I call this the artist suck-up. Artists need to be the center of attention, thus they always find some complement to be liked.

I hate the suck-up artistry of artists.

I actually take it as a compliment, although it is just a strange thing to tell somebody. I wonder if that's why, when I was travelling in Europe, strangers would approach me, speaking in a foreign tongue? (Asking questions, pointing to a map, wondering where a certain shop is and pointing to the shopping bag I held). I'd heard that Americans in Europe stick out like sore thumbs, and I noticed it when I was there...I guess I blended in more. Which makes me happy because I'd love to live there!

Retina, I think your "weird compliments" mean that you are probably good in bed! They sound like come-ons to me.

And another one called me 'gorilla' all the time, because I have long blonde hairs on my arm.

I still don't know what to make of the total picture.

So I just decided to keep away from Italians.

supa told me the other day he liked my nose

supa told me the other day he liked my nose

charlottegelin said:

What's there not to like on you?

TMPletz said:

I beat you to it.

retina said:

That's okay. She deserves it.

retina said:

Maybe she meant you went straight for the kill, instead of taking your time.

LleeLlee said:

So that's what adults do, eh?

thescandalouslife said:

Really? Which country do you have your sights set on?

I think the issue of blending in is quite funny because it really depends on the situation and context if it's preferable or not. I totally agree with you that it's nice to blend in if you're in a foreign country because then the differences (which are often obstacles) are so many and big that you quickly get sick of attracting attention. You just want to get a glimpse of what the locals are like when they've "dropped their guard" and treat you like a peer.

But would I want to blend in if I'm in my home town? Not really, because then I'd feel like I'd been swallowed up by the masses and lost my identity. Would I want to blend in in a bar on a Saturday night? To some degree maybe, since I'm there to relax and enjoy myself, but I also might want to stand out a bit to attract the opposite sex, etc. I think in general, I simply want to blend in just enough to be given a chance to show who I really am. People can be so impatient with things they aren't used to.



I like that interpretation!

I definitely did take their comments as compliments since touching is such a huge part of having sex, and since they liked how I was doing it. I just wasn't aware that I touched them in any special way. I always just go with my instincts and what feels right.

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One time I was at a rave, and a girl approached me and said that she'd photographed me at a previous event several months prior because she loved my eyes.

Pretty standard shit: I normally don't like Black guys, but...


And I get that a lot from Black girls. Go figure.

anyways, ive had compliments about my eyebrows and how they look like they've been waxed and shaped nicely. people always ask me if i had something done to them.