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PrintableConRoz said: In one word: leave!
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TypoMarx said: ConRoz said: In one word: leave!
If it's a marriage? If it's already 6 months going on, after that,,,,, leave (only marriage). It's hard 2 resolving boring problems (believe me)!  | |
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ConRoz said: TypoMarx said: If it's a marriage? If it's already 6 months going on, after that,,,,, leave (only marriage). It's hard 2 resolving boring problems (believe me)! Excellent. Remind me not to marry you, lest our relationship requires a little work.  | |
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TypoMarx said: ConRoz said: If it's already 6 months going on, after that,,,,, leave (only marriage). It's hard 2 resolving boring problems (believe me)! Excellent. Remind me not to marry you, lest our relationship requires a little work. Ha,ha! in 6 months you can do a lot, mostly it doesn't work! | |
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ConRoz said: TypoMarx said: Excellent. Remind me not to marry you, lest our relationship requires a little work. Ha,ha! in 6 months you can do a lot, mostly it doesn't work! Pffffft. Quitter.  | |
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TypoMarx said: ConRoz said: Ha,ha! in 6 months you can do a lot, mostly it doesn't work! Pffffft. Quitter. Never! ha,ha! 2 strong! and because all my experience of marriage, relationships, its more fun 2 be single! really! never get bored again!  | |
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How many people are staying for years in a bored marriage/relationship together? Many, most of them are staying together because they are use 2 it 2 see each other day in day out for years and because of the money or kids! And mostly one get bored and is sneeky around with another one. What's better then? I think single or a free relationship, not living together, maybe 10% of the 100% relationships are oke, but these partners are mostly in a free relationship. [Edited 11/15/05 6:28am] | |
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TypoMarx said: By the way, I like your desktops.
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ConRoz said: How many people are staying for years in a bored marriage/relationship together? Many, most of them are staying together because they are use 2 it 2 see each other day in day out for years and because of the money or kids! And mostly one get bored and is sneeky around with another one. What's better then? I think single or a free relationhip, not living together, maybe 10% of the 100% of relationships are oke, but these partners are mostly in a free relationship.
It's called commitment. You just have to respect promises you made and do the most you can to make it work. If it's not perfect who are you going to blame? Nobody forces you to enter a marriage, you do it of your own volition. Call me old-fashioned but to me when you say you're going to love someone and take care of them for life, that's what you do, and if at times that means sacrificing your own happiness, so be it. You've got to take some responsibility for the relationship. Happiness is largely a whimsical thing, but a marriage is a commitment for life. Happiness is definitely hopefully part of it, but you know there will be good and bad times and in my opinion keeping the respect you have for the marriage and the commitment to it no matter what is what ultimately leads to a successful, long-lasting relationship. I dunno, maybe I should leave my wife because she goes out partying all the time without me and is addicted to the party life. Maybe I'd be happier doing speed dating or something? But where would that leave my wife? That'd hardly be taking care of her for the rest of her life. I can't live with that lie. | |
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TypoMarx said: ConRoz said: How many people are staying for years in a bored marriage/relationship together? Many, most of them are staying together because they are use 2 it 2 see each other day in day out for years and because of the money or kids! And mostly one get bored and is sneeky around with another one. What's better then? I think single or a free relationhip, not living together, maybe 10% of the 100% of relationships are oke, but these partners are mostly in a free relationship.
It's called commitment. You just have to respect promises you made and do the most you can to make it work. If it's not perfect who are you going to blame? Nobody forces you to enter a marriage, you do it of your own volition. Call me old-fashioned but to me when you say you're going to love someone and take care of them for life, that's what you do, and if at times that means sacrificing your own happiness, so be it. You've got to take some responsibility for the relationship. Happiness is largely a whimsical thing, but a marriage is a commitment for life. Happiness is definitely hopefully part of it, but you know there will be good and bad times and in my opinion keeping the respect you have for the marriage and the commitment to it no matter what is what ultimately leads to a successful, long-lasting relationship. I dunno, maybe I should leave my wife because she goes out partying all the time without me and is addicted to the party life. Maybe I'd be happier doing speed dating or something? But where would that leave my wife? That'd hardly be taking care of her for the rest of her life. I can't live with that lie.  compared to domestic violence, substance abuse or cheating, boredom seems pretty easily fixed. putting in the work it takes to make a marriage work is part of the deal. | |
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TypoMarx said: ConRoz said: How many people are staying for years in a bored marriage/relationship together? Many, most of them are staying together because they are use 2 it 2 see each other day in day out for years and because of the money or kids! And mostly one get bored and is sneeky around with another one. What's better then? I think single or a free relationhip, not living together, maybe 10% of the 100% of relationships are oke, but these partners are mostly in a free relationship.
It's called commitment. You just have to respect promises you made and do the most you can to make it work. If it's not perfect who are you going to blame? Nobody forces you to enter a marriage, you do it of your own volition. Call me old-fashioned but to me when you say you're going to love someone and take care of them for life, that's what you do, and if at times that means sacrificing your own happiness, so be it. You've got to take some responsibility for the relationship. Happiness is largely a whimsical thing, but a marriage is a commitment for life. Happiness is definitely hopefully part of it, but you know there will be good and bad times and in my opinion keeping the respect you have for the marriage and the commitment to it no matter what is what ultimately leads to a successful, long-lasting relationship. I dunno, maybe I should leave my wife because she goes out partying all the time without me and is addicted to the party life. Maybe I'd be happier doing speed dating or something? But where would that leave my wife? That'd hardly be taking care of her for the rest of her life. I can't live with that lie.  |
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TypoMarx said: ConRoz said: How many people are staying for years in a bored marriage/relationship together? Many, most of them are staying together because they are use 2 it 2 see each other day in day out for years and because of the money or kids! And mostly one get bored and is sneeky around with another one. What's better then? I think single or a free relationhip, not living together, maybe 10% of the 100% of relationships are oke, but these partners are mostly in a free relationship.
It's called commitment. You just have to respect promises you made and do the most you can to make it work. If it's not perfect who are you going to blame? Nobody forces you to enter a marriage, you do it of your own volition. Call me old-fashioned but to me when you say you're going to love someone and take care of them for life, that's what you do, and if at times that means sacrificing your own happiness, so be it. You've got to take some responsibility for the relationship. Happiness is largely a whimsical thing, but a marriage is a commitment for life. Happiness is definitely hopefully part of it, but you know there will be good and bad times and in my opinion keeping the respect you have for the marriage and the commitment to it no matter what is what ultimately leads to a successful, long-lasting relationship. I dunno, maybe I should leave my wife because she goes out partying all the time without me and is addicted to the party life. Maybe I'd be happier doing speed dating or something? But where would that leave my wife? That'd hardly be taking care of her for the rest of her life. I can't live with that lie. pfff, I think I'm in a deep discussion here! (my English isn't oke but I will try) 
Ofcourse you take responsibility if you are in a relationship, but if it's stared boring, something is wrong, and not a little! believe me! For the second time, mostly is one sneeky around if it takes 2 long, I saw 2 many bad things around me from friends etc. in my life. I think the best relationships are free or if you are over the 50 years, when everybody is calm down a bit, you take a relationship. I'm not pointing here or something, thats how I see the things in life, and I'm happy with it, everybody must search happy things in relationships or if you are single, whatever
Make your life happy & fun, in all the things you do, or it is sadness or happines, you do it by your self! you are choosing the people around you in your life. [Edited 11/15/05 6:44am] | |
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TypoMarx said: ConRoz said: How many people are staying for years in a bored marriage/relationship together? Many, most of them are staying together because they are use 2 it 2 see each other day in day out for years and because of the money or kids! And mostly one get bored and is sneeky around with another one. What's better then? I think single or a free relationhip, not living together, maybe 10% of the 100% of relationships are oke, but these partners are mostly in a free relationship.
It's called commitment. You just have to respect promises you made and do the most you can to make it work. If it's not perfect who are you going to blame? Nobody forces you to enter a marriage, you do it of your own volition. Call me old-fashioned but to me when you say you're going to love someone and take care of them for life, that's what you do, and if at times that means sacrificing your own happiness, so be it. You've got to take some responsibility for the relationship. Happiness is largely a whimsical thing, but a marriage is a commitment for life. Happiness is definitely hopefully part of it, but you know there will be good and bad times and in my opinion keeping the respect you have for the marriage and the commitment to it no matter what is what ultimately leads to a successful, long-lasting relationship. I dunno, maybe I should leave my wife because she goes out partying all the time without me and is addicted to the party life. Maybe I'd be happier doing speed dating or something? But where would that leave my wife? That'd hardly be taking care of her for the rest of her life. I can't live with that lie. THIS IS BULLSHIT! and when I get more time to read it, I'm gonna prove it to you guys! | |
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TypoMarx said: ConRoz said: How many people are staying for years in a bored marriage/relationship together? Many, most of them are staying together because they are use 2 it 2 see each other day in day out for years and because of the money or kids! And mostly one get bored and is sneeky around with another one. What's better then? I think single or a free relationhip, not living together, maybe 10% of the 100% of relationships are oke, but these partners are mostly in a free relationship.
