I presume you are not blonde. Why else would you knock wanting one.

The sex I advocate ...

It's not for the Ms. Celie's

It's not for the stone age

It's not for the people in the 1950s

It's for someone who celebrates the differences between men and women and find those differences hot and intoxicating. Celie didn't even have a relationship with Mr. There was no bond between them. Her submission was demanded, not given in awe and respect as does a women who looks up to her man and celebrates him.

I not going to lie there while anyone does his business. I guess it's easy to condemn somethign if you distort it.

I am going to meet that man in bed, our feminine/masculine essences will clash and it will be explosive. He will lead and dominate and I'll respond to his every movement, nurturing him and celebrating the fact that he's an incredible masculine power. That's beautiful. But I'm not talking about some casual sex or one night stand. I'm talking about a beautiful, romantic loving relationship.

I'm not trying to emasculate a man or be like him. I accept my womanhood and revel in it. I'm not oppressed. Men and women are both powerful. But part of my power is in nurturing the man I love. I'm not trying to be the thruster. I like being taken. You know that verse in the Bible where it says Jacob took Rachel to his tent and took her ... I LOVE that. We live in a society where men do not get to be the heroes they were created to be. That's too bad.

The thing is... I consider myself a feminist and believe in female power ... and this does not contradict with that. Female power doesn't have to mirror male power. If I'm going to command the bed, then I might as well buy a strap-on or dildo and fuck him.

But that's not going to happen. The only men I've respected in bed are those who are dominant and know how to command the bed.

I want to know I'm with a strong man. I like someone who commands the bed and puts me under his power. At the same time he's intoxicated by me and is emotionally under my power and hungers for me.

He hungers for me as a nurturer and I hunger for him as a protector.

Why anyone would make this seem bad is beyond me. It's human nature. Now, we don't have to follow nature. Man can exercise free will. But you know what I like this part of my nature. And I like the pleasure-pain realm of sex that was created for such bonding.

Syn ,just has some Issues. I Swear SYn is a MAN . I don't Know about any Rachel or Jacob . You want to be DOMINATED by A MAN and OVERTAKEN is what it is. I Guess you like all that. To Each'S own. You want the Man to Tell you What to Do and also Direct the Bedroom Adventures. I would be Bored.

That's True. Just that I Don't know one Guy who wants to do THE CONQUERINg. They want ACTIVE Participation.

Synthiarose's post is a perfect example of one of biggest of my complaints with women. Needy and insecure. And that post alone sent the women's movement back 100 years.lol Although there is a bit of truth there. A lot of Women say they want equality but i think they only want equality when it comes to pay.

"He hungers for me as a nurturer and i hunger for him as a protecter" ??? WTF???? That line alone made me want to PUKE!!!!

I can't believe the women here who ride my ass are not having a field day with this crap. Unless they secretly agree which would be another reason for me to puke and would make them hypocrites.

1.I want a pretty blonde. Most of the women i have been with and dated have been pretty blondes. Brunette's will do but i prefer blondes.

2.They should be feminine and in good shape.

3.They should have good table manners and eating manners. Eveyone knows what this means.

4.They should be nice and I have to get along with them. This obvious.

5. I like good sized breasts. I am not into flat chested women.

6.No needy and insecure women. Save the drama for your mama.

7. No old fashioned women that believe in gender roles. Meaning "The man should do this and the women do this." There is no bigger turn on than when a woman will make the first move.

8. No loud or overbearing women or self obsorbed women.

10. No heavy drinkers.

THANKs 4 YOUR CONCERN..I AM VERY HAPPY AS IS!!!

Anybody who wants to be physically dominated has issues.

moreover he's pointing out an outdated, backward stereotype that still exists, which is: 'men must always make the first move' imo if women wish to be treated as equals they better be willing to hold up their end of 'doing the work'...

The fact they won't make the first move proves it. it's all talk.

And what does my age have to do with it?

