Leave her alone. She's already showing you that she can't be trusted.

Whoa People!
He has only known her for four weeks.
Don't make a big love confession!
Hold off, it's probably just infatuation that may fade in another four weeks.
The most you can say is: 'I wish you didn't have a boyfriend because I would love to take you out.'

littlemissG said:

I agree.

What does a woman know? The last thing he wants is to be in the "friend zone". Women are great at putting guys in the "friend zone" and it can happen very easily. And he isn't going to get laid in the "friend zone". The guy she is with now who she is having troubles with is getting the action. That's how it works.

I had a crush not that long ago on a woman who had a beau. It's always a tough pill to swallow...

But a few beers and I was alright.

Case said:

Only a few beers??? She must not have been much of a girl.

I have met this girl that I have fallen in love with bigtime, but she already has a boyfriend. She has told me though that the relationship isn't going too well. I've seen her like once a week for the last 4 weeks.

And now I don't know what to do: should I try to steal her away from her boyfriend, or should I respect that relationship and hold back and wait until she possibly breaks up with the guy?

I am so in love that I can't wait to express my feelings to her, you know I haven't properly slept for weeks because of her, and I start to look and feel like shit. But I wouldn't like to drop a bomb on her relationship by telling her my feelings, cuz I'd hate it when someone would try to steal away my girlfriend like that. So that's my dilemma.

I'd like to hear some opinions of you love guru's here at the org, please help out a confused man. I haven't been really in love for over 15 years and now that I finally am, it had to be a woman who is already taken. Life sucks sometimes...

CarrieMpls said:

Compared to you...she certainly wasn't

LleeLlee said:

But I already took her out a few times despite her having a boyfriend, hehe!

My point is that I can hardly be around her and respect her relationship cuz I want her so bad. I just want her to be mine and I hardly can resist touching her, it is becoming like self-torturing whenever I see her. That why I feel I can't stay around her much longer, I have to think about my own wellbeing too.

You should respect that relationship and hold back and wait until she possibly breaks up with the guy. If you steal her from her bf, it will cause a lot of drama and u probably won't end up getting her. Plus her bf will get really mad at u and probably try to fight you. Just be there for her and who knows she might leave her bf for u. I am in the same situation that u are. I have a guy friend that I like but he has a gf. I know how u feel though, it really sucks. Don't lose hope but keep ur options open.
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stop torturing yourself and give yourself some space. I would take a few steps back and let things take their own course for a while, then go back to it and see if you feel the same and see how she feels.