It's called commitment. You just have to respect promises you made and do the most you can to make it work. If it's not perfect who are you going to blame? Nobody forces you to enter a marriage, you do it of your own volition. Call me old-fashioned but to me when you say you're going to love someone and take care of them for life, that's what you do, and if at times that means sacrificing your own happiness, so be it. You've got to take some responsibility for the relationship. Happiness is largely a whimsical thing, but a marriage is a commitment for life. Happiness is definitely hopefully part of it, but you know there will be good and bad times and in my opinion keeping the respect you have for the marriage and the commitment to it no matter what is what ultimately leads to a successful, long-lasting relationship. I dunno, maybe I should leave my wife because she goes out partying all the time without me and is addicted to the party life. Maybe I'd be happier doing speed dating or something? But where would that leave my wife? That'd hardly be taking care of her for the rest of her life. I can't live with that lie. Interesting. I'm really somewhere in between these two quite extreme opinions. I definitely believe in making a real and long-lasting effort to make things work, but at the same time I don't think keeping a marriage should be a goal in and of itself. If the love is gone, or the respect is lost, or the routines have completetely taken over everything else, then it might well be time to split up. | |
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Imago777 said: TypoMarx said: It's called commitment. You just have to respect promises you made and do the most you can to make it work. If it's not perfect who are you going to blame? Nobody forces you to enter a marriage, you do it of your own volition. Call me old-fashioned but to me when you say you're going to love someone and take care of them for life, that's what you do, and if at times that means sacrificing your own happiness, so be it. You've got to take some responsibility for the relationship. Happiness is largely a whimsical thing, but a marriage is a commitment for life. Happiness is definitely hopefully part of it, but you know there will be good and bad times and in my opinion keeping the respect you have for the marriage and the commitment to it no matter what is what ultimately leads to a successful, long-lasting relationship. I dunno, maybe I should leave my wife because she goes out partying all the time without me and is addicted to the party life. Maybe I'd be happier doing speed dating or something? But where would that leave my wife? That'd hardly be taking care of her for the rest of her life. I can't live with that lie. THIS IS BULLSHIT! and when I get more time to read it, I'm gonna prove it to you guys!  | |
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TypoMarx said: ConRoz said: How many people are staying for years in a bored marriage/relationship together? Many, most of them are staying together because they are use 2 it 2 see each other day in day out for years and because of the money or kids! And mostly one get bored and is sneeky around with another one. What's better then? I think single or a free relationhip, not living together, maybe 10% of the 100% of relationships are oke, but these partners are mostly in a free relationship.
and if at times that means sacrificing your own happiness, so be it. Thats not good, sacrificing your own happiness! also think about yourself, your own life. Your own hobby's, your friends etc. very important! | |
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ConRoz said: TypoMarx said: and if at times that means sacrificing your own happiness, so be it. Thats not good, sacrificing your own happiness! also think about yourself, your own life. Your own hobby's, your friends etc. very important! All things which often serve as useful excuses rather than genuinely in jeopardy aspects of your life. In my opinion, to live your life with happiness as the primary aim is to live a life frustratingly unfulfilled and going around in circles. | |
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TypoMarx said: ConRoz said: Thats not good, sacrificing your own happiness! also think about yourself, your own life. Your own hobby's, your friends etc. very important! All things which often serve as useful excuses rather than genuinely in jeopardy aspects of your life. In my opinion, to live your life with happiness as the primary aim is to live a life frustratingly unfulfilled and going around in circles. No, if you are in a long bored relationship that's what I called: running in cirkels
You never will learn about a good life, you are 2 be going negative thinking everyday because you are bored every single day, no new things in your life is going on. But you will learn someday, or not [Edited 11/15/05 7:18am] | |
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ConRoz said: TypoMarx said: All things which often serve as useful excuses rather than genuinely in jeopardy aspects of your life. In my opinion, to live your life with happiness as the primary aim is to live a life frustratingly unfulfilled and going around in circles. No, if you are in a long bored relationship that's what I called: running in cirkels
You never will learn about a good life, you are 2 be going negative thinking everyday because you are bored every single day, no new things in your life is going on. But you will learn someday, or not
[Edited 11/15/05 7:18am] A patronising, personal response in lieu of a constructive one for the good of the thread. Considering this, I'm happy with the level of my learning, thank you. | |
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Fauxie said: ConRoz said: No, if you are in a long bored relationship that's what I called: running in cirkels
You never will learn about a good life, you are 2 be going negative thinking everyday because you are bored every single day, no new things in your life is going on. But you will learn someday, or not
[Edited 11/15/05 7:18am] A patronising, personal response in lieu of a constructive one for the good of the thread. Considering this, I'm happy with the level of my learning, thank you. Good! | |
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ConRoz said: Fauxie said: A patronising, personal response in lieu of a constructive one for the good of the thread. Considering this, I'm happy with the level of my learning, thank you. Good! Perhaps by the time I'm middle-aged I'll have seen the error of my ways and will be moving from one open short-lived relationship to the next and finally I'll know what true happiness is.
