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PrintableSpats said: I have been in love. I guess our ideas of love are different. I couldn't be in love with a needy or insecure woman. It's a turn off. And millions of women go for guys with machismo if that's what you think i have. I don't think i have that much though.
No that is where our ideas differ...physical contact with someone u love doesn't make u needy [Edited 10/23/05 21:25pm] | |
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No it isn't normally. But when you need or want it in public it is. | |
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Spats said: I have never held hands in public with any of the women i have been with. It looks stupid and it makes you look insecure or as if you are trying to prove something. It's mainly a girl thing. It's mostly their idea to do it for the reasons i mentioned.
Actually I think it's a nature thing...hand holding doesn't begin with puberty, it begins at birth. As newborns we grasp the fingers of our parents and make that physical connection to the people who love us the most and who we love the most...as we begin to walk, we hold their hand for stability, guidance and security...we feel safer with that physical bond as we explore the world. It only makes sense that as we begin into the stage of emotional relationships with others, that we'd use that same mode of physical connection to experience and show our comfort, guidance, security, safety, and love...as well as announcing to the world that this person effects my heart so much, that I need to feel their touch as much as possible. It's a subtle and silent way of telling your lover just how much you do love them. | |
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Spats said: No it isn't normally. But when you need or want it in public it is.
So if someone can see u holding hands..it's needy but if they can't it's not  ...I must say u have some strange ideas.....
I can see one side of what ur saying ..or at least I think I can ...and that is when someone is very clingy and needs reasurance in public to make them feel like they are not going to lose their partner..that is not something I would want in a relationship eithier | |
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I need a guy to hold my hand or hold me so I don't Fall since I Usually wear heels. Is THAT NEEDY? I feel that if you CANNOT Do/Take Care of Yourself then You should be Alone . I have had men who were Needy to tell you the Truth. Public Displays of Affection like what Kissing? I think it isn't WRONG if you Feel like it. Why do you have to play COLD FISH? | |
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Byron said: Spats said: I have never held hands in public with any of the women i have been with. It looks stupid and it makes you look insecure or as if you are trying to prove something. It's mainly a girl thing. It's mostly their idea to do it for the reasons i mentioned.
Actually I think it's a nature thing...hand holding doesn't begin with puberty, it begins at birth. As newborns we grasp the fingers of our parents and make that physical connection to the people who love us the most and who we love the most...as we begin to walk, we hold their hand for stability, guidance and security...we feel safer with that physical bond as we explore the world. It only makes sense that as we begin into the stage of emotional relationships with others, that we'd use that same mode of physical connection to experience and show our comfort, guidance, security, safety, and love...as well as announcing to the world that this person effects my heart so much, that I need to feel their touch as much as possible. It's a subtle and silent way of telling your lover just how much you do love them.  that is so nice!  | |
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charlottegelin said: Byron said: Actually I think it's a nature thing...hand holding doesn't begin with puberty, it begins at birth. As newborns we grasp the fingers of our parents and make that physical connection to the people who love us the most and who we love the most...as we begin to walk, we hold their hand for stability, guidance and security...we feel safer with that physical bond as we explore the world. It only makes sense that as we begin into the stage of emotional relationships with others, that we'd use that same mode of physical connection to experience and show our comfort, guidance, security, safety, and love...as well as announcing to the world that this person effects my heart so much, that I need to feel their touch as much as possible. It's a subtle and silent way of telling your lover just how much you do love them. that is so nice! I try...lol *smile*...and it really is how I feel.  | |
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Byron said: charlottegelin said: that is so nice! I try...lol *smile*...and it really is how I feel.  | |
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Hell NO!!!!! That is the corniest stuff ever! Since we both liken ourselves to be folks that work in "entertainment", I keep my private life very private. We also know so many folks among the circle that only a sacred few may know.
But I still think holding hands is so.... 16. I mean, he'll leave his hand on my knee whilst speaking to me in public, but that's about it. He's leaving for ATL Saturday! WAH HAAAAA!!!!  | |
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Byron said: It only makes sense that as we begin into the stage of emotional relationships with others, that we'd use that same mode of physical connection to experience and show our comfort, guidance, security, safety, and love...as well as announcing to the world that this person effects my heart so much, that I need to feel their touch as much as possible. It's a subtle and silent way of telling your lover just how much you do love them.
That's exactly how I feel! | |
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I love it. I'm becoming a sap, my ice is melting. | |
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It looks juvenile as well. It's so high school. | |
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I wish I had a girlfriend to hold my hand.  | |
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yes | |
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jerseykrs said: I wish I had a girlfriend to hold my hand.
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Zelaira said: I need a guy to hold my hand or hold me so I don't Fall since I Usually wear heels. Is THAT NEEDY? I feel that if you CANNOT Do/Take Care of Yourself then You should be Alone . I have had men who were Needy to tell you the Truth. Public Displays of Affection like what Kissing? I think it isn't WRONG if you Feel like it. Why do you have to play COLD FISH?
Can U explain to me the process U use to decide which words U capitalize. I've been pondering this for a while. Help me out. | |
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SammiJ said: jerseykrs said: I wish I had a girlfriend to hold my hand.
 I love you toots! | |
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Be careful what you wish for. I have had guy friends who wanted a girlfriend badly and then months into the relationship they wished they were single again. | |
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Spats said: Be careful what you wish for. I have had guy friends who wanted a girlfriend badly and then months into the relationship they wished they were single again.
Ugh shut up already!  | |
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AnotherLoverToo said: I'm cool with it for 60 seconds or less, then I start to feel a bit claustrophobic.
 I'm totally cool with hands touching or carressing, but the holding part feels a bit proprietary.yes! me too!! I mean, like, where is the sun? | |
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BobGeorge909 said: Zelaira said: I need a guy to hold my hand or hold me so I don't Fall since I Usually wear heels. Is THAT NEEDY? I feel that if you CANNOT Do/Take Care of Yourself then You should be Alone . I have had men who were Needy to tell you the Truth. Public Displays of Affection like what Kissing? I think it isn't WRONG if you Feel like it. Why do you have to play COLD FISH?
Can U explain to me the process U use to decide which words U capitalize. I've been pondering this for a while. Help me out. I asked her about this years ago. She capitalizes the words she feels need emphasis. I'm not sure about the first letters of the words she capitalizes, though. 
love you Zelaira honey! I mean, like, where is the sun? | |
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Spats said: Be careful what you wish for. I have had guy friends who wanted a girlfriend badly and then months into the relationship they wished they were single again.
KILLJOY!!!  | |
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It's true. It's the whole the grass always looks greener on the other side situation. Having a girlfriend is not easy. You have to always buy them things, take them out for dinner, to the movies, dancing. Pay them lots and lots of attention, show them affection in public (according to some here), just to name a few things. And if you are not doing a great job at all that they will look elsewhere sooner or later. It's not easy. I know from experience. The best thing that comes out of it i think is sex on regular basis, as long as you are keeping her happy with the things i mentioned. Now you compare that with what it takes for a girl to keep her boyfriend happy? Not much.
I would like a girlfriend right now but i am not losing sleep over not having one because of what a i mentioned above. Enjoy your single life while you have it,Jersey. | |
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I would love for my boyfriend (if I had one) would hold my hand in public. We couldn't hold hands absolutely everywhere but it would be nice, yes.
M MyeternalgrattitudetoPhil&Val.Herman said "We want sweaty truckers at the truck stop! We want cigar puffing men that look like they wanna beat the living daylights out of us" Val"sporking is spooning with benefits" | |
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