what do you do when all of a sudden those 5 hour telephone conversations turn into uncomfortable silence?

What do you do when all of a sudden the places and events that were fun, are not stale and continuous with no excitement?

how do you handle your relationship with your wife/husband bf/gf when you past the "honeymoon stage"?

YOU have to do something if it is worth it to you... stagnate water always takes on a horrid decay. It is sooooo hard to reach withen ourselves and do this. So many supposed reasons come into play...

*He/She should do it why should I?


I think fear is what really is in play.. That and or discomfort. It is a real odd feeling when we realize we have to reach outside of ourselves and create excitment.

Think of this: You can do it with this one or the next one but it will come. Every relationship needs a shot in the arm once in awhile.

join your local library

tapdance!

charlottegelin said:

Why hello charlotte....charlotte...charlotte!!

I fake a suicide, but that's just me.

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

switch things up!

surprise dinners...cute notes...romantic evenings...surprise visits at work.
get kinky in unexpected places or times.

it's work. both parties must commit to making it fun/exciting again. do something together you both have never done. make new experiences for one another. talk about it...don't sit and wonder why its not, have a nice dinner and tell/ask eachother about your feelings. sounds like your relationship just needs an energy boost. and i think most importantly, never forget why exactly you married one another, and enhance those characteristics.

CHIC0 said:

your two cents are pretty dang good

Imago777 said:

stop it!
I'm never going to join your evil chats. All ninesy wants to do is hang it on my accent, I KNOW it

missfee said:

I just change my avatar and BAM! I'm good to go.

bluesbaby said:

thank u

Make Several LUNCH TIME visits to the person with HOMEMADE LUNCH and a QUICKY in THE LADIES ROOM... FOOd and SEX....

Re: 'what do you do when your relationship starts to get boring?'

at that stage you learn to say 'i'm sorry'
whatbout the new,...you can always find someplace new to do something new
you socialise and be happy
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you spice up ur sex life

SWING!!!

missfee said:

thats hard 2 answer but if u can make it thru this stage you guys will be ok

I end it and move on to look for new experiences. It's happened before. Life is too short to waste it in a boring relationship.

missfee said:

Save the money on phonebills for acquiring something useful. Like bookshelves and kitchen utensils.



Go to Amsterdam.



One word: lingerie


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have a car wreck and be gone from home for 3 weeks ...


J/K

missfee said:

THE DOCTOR IS IN!!!!!

Well do other things like go to plays, concerts, have kinky sex like record yourself and partner doing it, go out of town every otehr weekend or plan ahead like 2 months in advance to keep something good you both can look forward too. My last dumb boyfriend didn't like or even tried the things like NFL FOOTBALL, Riverdance, concerts like Donna Summer, Bowling, eating crab legs, gambling and traveling with me t oevery amusement park in country and cities like Vegas and Los Angeles. But he loved it in the end though!! Surprise your lover and Iguarantee you , your relatonship will never be boring. Just don't be stupid like me and cheat and beat him up cause of your stupidness.
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Leave.

i make her dress up like a clown nad pee in her oatmeal when she isint looking

At the begining of a relationship, things are easy, you wanna let that person know just how you feel, enjoy hearing about how they feel about you. You do things together because really thats all you want, to be with each other, around the one you care about. Life is in the background as your love is clearly in the foreground.
As time goes on, and life gets more routine, the life part takes over. There is washing to do, groceries to buy, cars to get repaired etc etc. Then you get the days where you haven't told each other you even care, maybe not even said you love each other. Routine sets in, and roles become established, which all works to separate you from your partner, drag you apart. Sometimes this leads to a feeling of taking each other for granted. You can end up withdrawn within yourselves.
I think talking is the first move, which can sometimes be the hardest. Reinforce the sense of worth in your partner, the sense of need, and help each other realise just how much you care. Make a big point of the conversation, go out for a meal, maybe make it a surprise too. Make very sure that you talk and do not argue, don't keep on about the scores you may have in your minds.
Be around each other and talk about what you like to do. People grow and things change, keeping pace with this is sometimes hard. Make a night where you leave everything alone, things can wait till tomorrow, it will still be there Hold one another and say you love them.
Hopefully then, when you do try new things, some of those sparks relight.
A surprise is good idea, and a weekend away can do wonders.....

GalaxyMasturbation said:

I agree. try it in the wrong 'un.

Go away for the WEEKEND Make LOVE ON THE BEACH....Sleep UNDERNEATH the STARS....

Those are bandaid solutions. If boredom has set in it's time to move on.