when people get on your last nerves do you automatically blow up, or do you try to get away from to calm down, and when they hit that nerve again, you blow up?

do you take things out on other people when you are at the highest of pisstivity???

do you hold things inside?

tell me your thoughts.

me, i think i do have a temper. I tend to say things that i shouldn't say while angry, and it really helps when I take the time to calm down and think things through. I also have a tendency to take things out on other people...that is only if they try to push me to tell them what's wrong with me when i don't really want to talk about it. I am trying very hard to change this negative aspect about myself, although in the heat of the moment, it is hard to do.

missfee said:

oh damn sorry, this is in the wrong forum, i mean't to put this in the general discussion forum, can someone please move this for me please??? Thanks.

I think I'm pretty passive-aggressive because I don't want to say the wrong thing when I'm upset, so I just say nothing and try to collect my thoughts. But if it comes to a point where I can't hold it in, I can just go freakin' mental!




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Despite what friends and family think, I do have a temper.

The thing is: I don't explode; I slowly ooze lava... which is probably ultimately worse both for me and the target.

i usually try to tell the person, why they're upsetting me. as i would expect the same from them. it usually takes a lot for me to blow up. everyone has a temper; just some people have shorter fuses.

i say, tell them what's upsetting you, and then walk away from the situation before it escalates into something worse. i do find that most people don't want to talk about things and just assume they're always right. then they do their damnedest to ignore you. which pretty much tells you what kind of person they are. if they don't take the time to listen or help resolve the situation, they just may not be worth your time.

we've all at one time or another taken things out on people. but acknowledging it and apologizing i think would be the best thing to do.

Lammastide said:

CHIC0 said:

that's true, it would be weird if I didn't have a temper at all. I have been told that I have "the patience of Job".

CinisterCee said:

watch your tone!

I have a lot a patience, and when I was younger had none. I am much better than I used to be, but I would have to say that I have a bad temper sometimes.

I realize I would rather just not BOTHER with ASSHOLES. I LEAVE the SITUATION and NEVER TALK to Them AGAIN. FIGHTING is FOR LOSERS.If I AM UNHAPPY IN A RELATIONSHIP..I MOVE ON.... I am NOT into STRESSING to MAKE IT WORK. Some people JUST DON"T CLICK...Ya MOVE ON.
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sometimes I am the most tolerant person on the planet, but when I get angy I seethe, which is not great. It takes me ages to go over something in my mind to work out what is making me so angry - my husband always wants to talk it out immediately, but I can't form the words when I am that heated up.

I used to have a temper.

Now I hold it in
& unload on the Org.


....fuckers.

Illustrator said:

sometimes I wish I had a bit more of a temper.....

CHIC0 said:

*staying calm... staying calm..

I used to cuss people out when they made me mad until I realized that they wanted to see me mad. I just ignore ignorant people now. However, if someone really pisses me off, I still ignore them but I scheme on them behind their back. I grew up admiring the "bitches" on the night-time soaps like Alexis, Abbey, and J.R. (the male bitch) so I got pretty good at it. One reason I loved Prince so much is because he's a "bitch".

When I'm friends with someone, I can be the best friend in the world, even when we're mad. But...if you're my enemy....look out.
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vainandy said:

I don't sweat the small stuff, and almost everything is small stuff.

missfee said:

It usually takes a lot to get on my last nerve... but once I'm there I can get very angry especially if a loved one is being attacked or anything I spark right up

I hate to admit it but yes I do . And always feel very stupid after losing my cool but really Im just a pussy cat

I don't lose my cool. I am passive agressive. My anger comes out in other ways. Quiet ways.

i have permanent road rage, even when i'm not driving i have little to no tolerance for bullshit, and will let you know that. i'm pretty sure it comes from working with the public, because i wan't this way before i started working retail. instead of giving people the benefit of the doubt, i automatically assume they are assholes and pricks until proven otherwise. funny thing is, the people i get along with are people who are just like me

an old friend of mine from way back used to call me "Finess da Hothead" cus maaaaan, i was evil and would just blow up as i got older i guess i mellowed out,cus im pretty mild than how i used to be.

believe it or not, i have my father's temper and my mother's way with words...when i was younger i'd always talk back and get argumentative with grown folks and i'd get angry real quick, but since then i've mellowed out a lot and i've taught myself to try and be patient. i don't like to show my temper, cuz when i do it's a mutha.

whenever i do get angry i try to show it with humor, instead of just cussing folks out.

not at all. I am calm, cool, and collected.

jerseykrs said:

and u a lyin ass wap too

TheRealFiness said:

LOL, I nearly got into a fight this weekend.....

jerseykrs said:

lol stupid bastid what for now?

TheRealFiness said:

LMFAO, stupid fucker spilled my drink and didn't even say sorry!!

jerseykrs said:

well thats automatic violation, he deserved an ass beatin'