dolphngin said:

RETARDED! I'll BRING MY BULLWHIP! I'll show you WHO"S GONNA BE THE BOSS and WHO's GONNA GET TAKEN!!!! ...

CalhounSq said:

Yes, it is weird. Why in the world would a person want to be dominated?? Think about it.

Spats said:

Fun.

Well some people have strange ideas of what is fun. I would have to really question any woman i was with who wanted that. Because she would not be getting it from me.

Spats said:

I really don't think it's that kinky or 'out there' for a woman to like to be taken sometimes. On some occasions the man can take the lead, while at others the woman can. It's not like we're suggesting any permanent submissive situation for the female in the relationship as a whole. I just imagine that for at least some women there's a time when they want the guy to take his time lavishing attention, while at others they want both participants to be equally involved, but that sometimes they just want to be taken and fucked hard.

I'm only surmising though, but it doesn't seem a negative thing to me.

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[Edited 11/11/05 19:57pm]

I don't know. It seems to me that any woman that wants to be "taken and F**ked hard" has some issues.

Spats said:

Care to expound on what you think those issues might be?

Spats said:

Women or men with Domination or Submission tendancies have so from the earliest ages on. Most men who like to be dominated are actually in power positions on a daily basis. Executives, Teachers, Prison Guards...the list goes on.

Many women like to be "dominated" because in reality, they are rarely being dominated. They are very much in control of the situation, whether they are tied up or not. With the exclusion of RAPE, where the woman has not consented to the sex, she usually has control of the bed. That's just the way society is because of No, Means NO. So for a woman to be "dominated" in bed by a man, she is actually giving the man the sense of control...when he really has little.

missfee said:

Miskryie said:

You're so right. I have little control in bed. I've tried those pelvic exercises, but to no avail.

Spats said:

LAWD Spats, you're so rigid

Spats said:

Being told "just take me and fuck me" is one of the horniest things you will ever hear mate.

mdiver said:

Ahh, but let's remember - Spats doesn't like them to speak

CalhounSq said:

OH yeah i forgot he only loves the body not the person.....he will learn
[Edited 11/12/05 2:21am]

god i thought i wud never get 2 the bottem ive never read so much

I guess it's all a matter of taste. As a man I can't understand not wanting to take the lead. It comes natural. Every once in a while I'll LET a woman have her way with me just to keep things spiced up a bit but 9 times out of 10 you best believe I'll be running the show. I guess I like my women like SynthiaRose.

I'm all for the role playing and mixing things up between the sensual, erotic and the rough-housing. The one thing that probably won't change is that I'm the aggressor. I will say, however, that I like it when a woman tries to match my intensity as long as in the end she submits.

The funny thing is I used to think like Spats about girls in terms of their needing to quit playing games and start making the first moves. I've since learned that a woman will let you know if she likes you and that's when you make your move. If you don't know that a woman likes you she probably doesn't. Girls are the ones that play games because they don't even know what they like. A woman doesn't have the time to play games. Neither do we men.

whodknee said:

You're hot!!! TAKE ME NOW!!!

I don't think women are very good at all about letting a guy know they like him in that way. Being nice is not enough. They have to be up front and actually say they are interested.

My friends and i have had so many experiences in the past where the girl is really nice and so on and then she ends up saying. "Oh sorry, i just like you as a friend." And then it screws things up with other women because they are really nice to you and you don't think much of it until a friend says (usually a female friend) "Why aren't you paying any attention to her. She's hot for you." If the women would put the games and such aside and tell the guy they are interested it would save so much crap.

You and Synthia should hook up. You have the same issues.

CalhounSq said:

You got it.

Worst thing I ever did actually.....This cute guy was at a club and I went right up to him felt his Crotch up and Said I WANT YOU..... His Girlfriend strolled right over...I went...OOPS! I was 18 at the time. Another time this guy who liked me but had a girlfriend held my hand under the table while his GIRLFRIEND was Across the table. This is Stuff that happens in clubs...

Spats said:

Hey, I know what you mean, believe me. I also know it'll get better. As for Synthia and me... well as you can see from the post above I'm kinda busy at the moment.
[Edited 11/13/05 23:06pm]

I think when you are a teenager ya just DON"T CARE BOUT SHIT. Ya just have Fun....Ya Never think about CONSEQUENCES. Ya just do things in a SPONTANEOUS FUN and Exciting way.