Plus, on the buying tampons thread, he wrote that women PURPOSELY EMBARRASS their men by asking them to buy tampons.

It is more important for a man to understand, realize and accept that if need be, a woman can do ANYTHING a man can do, with the small exception of shooting sperm. And come on...how great of a task is that??? lol! (One the same token, a man can do anything a woman can do, with the exception of concieving, shooting a melon out and breast feeding)
Women don't have to do all the fun (or not fun) things men do...but the point of the women's movement is that we can if we want to. If I want to pee standing up...jump out of airplanes into battlezones...be president...tie your ass up in bed...or lie there and let you thrust away...it is my damn priviledge to choose to do so. I as a woman, choose...not you as the man.
That is the point. "traditional roles" are only traditional to those who want to use them.

I like to pretend I'm a dead fish and just lie there.

Ocean said:

gemini13 said:

Just curious, I never understood why it is so embarrassing to buy a box of tampons...
Is it also embarrassing to buy toiletpaper?

Neversin.

Neversin said:

I myself have considered the same thing more than once. Just the other day, in fact. It was one of those Charmin Ultra commercials with the big bear teaching the little bear that wiping your ass is good that got me thinking.

gemini13 said:

If you think that's bad, try buying Depends! It's tough!

Ocean said:

Neversin..You are Sad... And If You are Talking Bout CrackWhores and shit ..I Don't EVEN Take DRUGS So Maybe You are Talking Bout YOURSELF. And Syn Wants Men to DOMINATE HER That Sounds WEIRD.... She was even talking like ANTIQUATEd AYN RYN and Stuff .. How Old are you 2?. SOUND OLD...Sounds Boring and Old... I Don't Know one Young Guy who wants a Woman who Lays There . LOl. That is Really Rich... LOl...P.S. Drugs are For LOSERS WHO CAN"T COPE!!!

XxAxX said:

Cuddling is not a woman thing.....I know tons of men who enjoy this. His level of "clinginess or neediness" on the part of the woman is talking about herself at all. There is a marked difference between your beliefs and his, based on the entirety of your posts as opposed to his. Are you focused on the ideal of a perfect body in a man, who fits your criteria perfectly, or are you mature enough to understand that no one is perfect? Spats' filter is dirty and clogged.

Spats said:

Just looks, that's not the point here...


Annoying indeed...


Again an obvious one...

You should go to Amsterdam, we have this place that's called "The Redlight District" there you will find everything you listed up here... You have to be 18+ though...

Neversin.

you SUPPORT synthiarose's submissive/passive/'let me lie still while you do the work in bed honey' approach

BUT you will not allow spats to choose what pleases him?

what did i miss?

XxAxX said:

What did you miss?
I don't give a flying fuck what Spats chooses that pleases him, if he likes it he should just do it, who gives a shit? It's just sex... But since he's not talking about sex but just superficial things he likes about women he wants to have I don't see what your point is...
He's making a rather retarded point about women in society based on a single woman's sexual preference, while he himself doesn't even have one and just started to list useless info of what he likes in his women... I don't see the relevance, oh wait, there isn't any...

Neversin.

gemini13 said:

i disagree that spats' 'filter is dirty and clogged'

you're imposing a double standard here, do you see that?

let me spell it out for you.

first you defend synthia's preference for gender roles (man=aggressor, pursuer, active one in bed; woman = submissive, pursued, less active in bed).

and even though synthia's sexual preference makes her sound like she's kind of into bondage which equates to a possibly questionable psychological background you support her there as well.

(personally i am SO glad women are not requires to behave as synthia describes because that's the role we have been expected to play for centuries. i find it a total turn off to be 'the pursued' fuck that shit, imo).

anyway back to the point:

and THEN, after allowing Synthia the right to choose her admittedly 'different' sexual proferences THEN you have the nerve to refuse to allow spats the same freedom to choose his preferences?

excuse me but that has double standard written all over it.
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