Spats said:

You never SAID you didn't want them to be human but your expectations of women are incredibly limited/unrealistic - you want her to fit a mold that completely excludes her emotions & personality: Emotions & personality are a HUGE part of what makes us human. I'm hoping one day you'll get this.

Here's the talking quote:




Now maybe this on it's own wouldn't be so bad but combined w/ your other "rules" about the women you'll date, it's clear that chemistry & connection are not important to you. She's not even a person to you, she's a thing you'll fuck later...

And some other interesting tidbits about talking...



Yammering can be hard for anyone, but I wonder what you consider yammering. Probably anything she says besides, "Let's fuck!" & "You hungry?"



Just out of curiousity, what should she be talking about? Is it okay if it's about you?

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Here's some of your ideas about the robot of a woman you're looking for (it's no coincidence that folks have commented to you that you need a robot or a blowup doll - take the hint dude)... Also, this might help: (from Dictionary.com)

in·hu·man ( P ) Pronunciation Key (n-hymn)
adj.

1a. Lacking kindness, pity, or compassion; cruel. See Synonyms at cruel.
1b. Deficient in emotional warmth; cold.
2. Not suited for human needs: an inhuman environment.
3. Not of ordinary human form; monstrous.





So while getting off she should focus more on looking good for you than expressing her own emotions (via a "stupid looking face" if that's the way her body works)??? It's all about what YOU want - don't be unattractive, be on top, don't get loud, let me sleep after - & completely ignores anything SHE might want. INHUMAN...




Like someone on that thread pointed out, you want an assertive woman that you have complete control over??? Not humanly possible... but I can't really call it inhuman, just dumb It's a wonder she ain't interested




I could see if she fucked a goat or something but to refuse to kiss someone b/c of a past sexual act that's totally normal is just weird. And believe me you've kissed plenty already so you might as well give that rule up





NOTE: The women you mentioned don't even look "as hot as them" in person You're so in search of fantasy - ever think this woman you're looking for doesn't exist?




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Again, it's all about your needs & how she's gotta look/feel on top of you. Not saying you gotta like fat or thick chicks at all but the reason always comes back to being able to fuck her like you wanna





Gee, I wonder why more women haven't done romantic stuff for you?? You're just fuckin' angry w/ this one. Lemme guess your method - give her a dead flower then go for her bra?

Makes me wonder if you even realize the connection between how women act sexually & the way someone makes them feel (via demonstrations of affection, feeling connected to another person, etc.)... NOT






So you can judge her but you shouldn't be judged yourself? Total double standard. You can be horny & wanna fuck & it's okay, but she's your co-conspirator in said act & you've already planned to write her off for the same shit you're doing





I don't even need to say it Nothing to do w/ the actual person you're inside of, just whether or not she fits the mold... has a great body... won't make dumb faces... being attractive at all times FOR YOU. She can't just be herself, she has to be perfect FOR YOU. I know that thread was just about sex but DAMN this same theme runs through everything you post. Pathetic

Don't have the patience to go back any further, surprised I got that far There's so many more out there that have just made me go I wish I had the patience... Your comments are just so obviously cold & detached that I can't believe their real sometimes. I thought you were a total baiter

Whatever, I've dug all this up & you still won't get it

Im afraid there is only one JD.

CalhounSq said:

and THERE it is folks. RIGHT THERE.


something's telling me that Spats is really Tom Cruise.
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IrresistibleB1tch said:

So much effort & you KNOW he'll be like

CalhounSq said:

I scrolled down and saw this enormous post, and I was like "Damn!" I thought, "I suppose that's what my posts look like in that Lenny thread." Sometimes you just have to break it down when people get hypocritical.

Whoa, I never knew Spats was such a pig. He reminds me of some of those men on the show Divorce Court. Some of them demand so much from their wife.
But I can understand why he doesn't like women who talk about themselves too much. I hate people who talk about themselves too much. But I get the feeling that if a woman talks about herself AT ALL it's "too much" for Spats.
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Cal

luv4u said:

Exactly.

CalhounSq said:

well, even if the effort is lost on him, it certainly isn't on us!

I will try an answer most of what you said.


I will say this again. When it comes to my sex life, nobody involved does anything they don't want to do. If they don't want to do something we don't do it and if i don't want to do something we don't do it. Where is the wrong in this? Us doing things that would make us uncomfortable would be wrong and inhuman. I would not ask her to do anything that made her uncomfortable. So she should not do that either. And oral sex is unappealing to me, being on top is not a turn on for me.

As far as the stupid looking face comments or her screaming and swearing comments i made. The question was what are your likes and dislikes in bed are. That were some of them. You cannot help what turns you off and one. That is human.

I have never said i wanted complete control over any woman. I just know what i want and don't want. So wanting a woman who is assertive when it comes to making the first move is not unrealistc.

So the way women act sexually and the way they are treated go together? Okay, well that's just as selfish as you claim i am being.

I already explained the sex on the first date thing. If she is having sex with me on the first date she has probably done it before with someone else. I have not done it before. It's not the same thing. It would be a first for me. And she would be hot looking and i would be horny. I am not hot looking so she would be doing it for other reasons. Because she has probably done it before.

So it's unrealistic for me to not want a woman to be annoying, a nag, self obsorbed, needy/insecure and unattractive? Those things are part of being human? Yes, they are. But i don't want those human qualities around me. Those are not qualities that have to be displayed.


I think i answered everything. Let me know if i did not.

Spats,you are Making me Laugh. Ya must be Young. I guess you should just Grab the Girl and Say....Let's RIDE! As far as FIRST Dates Go that is Just Double STANDARD BULLCRAP. If ya Hot for Each other ya Get BUSY. Why Front? First Date, 100 Dates is it Going to Really Make a Difference? WAtch SEx In THe CITY. Also, If SEX Causes ya GUILT or Ya are THINKING TOO MUCH Then you should NOT DO IT! It should be FUN!!!! ANYONE THINKING BOUT MARRIAGE after ONE DATE or SEx SESSION is SERIOUSLY! SERIOUSLY DISTURBED!!!!

Men , KNOW That SEX is JUST SEX ..... It's What you are Looking for. RELATIONSHIP??? Women are ALLOWED to FEEL ENJOYMENT. It's Really IMMATURE and STUPID to SAY SOME STUFF that ya Did. You Have so Many RULES ... How can YOU or HER COME? It's gotta be SPONTANEOUS and NOT GOING through the MOTIONS.

There is no such thing as perfect. About as close as u can get is to always do what u ought to do.

Spats said:

PLEASE expand on this... Do you not see any connection? The way someone is treated + the way they FEEL + sex?? Nothing?



OY

CalhounSq said:

What the fuck??? Oh, man, I'm glad I missed those other threads. This is really fucking out of control. Give it up girls. He's a lost case. Cut him loose. Poor spats