OR DO you end it and NEVER LOOK BACK?

Zelaira said:

I try to talk to them, but they understand bitch-slaps better.....

yeah...I do....


I'm actually still cool with every man I've ever dated. Normally, after a break up, there's some distance but for some reason, I regain contact with them and there's no ugly vibe. You just move on and don't revisit the drama.

I just got off the phone with my ex who I dated for 6 years, 6 years of hell but we're cool.

I think it depends on the circumstances of the break up. In general, and at least at first, it's good to keep your distance. For both people.

No. When it's over I move on.

Spats said:

That is so surprising given your attitude

Yep!

Isn't that nice.

I talk to them...mostly lol

What in the hell would i talk to them about????

When I was younger, when a relationship ended that was it. I not only didn't talk to them, I erased all essence of them from my life. Got rid of gifts they gave me, pictures taken of or with him, EVERYTHING.

Then I got married. If (God forbid) my husband and I split, I would not "erase" him as we have kids together.

Some of them are still nice to talk to when I see them. Others just look at me with a mean look.

I only still regularly talk to one. The most recent ex. I dated him three years ago for three months and holy shit if they were the most three intense months of my life! I was around on the org when all that shit was happening - ya'll probably remember it. It ended for the better and now we are very close friends. We were never very good together, anyway.

All my ex's still talk to me
...via restraining orders.

I've done both. I've learned that you must NEVER!!!! There's a reason why you left that old bull shhhhh!!!!!

All my exe's are my friends to this date. One is in Ohio, one in L.A., one in San Francisco. We still keep in touch. They usually all get mad because I end up getting along better with their current boyfriends. Sometimes I talk to them more than my actual ex.


M

no.

i actually tried to communicate with a two of them at one point in recent years, just to say basically 'hi, i hope you're doing well, and i just wanted to let you know you were a huge, very important part of my life for a long time and i think of you with fondness now, and i wish we could at least exchange emails once in blue moon just to know how each other is doing in life" but neither of them were receptive to that, so oh well.

however, i don't think i'd try such a gesture again after being shot down twice. if one of my exs wanted to get in touch and communicate every now and then, i'd be open to that because, at my age and point in life, i only remember those people with mostly fondness and gratefulness for having known them (despite the bad times and/or shit we went through) and it'd be nice to know all bad feelings were resolved and put to rest. also, for me, i feel that i cared greatly for these people at one point...it's weird to me to feel so strongly for someone and then one day erase them from my heart and mind and NOT care what happens to them anymore.

Well, it's a short list of ex-girlfriends. Only one do I speak with ... and that's infrequently.

I'm often in awe of folks who can remain friends with their exes. That hasn't been my experience.

It depends on what terms we left on.
I talk to some, but not all.

When it was over, I moved on. I never had any interest in trying to maintain any sort of friendship. There wasn't necessarily any animosity. I just wasn't interested. There is one very old flame from way back that I still have contact with. It turns out he's a wonderful friend, but we absolutely sucked as a couple. I've been married for nearly 16 years to the right guy for me.

Other than the one old friend, I have never had any desire for contact with any other old flame.

Rhondab said:

Same here One of them still owes me dinner I'll hit a movie w/ another @ some point. We cooooo...

Spats said:

I know, right? It's not like you talked w/ them when you were together anyway

I have a pretty good friendship with my first. The second...well, being that she was the reason that I felt life had no more meaning and left me in shambles, I haven't talked to her since and I hope I never do.

yes I'm friends with all of them - it's nice, they're very protective of me and I usually feel very special when I'm with any of them.

No that is why they are my EX'S

I would be, but I don't know where any of them live any more

charlottegelin said:

Maybe your husband...disposed...of them.

TMPletz said: