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PrintableIrresistibleB1tch said: if both partners grow as individuals and as part of a couple, there shouldn't be any reason for boredom.
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saintsation said: IrresistibleB1tch said: if both partners grow as individuals and as part of a couple, there shouldn't be any reason for boredom.
I agree with you 100 percent!!!!! Make that 3 of us!  VOTE....EARLY | |
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Put magic mushrooms in her salad.  | |
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That's all therapist talk. I guess there are not many people growing because the divorce rate is through the roof. | |
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Spats said: That's all therapist talk. I guess there are not many people growing because the divorce rate is through the roof.
i think one of the reasons couples get divorced is because one person is growing and the other is not, which could cause some resentment on either side. | |
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IrresistibleB1tch said: Spats said: That's all therapist talk. I guess there are not many people growing because the divorce rate is through the roof.
i think one of the reasons couples get divorced is because one person is growing and the other is not, which could cause some resentment on either side. Amen, you are on a roll today!!!!! | |
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saintsation said: IrresistibleB1tch said: i think one of the reasons couples get divorced is because one person is growing and the other is not, which could cause some resentment on either side. Amen, you are on a roll today!!!!! see?! 
now, about that Wal-Mart thing...  | |
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IrresistibleB1tch said: Spats said: That's all therapist talk. I guess there are not many people growing because the divorce rate is through the roof.
i think one of the reasons couples get divorced is because one person is growing and the other is not, which could cause some resentment on either side. ...or both might be growing in different directions. Sometimes it amazes me that people manage to stay together for decades. I want to believe that it can be done with all the happiness still intact, but the odds are definitely against you unless you actively try to evolve together. And even then it's bloody difficult. You have to have a profound common ground to stand on right from the beginning and then try to run with that, I guess. | |
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retina said: IrresistibleB1tch said: i think one of the reasons couples get divorced is because one person is growing and the other is not, which could cause some resentment on either side. ...or both might be growing in different directions. Sometimes it amazes me that people manage to stay together for decades. I want to believe that it can be done with all the happiness still intact, but the odds are definitely against you unless you actively try to evolve together. And even then it's bloody difficult. You have to have a profound common ground to stand on right from the beginning and then try to run with that, I guess. that or a solid respect for the other person's change, even if it is along different lines from you. | |
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DiminutiveRocker said: saintsation said: I agree with you 100 percent!!!!! Make that 3 of us! 4! Well, lucky-lucky us. Lucky-lucky-luck.
Luck-luck-LAKK-LAKK-LAKK-LAKK-cluck-cluck-cluck-cluck-cluck-LAKK-LAKK-LAKK. | |
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IrresistibleB1tch said: retina said: ...or both might be growing in different directions. Sometimes it amazes me that people manage to stay together for decades. I want to believe that it can be done with all the happiness still intact, but the odds are definitely against you unless you actively try to evolve together. And even then it's bloody difficult. You have to have a profound common ground to stand on right from the beginning and then try to run with that, I guess. that or a solid respect for the other person's change, even if it is along different lines from you. I suppose so, as long as the changes don't transform the person in question into something you wouldn't have fallen in love with in the first place. I think that happens a lot, people waking up one day and realizing that they're strangers I mean. | |
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retina said: IrresistibleB1tch said: i think one of the reasons couples get divorced is because one person is growing and the other is not, which could cause some resentment on either side. ...or both might be growing in different directions. Sometimes it amazes me that people manage to stay together for decades. I want to believe that it can be done with all the happiness still intact, but the odds are definitely against you unless you actively try to evolve together. And even then it's bloody difficult. You have to have a profound common ground to stand on right from the beginning and then try to run with that, I guess. It can be done, i mean who would've thunk 2 20 yr old homos could be together for 3 yrs. well one homo and bi about to be straight again. | |
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saintsation said: retina said: ...or both might be growing in different directions. Sometimes it amazes me that people manage to stay together for decades. I want to believe that it can be done with all the happiness still intact, but the odds are definitely against you unless you actively try to evolve together. And even then it's bloody difficult. You have to have a profound common ground to stand on right from the beginning and then try to run with that, I guess. It can be done, i mean who would've thunk 2 20 yr old homos could be together for 3 yrs. well one homo and bi about to be straight again. That does sound like quite a challenge. | |
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Slip viagra into her coffee!  | |
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althom said: Slip viagra into her coffee!
i suppose a girl with an erection would put some excitement back into the relationship.  | |
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go play cards or monopoly | |
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IrresistibleB1tch said: Spats said: That's all therapist talk. I guess there are not many people growing because the divorce rate is through the roof.
i think one of the reasons couples get divorced is because one person is growing and the other is not, which could cause some resentment on either side. | |
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I've never been in a relationship long enough to get bored. 
My longest was about 2 years (if you count all the getting back together and breaking back up stuff. ugh.) and I don't remember it ever being 'boring'. |
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CarrieMpls said: I've never been in a relationship long enough to get bored.
