power that he aint for her and mov
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nammie said:

Preach on sweetie!
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That question is--or SHOULD be--a relationship taboo. I refuse to ask or answer such a question, because it's a double-edged sword. Damned if you do, damned if you don't.

Bringing up the past in a relationship just isn't a good idea, unless it's a VERY rare thing and maybe you're giving an example of how you used to view things or how you've changed since then. IMO, if you talk about the past too much, it's a sign of holding on to some unresolved stuff.

Guys can be so fucking stupid sometimes

I can see if she'd been w/ 18 guys in one night but damn You have to take it all into consideration - over what period of time, what kind of circumstances (if you care to be that judgemental). If she's such a whore, men need to ask themselves how they ended up w/ said whore anyway

1sexymf said:

enjoying sex and sleeping around are two different things. there are people (men and women) who sleep around instead of dealing with their own isues with intimacy and then there are those who sleep around just because they like sex and can't find a committed relationship. Then there are people who enjoy sex but don't sleep around or people who barely have sex with anyone because of their own issues. it takes all kinds.

I never understand this, guys if things are going great then don't ask a question that a) doesn't really matter in the great scheme of life and b) you don't want to know the answer.

CalhounSq said:

truuue

Always make sure you want to know before you ask, is the morale of this story.

1sexymf said:

Whoever the fuck has the balls to ask the question should have the balls to accept the answer...idiot

as long as one is protected.

TMPletz said:

That's Clerks, right?

my friend has been sexually active for 22 years, she has been in a couple of long term relationships, but other than that has had pretty bad luck on the dating scene. Conservatively, if she dated 4 guys each year, that ends up being 64 guys she has slept with. I know it is more, because there have been some one night stands here and there too. I reckon it would be closer to a 100. She has not told her fiancee because it would freak him out. She is by no means a skank though!

Since men Lie..She should have lied or Feyed Denial. None of your Business. He's a CREEP. Be Happy you are RID of such a STUPID ANTIQUATED MALE CHAUVANIST JUDGING YOU. FIND a NEW GUY YOUNGER and BETTER LOOKING....

Why should he say ANYTHING to YOU when it was BEFORE you were Together. Cheating is another matter and could have Reasons. Never let anyone make ya feel Bad. Be Happy he is gone. I Swear you will find much Better.

lilgish said:

I don't wanna know how many she's had.

All I wanna know is that she's faithful.

Sounds to me like this guy was looking for a way out. I would never ask that question and I probably wouldn't answer it. My only hang-up would be if the girl slept with somebody I know (or R. Kelly )

whodknee said: