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AIDS DAY MEMORIAL THREAD... for those we have lost. as someone living with HIV, i am often inspired by the memories of people who have passed on, but continue to live in the loving memories of their friends, family members, and loved ones.
please share your memories and most cherished moments of those who have gone before us today. tell us of their lives, their triumphs, the moments of joy, the moments of loss, everything... Power tends to corrupt; absolute power corrupts absolutely. - Lord Acton | |
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I have spent the last month dealing with 2 crisis'. The 1st being my mothers diagnosis with breast cancer, the 2nd being one of my dearest friends getting pnuemonia 2 weeks ago. He has been positive since '87 and lived a full life. The thing that bothers me most about this, is the reaction that most everyone around him has had to his current health issues. I went to visit him last Tuesday, and he said that none of his other friends or co-workers would enter the room to see him. They would come to the door, say hi & hope u get well, and leave. This disheartend me to the point of tears. I can't believe that in 2005 we still have such small minded people who believe that being in the same room with someone who has full blow AIDS is a lethal sentence. I had to sit with him for a couple of hours to just sit with him, I told him that in a small minded place **London, KY** they were not able to deal with this disease. I sat and rubbed his feet because he said they were hurting him. This brought tears to his eyes, he said that aside from the nurses who come in to bathe him, no one had touched him since he was put in the hospital. I just couldn't believe it. omfg He told me that he wants to die, he doesn't want to sit and suffer for months to come without breathing. sad I just didn't know what to say. I mean, is it my place to tell him that he has to live knowing that quality of life that he is looking at? As I left the hospital room, I kissed him on his forehead and told him that I would see him at the Christmas party. Lets just pray that he makes it until then.
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Proud Member of the Gay Org Mafiaalexnevermind319 said: I have spent the last month dealing with 2 crisis'. The 1st being my mothers diagnosis with breast cancer, the 2nd being one of my dearest friends getting pnuemonia 2 weeks ago. He has been positive since '87 and lived a full life. The thing that bothers me most about this, is the reaction that most everyone around him has had to his current health issues. I went to visit him last Tuesday, and he said that none of his other friends or co-workers would enter the room to see him. They would come to the door, say hi & hope u get well, and leave. This disheartend me to the point of tears. I can't believe that in 2005 we still have such small minded people who believe that being in the same room with someone who has full blow AIDS is a lethal sentence. I had to sit with him for a couple of hours to just sit with him, I told him that in a small minded place **London, KY** they were not able to deal with this disease. I sat and rubbed his feet because he said they were hurting him. This brought tears to his eyes, he said that aside from the nurses who come in to bathe him, no one had touched him since he was put in the hospital. I just couldn't believe it. omfg He told me that he wants to die, he doesn't want to sit and suffer for months to come without breathing. sad I just didn't know what to say. I mean, is it my place to tell him that he has to live knowing that quality of life that he is looking at? As I left the hospital room, I kissed him on his forehead and told him that I would see him at the Christmas party. Lets just pray that he makes it until then.
double post edit i am tearing up reading this. he's so fortunate to have you, and vice versa. 
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cborgman said: alexnevermind319 said: I have spent the last month dealing with 2 crisis'. The 1st being my mothers diagnosis with breast cancer, the 2nd being one of my dearest friends getting pnuemonia 2 weeks ago. He has been positive since '87 and lived a full life. The thing that bothers me most about this, is the reaction that most everyone around him has had to his current health issues. I went to visit him last Tuesday, and he said that none of his other friends or co-workers would enter the room to see him. They would come to the door, say hi & hope u get well, and leave. This disheartend me to the point of tears. I can't believe that in 2005 we still have such small minded people who believe that being in the same room with someone who has full blow AIDS is a lethal sentence. I had to sit with him for a couple of hours to just sit with him, I told him that in a small minded place **London, KY** they were not able to deal with this disease. I sat and rubbed his feet because he said they were hurting him. This brought tears to his eyes, he said that aside from the nurses who come in to bathe him, no one had touched him since he was put in the hospital. I just couldn't believe it. omfg He told me that he wants to die, he doesn't want to sit and suffer for months to come without breathing. sad I just didn't know what to say. I mean, is it my place to tell him that he has to live knowing that quality of life that he is looking at? As I left the hospital room, I kissed him on his forehead and told him that I would see him at the Christmas party. Lets just pray that he makes it until then.
double post edit i am tearing up reading this. he's so fortunate to have you, and vice versa.
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My friend John O was soooo full of life. He was hilarious!! He spoke around 5 languages, loved to travel and cook. He once went to the Phillipines, was mistaken for one of the band members of AQUA (of Barbie Girl fame) and proceeded to sign autographs and get free lodging.
It's funny that you mention people's reactions ALEXNEVERMIND319. People would look at me weird if I took a John's fork or spoon to taste food while we were out. Also, if I kissed him on the lips or drank from his drink. Hello. People still need to be educated. John was incredible. He died 4 years ago. M MyeternalgrattitudetoPhil&Val.Herman said "We want sweaty truckers at the truck stop! We want cigar puffing men that look like they wanna beat the living daylights out of us" Val"sporking is spooning with benefits" | |
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But, I wanted to share this. My mother worked at a hospital for many
many years.. Her favorite patients were those infected with AIDS.. She loved them, she laughed with them. She bathed them, fed them, and comforted them, hugged them, prayed with them. To this day those that are still surviving send her postcards, Christmas cards.. It is so heartwarming to see my Mom step aside and give so much to another Human being... Thank you Mom.
Alex I wish my mom would have taken care of your friend.. She never feared them. ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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My Uncle was the coolest man on the planet man could make bad hair look good im tellin ya, hell of a hairstylist with a brilliant sense of humor i remember the day he actually saw me at a pride parade and he hugged me and said "im glad you're here" i miss him he was just awesome fortunately my middle name is his 1st and he was named after his father so i have that.
my Best friend Rose was well my mom's friend i met her when she was merely 19 and i was about 6 or 7 she was tall 5'11 long beautiful hair and a wit that could blow your mind. she taught me alot about life and what to stay away from and who to stay away from and how to step lively on the street.sadly the things she taught me to stay away from she did,she got into Heroin and shared needles and is how she caught the disease. in my heart she is still the most influential person in my life and she's missed everyday. | |
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sag10 said: But, I wanted to share this. My mother worked at a hospital for many
many years.. Her favorite patients were those infected with AIDS.. She loved them, she laughed with them. She bathed them, fed them, and comforted them, hugged them, prayed with them. To this day those that are still surviving send her postcards, Christmas cards.. It is so heartwarming to see my Mom step aside and give so much to another Human being... Thank you Mom.
Alex I wish my mom would have taken care of your friend.. She never feared them. Tnx | |
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alexnevermind319 said: I have spent the last month dealing with 2 crisis'. The 1st being my mothers diagnosis with breast cancer, the 2nd being one of my dearest friends getting pnuemonia 2 weeks ago. He has been positive since '87 and lived a full life. The thing that bothers me most about this, is the reaction that most everyone around him has had to his current health issues. I went to visit him last Tuesday, and he said that none of his other friends or co-workers would enter the room to see him. They would come to the door, say hi & hope u get well, and leave. This disheartend me to the point of tears. I can't believe that in 2005 we still have such small minded people who believe that being in the same room with someone who has full blow AIDS is a lethal sentence. I had to sit with him for a couple of hours to just sit with him, I told him that in a small minded place **London, KY** they were not able to deal with this disease. I sat and rubbed his feet because he said they were hurting him. This brought tears to his eyes, he said that aside from the nurses who come in to bathe him, no one had touched him since he was put in the hospital. I just couldn't believe it. omfg He told me that he wants to die, he doesn't want to sit and suffer for months to come without breathing. sad I just didn't know what to say. I mean, is it my place to tell him that he has to live knowing that quality of life that he is looking at? As I left the hospital room, I kissed him on his forehead and told him that I would see him at the Christmas party. Lets just pray that he makes it until then.
double post edit I can't believe that. 
I wish I could give him a big hug right now. Tell him there's at least one person sending him long-distance "hugs." The Normal Whores Club | |
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sag10 said: But, I wanted to share this. My mother worked at a hospital for many
many years.. Her favorite patients were those infected with AIDS.. She loved them, she laughed with them. She bathed them, fed them, and comforted them, hugged them, prayed with them. To this day those that are still surviving send her postcards, Christmas cards.. It is so heartwarming to see my Mom step aside and give so much to another Human being... Thank you Mom.
Alex I wish my mom would have taken care of your friend.. She never feared them. Sag, it's people like your mom (and you for that matter!) who give me hope for humankind.  The Normal Whores Club | |
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MIGUELGOMEZ said: My friend John O was soooo full of life. He was hilarious!! He spoke around 5 languages, loved to travel and cook. He once went to the Phillipines, was mistaken for one of the band members of AQUA (of Barbie Girl fame) and proceeded to sign autographs and get free lodging.
It's funny that you mention people's reactions ALEXNEVERMIND319. People would look at me weird if I took a John's fork or spoon to taste food while we were out. Also, if I kissed him on the lips or drank from his drink. Hello. People still need to be educated. John was incredible. He died 4 years ago. M 
aqua... Power tends to corrupt; absolute power corrupts absolutely. - Lord Acton | |
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sag10 said: But, I wanted to share this. My mother worked at a hospital for many
many years.. Her favorite patients were those infected with AIDS.. She loved them, she laughed with them. She bathed them, fed them, and comforted them, hugged them, prayed with them. To this day those that are still surviving send her postcards, Christmas cards.. It is so heartwarming to see my Mom step aside and give so much to another Human being... Thank you Mom.
Alex I wish my mom would have taken care of your friend.. She never feared them.
god bless your mother and those she cared for Power tends to corrupt; absolute power corrupts absolutely. - Lord Acton | |
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TheRealFiness said: My Uncle was the coolest man on the planet man could make bad hair look good im tellin ya, hell of a hairstylist with a brilliant sense of humor i remember the day he actually saw me at a pride parade and he hugged me and said "im glad you're here" i miss him he was just awesome fortunately my middle name is his 1st and he was named after his father so i have that.
my Best friend Rose was well my mom's friend i met her when she was merely 19 and i was about 6 or 7 she was tall 5'11 long beautiful hair and a wit that could blow your mind. she taught me alot about life and what to stay away from and who to stay away from and how to step lively on the street.sadly the things she taught me to stay away from she did,she got into Heroin and shared needles and is how she caught the disease. in my heart she is still the most influential person in my life and she's missed everyday. Power tends to corrupt; absolute power corrupts absolutely. - Lord Acton | |
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FunkMistress said: alexnevermind319 said: I have spent the last month dealing with 2 crisis'. The 1st being my mothers diagnosis with breast cancer, the 2nd being one of my dearest friends getting pnuemonia 2 weeks ago. He has been positive since '87 and lived a full life. The thing that bothers me most about this, is the reaction that most everyone around him has had to his current health issues. I went to visit him last Tuesday, and he said that none of his other friends or co-workers would enter the room to see him. They would come to the door, say hi & hope u get well, and leave. This disheartend me to the point of tears. I can't believe that in 2005 we still have such small minded people who believe that being in the same room with someone who has full blow AIDS is a lethal sentence. I had to sit with him for a couple of hours to just sit with him, I told him that in a small minded place **London, KY** they were not able to deal with this disease. I sat and rubbed his feet because he said they were hurting him. This brought tears to his eyes, he said that aside from the nurses who come in to bathe him, no one had touched him since he was put in the hospital. I just couldn't believe it. omfg He told me that he wants to die, he doesn't want to sit and suffer for months to come without breathing. sad I just didn't know what to say. I mean, is it my place to tell him that he has to live knowing that quality of life that he is looking at? As I left the hospital room, I kissed him on his forehead and told him that I would see him at the Christmas party. Lets just pray that he makes it until then.
double post edit I can't believe that.
I wish I could give him a big hug right now. Tell him there's at least one person sending him long-distance "hugs." a lot more than just one, trust... Power tends to corrupt; absolute power corrupts absolutely. - Lord Acton | |
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i'm not going to say much.
my uncle, Delroy Douglas, passed on a few years ago from aids. and i miss him dearly...i really do... ...i love you uncle. | |
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This thread is putting tears in my eyes and goosebumps up my arms and back. The Normal Whores Club | |
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to my clients and friends I've lost....God Bless...
and also to those living everyday with this virus....fight the good fight.. | |
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FunkMistress said: This thread is putting tears in my eyes and goosebumps up my arms and back.
cosign...there just no words that cover everything to be conveyed  [Edited 12/1/05 10:43am] | |
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i think i can speak for everyone on who we have lost due to this terrible disease when i say we miss you and we will always honor you in our hearts and minds and to those who are still living with the disease, you must keep going so there can be hope for future generations as we still hope for a cure. | |
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SammiJ said: i'm not going to say much.
my uncle, Delroy Douglas, passed on a few years ago from aids. and i miss him dearly...i really do... ...i love you uncle. Power tends to corrupt; absolute power corrupts absolutely. - Lord Acton | |
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FunkMistress said: This thread is putting tears in my eyes and goosebumps up my arms and back.
me too. it's lovely to see people reacting and remembering Power tends to corrupt; absolute power corrupts absolutely. - Lord Acton | |
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Rhondab said: to my clients and friends I've lost....God Bless...
and also to those living everyday with this virus....fight the good fight..
you should start a thread that allows people to ask questions they have always wanted to ask but were afraid to, your expertise could be put to excellent use today Power tends to corrupt; absolute power corrupts absolutely. - Lord Acton | |
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FunkMistress said: alexnevermind319 said: I have spent the last month dealing with 2 crisis'. The 1st being my mothers diagnosis with breast cancer, the 2nd being one of my dearest friends getting pnuemonia 2 weeks ago. He has been positive since '87 and lived a full life. The thing that bothers me most about this, is the reaction that most everyone around him has had to his current health issues. I went to visit him last Tuesday, and he said that none of his other friends or co-workers would enter the room to see him. They would come to the door, say hi & hope u get well, and leave. This disheartend me to the point of tears. I can't believe that in 2005 we still have such small minded people who believe that being in the same room with someone who has full blow AIDS is a lethal sentence. I had to sit with him for a couple of hours to just sit with him, I told him that in a small minded place **London, KY** they were not able to deal with this disease. I sat and rubbed his feet because he said they were hurting him. This brought tears to his eyes, he said that aside from the nurses who come in to bathe him, no one had touched him since he was put in the hospital. I just couldn't believe it. omfg He told me that he wants to die, he doesn't want to sit and suffer for months to come without breathing. sad I just didn't know what to say. I mean, is it my place to tell him that he has to live knowing that quality of life that he is looking at? As I left the hospital room, I kissed him on his forehead and told him that I would see him at the Christmas party. Lets just pray that he makes it until then.
double post edit I can't believe that.
I wish I could give him a big hug right now. Tell him there's at least one person sending him long-distance "hugs." Same here...I'm all teary just even thinking about it... Fortunately, all of the people I know who have HIV are living full and healthy lives at the moment...but to all of you who have lost loved ones...I know that the disease took something very important and beautiful from your lives...but...be proud...proud of yourselves for learning what you needed to know to keep loving those who meant so much to you, but fell victim to this epidemic...feel proud...that just by living their lives...your loved ones were helping to educate others and dispell myths that cause fear and hatred...THEY DID AND YOU ARE making a difference in this world... 
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Travela said: FunkMistress said: This thread is putting tears in my eyes and goosebumps up my arms and back.
cosign...there just no words that cover everything to be conveyed
[Edited 12/1/05 10:43am]  Power tends to corrupt; absolute power corrupts absolutely. - Lord Acton | |
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TheRealFiness said: i think i can speak for everyone on who we have lost due to this terrible disease when i say we miss you and we will always honor you in our hearts and minds and to those who are still living with the disease, you must keep going so there can be hope for future generations as we still hope for a cure.
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applekisses said: FunkMistress said: I can't believe that.
I wish I could give him a big hug right now. Tell him there's at least one person sending him long-distance "hugs." Same here...I'm all teary just even thinking about it... Fortunately, all of the people I know who have HIV are living full and healthy lives at the moment...but to all of you who have lost loved ones...I know that the disease took something very important and beautiful from your lives...but...be proud...proud of yourselves for learning what you needed to know to keep loving those who meant so much to you, but fell victim to this epidemic...feel proud...that just by living their lives...your loved ones were helping to educate others and dispell myths that cause fear and hatred...THEY DID AND YOU ARE making a difference in this world...
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cborgman said: Travela said: cosign...there just no words that cover everything to be conveyed
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now my eyes are tearin up'... dayum | |
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TheRealFiness said: now my eyes are tearin up'... dayum
let it go 'ness it's natural to react to these things | |
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applekisses said: FunkMistress said: I can't believe that.
I wish I could give him a big hug right now. Tell him there's at least one person sending him long-distance "hugs." Same here...I'm all teary just even thinking about it... Fortunately, all of the people I know who have HIV are living full and healthy lives at the moment...but to all of you who have lost loved ones...I know that the disease took something very important and beautiful from your lives...but...be proud...proud of yourselves for learning what you needed to know to keep loving those who meant so much to you, but fell victim to this epidemic...feel proud...that just by living their lives...your loved ones were helping to educate others and dispell myths that cause fear and hatred...THEY DID AND YOU ARE making a difference in this world...
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