My longest was about 2 years (if you count all the getting back together and breaking back up stuff. ugh.) and I don't remember it ever being 'boring'. If it meant breaking up a few times... then that's not boring - that's drama, girl! Been there too!  VOTE....EARLY | |
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DiminutiveRocker said: CarrieMpls said: I've never been in a relationship long enough to get bored.
My longest was about 2 years (if you count all the getting back together and breaking back up stuff. ugh.) and I don't remember it ever being 'boring'. If it meant breaking up a few times... then that's not boring - that's drama, girl! Been there too! That's true. There was a lot of that. lol. I like to think I've grown since then. I wonder if I have...  |
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CarrieMpls said: I've never been in a relationship long enough to get bored.
My longest was about 2 years (if you count all the getting back together and breaking back up stuff. ugh.) and I don't remember it ever being 'boring'. my inclination is to be a smart ass and answer: I hollar NEXXXTTTTT! | |
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Muse2NOPharaoh said: CarrieMpls said: I've never been in a relationship long enough to get bored.
My longest was about 2 years (if you count all the getting back together and breaking back up stuff. ugh.) and I don't remember it ever being 'boring'. my inclination is to be a smart ass and answer: I hollar NEXXXTTTTT! But is that so smart ass? I mean, really? I guess I don't get the whole 'bored with a relationship' thing. I don't know what that means. I've got friends I can still have 5 hours long conversations with and sure, we go through patches of not having as much to say to each other, but I don't think I've ever been 'bored' of a friendship either. Either you enjoy each other's company or you don't, ya know? I don't get it. |
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CarrieMpls said: Either you enjoy each other's company or you don't, ya know? I don't get it.
You know, you make an excellent point. VOTE....EARLY | |
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i agree, i see it all the time, where couples feel they are taking eachother for granted.
i'm going to suggest... reverse roles!, this can lead to arguing, and the more a couple argue the better, for some odd reason. Maybe coz they get to know eachother better that way. [Edited 11/14/05 16:16pm] | |
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See if you are having to think up ways to get out of boredom than just give it up. Do you want to be doing that for the rest of your life??? Just go out an find a fresh person. | |
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jerseykrs said: I fake a suicide, but that's just me.
 One of the best days of my life... http://prince.org/msg/100/291111
love is a gift 
an artist with no fans is really just a man with a hobby.... | |
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AdamB said: At the begining of a relationship, things are easy, you wanna let that person know just how you feel, enjoy hearing about how they feel about you. You do things together because really thats all you want, to be with each other, around the one you care about. Life is in the background as your love is clearly in the foreground.
As time goes on, and life gets more routine, the life part takes over. There is washing to do, groceries to buy, cars to get repaired etc etc. Then you get the days where you haven't told each other you even care, maybe not even said you love each other. Routine sets in, and roles become established, which all works to separate you from your partner, drag you apart. Sometimes this leads to a feeling of taking each other for granted. You can end up withdrawn within yourselves. I think talking is the first move, which can sometimes be the hardest. Reinforce the sense of worth in your partner, the sense of need, and help each other realise just how much you care. Make a big point of the conversation, go out for a meal, maybe make it a surprise too. Make very sure that you talk and do not argue, don't keep on about the scores you may have in your minds. Be around each other and talk about what you like to do. People grow and things change, keeping pace with this is sometimes hard. Make a night where you leave everything alone, things can wait till tomorrow, it will still be there Hold one another and say you love them.
Hopefully then, when you do try new things, some of those sparks relight. A surprise is good idea, and a weekend away can do wonders..... 
perfect match here...
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pippet said: AdamB said: At the begining of a relationship, things are easy, you wanna let that person know just how you feel, enjoy hearing about how they feel about you. You do things together because really thats all you want, to be with each other, around the one you care about. Life is in the background as your love is clearly in the foreground.
As time goes on, and life gets more routine, the life part takes over. There is washing to do, groceries to buy, cars to get repaired etc etc. Then you get the days where you haven't told each other you even care, maybe not even said you love each other. Routine sets in, and roles become established, which all works to separate you from your partner, drag you apart. Sometimes this leads to a feeling of taking each other for granted. You can end up withdrawn within yourselves. I think talking is the first move, which can sometimes be the hardest. Reinforce the sense of worth in your partner, the sense of need, and help each other realise just how much you care. Make a big point of the conversation, go out for a meal, maybe make it a surprise too. Make very sure that you talk and do not argue, don't keep on about the scores you may have in your minds. Be around each other and talk about what you like to do. People grow and things change, keeping pace with this is sometimes hard. Make a night where you leave everything alone, things can wait till tomorrow, it will still be there Hold one another and say you love them.
Hopefully then, when you do try new things, some of those sparks relight. A surprise is good idea, and a weekend away can do wonders.....
perfect match here...
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Settle down and accept your fate. | |
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In one word: leave! | |
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