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Fauxie said: ConRoz said: Good! Perhaps by the time I'm middle-aged I'll have seen the error of my ways and will be moving from one open short-lived relationship to the next and finally I'll know what true happiness is.
... [Edited 11/15/05 7:34am] Maybe It's hard 2 have a good, beautiful relationship 2 keep for years, because we are growing and changing, we have new ideas, new taste etc. (most of the people) The other partner is standing still, and see that his/her partner is changing over the years, so one is started 2 bored, then its time 2 give your partner more freedom, let it go, thats the hardest part for partners, let it go, because they aren't use 2 it. Thats why a free relationship is perfect if you are young, your always changing. | |
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ConRoz said: TypoMarx said: All things which often serve as useful excuses rather than genuinely in jeopardy aspects of your life. In my opinion, to live your life with happiness as the primary aim is to live a life frustratingly unfulfilled and going around in circles. No, if you are in a long bored relationship that's what I called: running in cirkels
You never will learn about a good life, you are 2 be going negative thinking everyday because you are bored every single day, no new things in your life is going on. But you will learn someday, or not
[Edited 11/15/05 7:18am] Running away from boring problems in your life would not always lead to an understanding of what makes a good life. Whats to say you could not make the same mistake again. To understand what is boring about your relationship is more helpful. We do not get into relationships in the first place because they are boring. So somewhere, something or someone has changed, and this change has to be looked at. If things cannot be resolved, then leaving is probably the best option. 
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AdamB said: ConRoz said: No, if you are in a long bored relationship that's what I called: running in cirkels
You never will learn about a good life, you are 2 be going negative thinking everyday because you are bored every single day, no new things in your life is going on. But you will learn someday, or not
[Edited 11/15/05 7:18am] Running away from boring problems in your life would not always lead to an understanding of what makes a good life. Whats to say you could not make the same mistake again. To understand what is boring about your relationship is more helpful. We do not get into relationships in the first place because they are boring. So somewhere, something or someone has changed, and this change has to be looked at. If things cannot be resolved, then leaving is probably the best option.
Thats what I was explaining one reply before you
We are changing
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ConRoz said: AdamB said: Running away from boring problems in your life would not always lead to an understanding of what makes a good life. Whats to say you could not make the same mistake again. To understand what is boring about your relationship is more helpful. We do not get into relationships in the first place because they are boring. So somewhere, something or someone has changed, and this change has to be looked at. If things cannot be resolved, then leaving is probably the best option.
Thats what I was explaining one reply before you
We are changing
First you always try 2 resolve theproblems, not working..one option left, leave.  Just noticed that too
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"Love and take care of someone for life"???? Good freaking luck. No thank you. I am not taking care of anybody or promising to do ANYTHING for life. Don't be foolish enough to do something like that.
Some people here are stuck in the 50's. Marriage is not needed. There is nothing you can experience in marriage that you cannot experience in just a single relationhip. You married people are fooling yourself. You people are in love with the thought of marriage, the tradition, The wedding dress, the ceremony, blah, blah. Particularly women. When men are boys do they dream about getting married one day? hell No. | |
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AdamB said: ConRoz said: Thats what I was explaining one reply before you
We are changing
First you always try 2 resolve theproblems, not working..one option left, leave. Just noticed that too
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How's the open-relationship, dating scene at 50? Let's hope it's not boring and doesn't get tiresome. | |
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Spats said: "Love and take care of someone for life"???? Good freaking luck. No thank you. I am not taking care of anybody or promising to do ANYTHING for life. Don't be foolish enough to do something like that.
Some people here are stuck in the 50's. Marriage is not needed. There is nothing you can experience in marriage that you cannot experience in just a single relationhip. You married people are fooling yourself. You people are in love with the thought of marriage, the tradition, The wedding dress, the ceremony, blah, blah. Particularly women. When men are boys do they dream about getting married one day? hell No. Not only women | |
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