I actually believe the guy should do the work in bed.

I don't move or thrust or anything.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not just lying there: I'm very alive and responsive. I squirm and grasp and gasp and squeeze and caress, and sometimes pretend to try and get away because he's too much for me -- but I don't do anything that causes me to perspire. I may slide my legs along his body, but no real hip or torso action.

Surprisingly I've found this strategy to be pretty effective.

I think a guy appreciates a girl who is so aware of him, as opposed to someone who's a gymnast. I've been complimented by my favorite casonova who says sex with me is the best he's had (in my mind, I think 'You know I don't move right?' but I totally understand how he can feel that ... because I think I make him feel really masculine and special.)

You know how some divide house labor, saying the wife does the inside and the man the outside? Well..
My division of tasks is that I handle the foreplay and he does the rest. I LOVE foreplay ... I do all kinds of stuff with scarfs, handcuffs, creams, mirrors, lingerie, poses, movie dialogue ... I just genuinely love to play around and give full mind & body attention (oral sex, kissing, etc). I don't like any of that stuff done to me ...well I don't mind if he does movie dialogue. So, this system works out great.

Besides if there are too many people moving it can really throw things off. Especially if there's music and you're on different beats

I like a girl to be on top too sometimes

SynthiaRose said:

It's very interesting that you say this, I've never heard anyone bring it up before. But I think you're right; I definitely like it when the woman is active and responsive, but as far as hip movement and such goes, it's usually just in the way. For example, if I'm thrusting away and the woman "meets up" with the thrusts then it's likely that we become a bit unsynchronized. Besides, it's exciting to me to be the one doing the penetrating and see the woman enjoy that. I'm the giver and she's the receiver, that's how it's biologically planned and also most enjoyable for both, I think. We definitely seem to be on the same page in this regard, you and I.

Dewrede said:

Yeah, there are exceptions of course. It would be a bit ridiculous if it was always only the guy doing "the work" in that position.

Yeah, I've been on top .. but I'm not going to be impaling myself against anything. That hurts. I like pleasure-pain, but it's no fun if you do it to yourself.

He has hands. And muscles. So, he can literally grab hold of strategic parts and move me on top of him

I think the men should do that work, too.

There's this stupid video out where this rapper has women on treadmills and is saying stuff like "work those hips, run girl." An obvious sex metaphor.

I'm like. Please! I'm not getting all sweaty. You better get to work

retina said:

I totally agree.

Nature set up a good system.

I was resistant during one phase of my life -- my highly feministic era.

But now I embrace being the receiver and the nurturer (and I'm still partly a feminist .. a neo-feminist!)

You sound too conservative and submissive , imo
Oh well , to each their own i guess
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never stick to one thing.

If I had Shakira in bed she would definitely have to be on top of me at some point and do her thing.

God Damn!!!! just the thought

SynthiaRose said:

Very interesting. I don't think I move much when my man is on top, but I do little things like caressing and kissing. WHat the hell else am I supposed to do when I'm 100lbs and my man is 275!! I can't move too much


Smooches;)

And i am knocked for what i like to do and not do in bed?

I Don't Know one GUY who LIKES a DEAD FISH In BED. Most like ya ON TOP or DOGGIE....

SynthiaRose said:

This is totally off-topic, but, have you ever heard the real version of that song? It's got to be one of the dirtiest songs I've ever heard. Let's just say, he's not telling her to "work those hips" or to "run."


[rapidshare]David Banner-Play (dirty)

Zelaira said:

Zelaira, I like Doggie-style too .. but I just vogue in that position.

lameless said:

No I haven't, but out of curiosity ... I'm now goign to google.

Dewrede said:

I do like the whole female submission thing (in bed only).

It's sort of role-playing ... and really hot.

Also, I'm finding as I get older I'm falling into 1950s traditions when it comes to relationships.

I'm really into the "man as protector/hero" and "woman as nurturer/fulfiller" thing.
[Edited 10/30/05 7:55am]

ok

SynthiaRose said:

No need for that, I uploaded it on rapidshare. My friend e-mailed me the song with the heading, "Music isn't what it used to be...," lol.

Here it is:
David Banner-Play (dirty)

retina said:

Whatever
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I like to saddle up.
It's good exercise.

littlemissG said:

tell me about it. you've got to have strong legs to be on top of the man, working it. Like Zelaria, i have yet to meet a man who likes the woman to be on the bottom, the guys i've met like to do their thing, but they don't like "lazy" women neither.

I don't particularly like being on top unless i'm completely in the mood, because there's nothing like doing it and being tired from the get go....could get very sloppy.

Spats said:

I knew I would find you on this thread! And I knew you would @ the topic

Frankly, I'm not on the same page BUT it seems to be working for her, so...




Good Lord, I'm siding w/ SPATS???

my husband said to me once (very early on in the relationship) "don't just lie there like a starfish!" since then I am ALWAYS on top - pinned underneath him there just wasn't much moving I could do

charlottegelin said:

You have 8 arms?....

charlottegelin said:

He reminds you of the dick wiggling sleazebag in that video clip the other day and he complained about your performance in bed - and you still married him?

I say if you are Not Doing All The Positions with a Lover then What is The Use? I and this is TRUE Like it when You Fuck So Much You Can't Move and The Sperm Just Pours Out of Course Using PROTECTION,But You Do it as Much as You Can and you are EXHAUSTED and Ya Legs Wabble. Not to BRAG But My BOYFRIENDS Have All told me they LOVED ME After SEX. One lived in my Closet for 2 months and Came out Every Night and we had Sex while my Parents were Downstairs. I Brought him Food and Frozen Pina Collidas. Another Lived under my Furs in My Closet ,wore Issey Miyake Gowns and Cheap Jewelry and makeup and Cologne, another Stared at me and Just had Sex through his Clothes with me. Never Penetrati g but he came in his Jeans. Then the other left his wife of 13 years for me... I Might be Bad and All But I GUESS I AM WORTH IT. Why Else would they Slit their Wrists or Smoke Stuff and Check Into Mental Hospitals if We Break Up. And then again if SEx Isn'T IMPORTANT In A RELATIONSHIP which is BULLSHIT Cause It IS! Would they Get So UPSET and POSESSIVE? I Love MEN and I LOVE SEX And I Don't want NO PIECE Of PAPEr OR LEASH AROUND MY NECK... NOt EVEN TO PRINCE....I DOn'T WANT To MARRY PRINCE. I Just Wanna Fuck Him .....ALOT....OVER and OVER 4 Years.I wanna Be His MISTRess...Mistresses are HOTTER Than WIFEs.... Bob Marley Had one for Years even gave him a Child!
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retina said:

Steadwood said:

you're thinking of an octopus maybe?

Zelaira said:

You must have had a pretty crowded closet!

charlottegelin said:

Oh Yeah.....

So you only have 5 arms then