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Is it possible... ...for a man who has spent his whole life being a player and a cheat to suddenly meet "Miss Right" and streighten his act? This is my situation. My current boyfriend of (3 month) claims to be a 'recovering cheater'. He says that since he's met me, he has no desire to cheat and that he is ready to settle down. I've always felt that once a cheater always a cheater...but I want to give him the benefit of the doubt...can someone give me advice? | |
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beret1022 said: ...for a man who has spent his whole life being a player and a cheat to suddenly meet "Miss Right" and streighten his act? This is my situation. My current boyfriend of (3 month) claims to be a 'recovering cheater'. He says that since he's met me, he has no desire to cheat and that he is ready to settle down. I've always felt that once a cheater always a cheater...but I want to give him the benefit of the doubt...can someone give me advice?
use a condom no matter what he says!!!!! | |
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beret1022 said: ...for a man who has spent his whole life being a player and a cheat to suddenly meet "Miss Right" and streighten his act? This is my situation. My current boyfriend of (3 month) claims to be a 'recovering cheater'. He says that since he's met me, he has no desire to cheat and that he is ready to settle down. I've always felt that once a cheater always a cheater...but I want to give him the benefit of the doubt...can someone give me advice?
zoinks! I'm sure...everyone has the potential to change...most young guys and girls are playas and cheats...and eventually they meet someone and grow up a bit and realize that cheating actually hurts people, and causes much misery. how old are you two? keep in mind..3 month is really a very short period of time...but if you like him..go with it. Praise him for it..but don't be blind about your devotion. are you ready to settle down? "not a fan"  yeah...ok | |
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XxAxX said: beret1022 said: ...for a man who has spent his whole life being a player and a cheat to suddenly meet "Miss Right" and streighten his act? This is my situation. My current boyfriend of (3 month) claims to be a 'recovering cheater'. He says that since he's met me, he has no desire to cheat and that he is ready to settle down. I've always felt that once a cheater always a cheater...but I want to give him the benefit of the doubt...can someone give me advice?
use a condom no matter what he says!!!!! now THAT is the BEST advice you can get.  "not a fan" yeah...ok | |
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XxAxX said: beret1022 said: ...for a man who has spent his whole life being a player and a cheat to suddenly meet "Miss Right" and streighten his act? This is my situation. My current boyfriend of (3 month) claims to be a 'recovering cheater'. He says that since he's met me, he has no desire to cheat and that he is ready to settle down. I've always felt that once a cheater always a cheater...but I want to give him the benefit of the doubt...can someone give me advice?
use a condom no matter what he says!!!!! Most definately!!!! | |
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Shorty said: beret1022 said: ...for a man who has spent his whole life being a player and a cheat to suddenly meet "Miss Right" and streighten his act? This is my situation. My current boyfriend of (3 month) claims to be a 'recovering cheater'. He says that since he's met me, he has no desire to cheat and that he is ready to settle down. I've always felt that once a cheater always a cheater...but I want to give him the benefit of the doubt...can someone give me advice?
zoinks! I'm sure...everyone has the potential to change...most young guys and girls are playas and cheats...and eventually they meet someone and grow up a bit and realize that cheating actually hurts people, and causes much misery. how old are you two? keep in mind..3 month is really a very short period of time...but if you like him..go with it. Praise him for it..but don't be blind about your devotion. are you ready to settle down? Well I'm 30 and he's 42! So far, I've been just going with the flow, but I don't want to end up his fool, either...Like I said I've been trying to give him the benefit of the doubt, but I know men can be dishonest... | |
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beret1022 said: Shorty said: zoinks! I'm sure...everyone has the potential to change...most young guys and girls are playas and cheats...and eventually they meet someone and grow up a bit and realize that cheating actually hurts people, and causes much misery. how old are you two? keep in mind..3 month is really a very short period of time...but if you like him..go with it. Praise him for it..but don't be blind about your devotion. are you ready to settle down? Well I'm 30 and he's 42! So far, I've been just going with the flow, but I don't want to end up his fool, either...Like I said I've been trying to give him the benefit of the doubt, but I know men can be dishonest... ohh shit! 42!! well scratch all that then....he'll prolly never change! 
hey..maybe finally...at 42 he wants to settle down, could be the truth. Good luck.  "not a fan" yeah...ok | |
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all i can say
is always be on your guard..especially so early in the relationship... look out for YOU, do protect yourself sexually and just watch for any hints... i'm not saying to be sherlock holmes and investigate, but never let your guard down.. | |
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Nah... he may change for a minute but he'll fuck up @ some point. He's too old to just now be getting it together, me thinks he's quite hardheaded & set in his ways 
Do wear a condom... & if he brings you flowers or jewelry out of the blue, LOOK OUT    I never met you, but I LOVE you & I will forever!! Thank you for being YOU - my little Princey, the best to EVER do it | |
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