how frustrating... it might be difficult, but just try to forgive her and move on. seems like there's little you can do (in a legal sense) at this point, and hanging on to the anger will only make your own life more difficult.

we're all here for you!

ufoclub said:

None...
I was laid off from work for several months and I was just getting back on my feet. It was my intention to get insurance when I could afford it.

nakedpianoplayer said:

Thanks

I knew something was wrong with her...and it was my intention to move out...I was actually looking for apartments online when the fire started. Or, when she started the fire, I should say.

superspaceboy said:

Thank you

luv4u said:

Bev

TheRealFiness said:

I hope so too...I know she has a record as well...they betta throw the book at her!

And don't be mean to luv4u!

Natisse said:

I hope they can get her on that charge. The thing that disturbs me is that the detective left me a voicemail with this news and told me that the woman admitted to setting fire to a couch (45 min before she started the fire she called and made a false police report that she had a fight with some "woman" who was threatening her) but "obviously" didn't mean for it to burn down the garage or the house. WTF? How could she NOT know?

HamsterHuey said:

I know it is honey...but, believe me...you posting on this thread and being here in the way you can DOES help...in ways I wish you knew love you...

althom said:

I need to find that out from the detective. I couldn't ask him these questions because he left the news on my voicemail. He's out of the office until tomorrow...I left him some messages. I hope he calls back. He's been kind of a jerk.

Samaar said:

Let's get her!

Thanks for the orgnote

AzureStarr said:

From what I gather, she really likes to do things to set herself up as a victim and get people into trouble. A few months back her husband tried to leave her because shes (the police told me this) and she slit her own tires and said he did it.
I think this was a similar situation, but she was trying to get a female aquaintance of hers in trouble.
In other words...she's an evil, diabolical nutcase.

IrresistibleB1tch said:

Thanks, sweetie.

I'm not able to forgive her at this point, but I have a feeling that some day I can...I know that it will be easier once I'm back on my feet and she's been punished in some way.

applekisses said:

i understand.

I hope the woman getz the punishment she deservez!!

She should be made to work to pay for the damage. The law is bent, if you can't sue 20k out of somebody then it's not worth pursuing

She should be arrested for arson, and her punishment should be sweeping the streets until she CAN afford to pay for what she has destroyed.

This sucks Apples, but the positive side is at least you are not worse off, and there may yet be an avenue to purse legally, you never know.

You should focus as much energy as you can into your new beginning, like a phoenix from the ashes you will grow while this crazy bitch just slides further into oblivion. Try to put her from your mind.

PREDOMINANT said:

Thank you for that, zucchero...
I spoke with the police today and they said that the judge probably won't put her in jail becuase she has kids.
He also said that the reason she started the fire was because she wanted attention from her husband.

AND
He said that I am technically not considered a victim of this crime...that I am a "side victim" because she didn't intentionally set fire to the house.
I'm telling you...laws are set up to protect criminals.

applekisses said:

Did the cop give you any indication on whether you could get reparations as a "side victim" or are you basically fucked?

DAMN! So, in other words, there are no angles for you to get some restitution from what this stupid bitch did? That is soooo fucked up in soooo many ways, and it gets me mad to think that she'll get off just because she has kids. What about the husband, why can't he raise the kids while she's in jail? Not to sound insensitive to that stupid bitch or her kids (who I feel sorry for, honestly!), but it makes no damn sense to me. This bitch did something horrible and unthinkable, and it sounds like she's going to get off scot-free. WTF?!?! "Side victim" or not, you should be compensated in SOME way for what happened. Something sounds fishy here to me.

Case said:

I asked him..."so, basically, I'm screwed?"
And he said no...it's all up to the judge.
I'm putting in the letter that I'm writing to him (and once the case is assigned to a judge, I'll write to him or her as well) that I'm still recovering from being laid-off from work and this is why this is hitting me especially hard. I hope it makes a difference.
I need to fax an approximate list of things I have lost, plus a total. I know it won't be complete, but at least it's a idea.

Hang in there.

Be as strong as you can now and I'm sure things will work out alright eventually, but I guess it could take some time. Got to persevere as best you can.

You're in our thoughts.