I was just watching an old episode of "Lost" and a female slapped a guy - he just stared her down. I personally wouldn't slap a girl, but would a guy be more of a bad person for slapping (not punching - slapping with equal force) the female?

I've never had physical violence in any of my relationships (thank God) and I know that I would never harm a woman (let alone a dude - I haven't been in a fight since I was in grade school).

I guess my question is: why is it semi-socially-acceptable for a girl to slap a guy?

(btw: I'm watching "Lost" and I've had 10 beers. Sorry if this post makes zero sense).

I hit my wife once, albeit unintentionally. I regretted it in the sense that I regret anything of that nature between us, but I didn't feel overly guilty at the time, as such, considering what was happening. My wife was standing on the bed, throwing hangers at me, then came down and was just going to town on me. I had to pin her down and ended up giving her a pretty forceful elbow to the head in the struggle. I don't think it's acceptable for either a man or a woman to slap each other. I calmed her down and made it clear after that about how shit I felt that it had happened and how her rage had led to us tussling in such an awful way with the result of her getting a hefty whack to the head. I will say that should a woman slap a man there is no justification for slapping back. The original act is disgraceful and what is justification really when you're talking about slapping someone? It just shouldn't be done by anyone, but if it does happen you have to rise above it. I don't accept women slapping men and I don't accept men slapping back. Best thing in argument, I find, is to walk away and give each other some time to cool off.

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no, you can not.


I had one episode of physical abuse with my ex wife, and I regret it to this day, even if people knew the whole story, they may understand why I snapped.


But to answer the question, no. You just remove yourself from the situation.

fuck no.

Are you nuts?



Physical Abuse is NEVER o.k.


Fuck with her mind instead, then leave her. Sheesh.

jerseykrs said:

That's right.

My wife is Thai, so I have to do that a lot.

But seriously, she has a terrible temper which up until a year or so ago could lead her to get violent. She used to slap me, push me, kick out, and stand on the bed screaming out so the whole street could hear. I'm a very non-confrontational person and very, very rarely get even slightly angry, which always allowed me to be in control and let things play out. However, after a while, seeing the red marks on my arms and back and having to go through the inevitable calming down and making up, and despite the make up sex, I decided it just couldn't continue, no matter how much I understood the reasons for her behaviour and sympathised with her. The whole thing was just tiring for us both. We talked about it a lot and she learned to control herself and now everything is cool. She can still do the shrill screaming thing but she never slaps or anything anymore. We give each other a little space on the rare occasion we argue and now she's much more capable of just talking things through rationally and reasonably. Feels good.

There is a stupid viewpoint in society that it is okay for women to slap men in the face. It has been around for years and years and years and years. You see it happen in movies and tv all the time and for whatever reason it does not bother men or women. But if a man lays a finger on a woman then it is one of the worst crimes ever and should not be shown on tv or movies. A huge double standard exists. Why?

I have never smacked a woman and have never been smacked by one. I think assaulting anyone is wrong. But society has no problem with women smacking men. It's sick. If a girl i was involved with ever slapped me she would be out the door. it would be over.

Spats said:

Finally something I agree with you on

hitting is not OK. adults should not hit each other. adults should certainly not hit children. spanking is hitting. slapping is hitting.

if you're gay you can slap back! and pull hair!

but mainly only if you're on a crowded dancefloor and you're both sloppy drunk drama queens.

did that help?

No but here's one better... call the police! ANYBODY hits me they are going to jail.

Sorry - I saved my question for the end of the post when I really should have titled my post "Is it okay for women to slap men?"

I think EVERYONE is gonna agree that ANY sort of physical abuse between adults is wrong. My question is that why is it "okay" (semi-socially) for a girl to slap a guy. For example - in a movie, if a girl slaps a guy, no one really bats an eye (which seems weird). However, if a guy slaps/hits a girl, everyone (rightfully) gasps and is shocked/angry. I was just thinking about how incredibly weird our culture looks at these things.

Anxiety said:

If you're asking if it helped me get an erection, the answer would be an emphatic "yes".

Anxiety said:

Then mark me down as gay, should we ever meet.

Fauxie said:

Don't worry - we did that quite awhile ago.

CynthiasSocks said:

ok milli vanilli, GURL YOU KNOW IT'S TRUE.

when i was much younger, i went on a date where a guy got a little tipsier than he should have, and he raised his hand to me. when i pointed it out, he got really embarrassed and apologized and said it would never happen again.

damn right it wouldn't - i never went out with that creep again.

ReturnOfDOOK said:

You only get 50 posts, Dook.

CynthiasSocks said:

you have a nice ass.

I got punched in the throat by a girl at the races about 2 months ago. She was as mad as a snake and just suddenly punched me after a made a smart arse comment to her (she deserved it).

I just stood there and said "Is that all you've got? You better take another shot". I then moved away from the situation because I didnt want it to develop further. Funny thing is, is that I never felt violent toward her, just shocked.

If it were a man that did that I would have beat him within an inch of his life.

ReturnOfDOOK said:

i knew a girl in college who got a charge out of slapping people. she would ask permission first. "can i slap you? i really like the sound it makes." so i'd say "sure, why not" and KA-POW! next thing i knew, she was doubled over in hysterics. it was weird. ah, college.

You are part of the problem with society's viewpoint on this then because go by it as well.

Anxiety said:

Have her call me

Spats said:

what?

To bring it back to your question Dook, there were about 10 people who witnessed this event and not one said anything to her about it. If it were thw other way around all hell would have broken loose. So yes, there is definately a double standard.

Spats said:

I grew up watching TV, movies, etc that showed this as an example. I don't perpetuate this idea, however once I thought about it, it struck me as odd. I am definitely not "part of the problem".

bkw said:

sorry, I was trying to swat off a fly, it was just about to crawl into your beer

bkw said:

It's strange for sure - I don't blame women - I blame SOCIETY.... I mean, honestly, it's seen as somewhat "okay" for a girl to slap a guy, which just seems completely weird. Again, I would NEVER physically hurt a female (although sometimes I do wanna kick them in the crotch!! ) so I think it's weird how TV shows, movies, etc can just show a girl slapping a guy and no one (including myself) usually thinks much of it. Odd...

Anxiety said:

If I was a girl, and you were a dude and we were dating, I would totally try to make a movie and at one point in that movie, I would totally slap you. Hard.

I think everybody here needs to be slapped for perpetuating a Dook thread.


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charlottegelin said:

ReturnOfDOOK said:

dook, if you were a girl, i would never slap you.

lock you in the basement? sure. sell your body at bus stations? absolutely. but never a slap.