Do you believe it's possible for a serious relationship to arise if "you" have sex your first night together? Why or why not?

Anything's possible.

it depends on the vibe, really. sometimes you aren't feeling a mental vibe but you're in lust with each other. other times you feel a strong mental thing and sex would get in the way of it. other times still, you can be equally in love and in lust and doing the naughty on the first night is just the beginning of a beautiful relationship. i don't believe in rules. i believe in trusting instinct.

Anxiety said:

Yeah, that's what I meant to say.

Anxiety said:

Anxiety said:

Good answer. Seriously!

AsianBomb777 said:

i'm not talking about

Anxiety said:

hey- anything is possible ....

and if on the first date she tells you she wants u to do anal with her ... and then --- on the second date, she tells you it was the first time and she just "wanted you to break her in " cause she really loved you ...

hey anything is possible ...

for me- i dont think its possible to have a "serious relationship" after having sex onthe first date ... but hey ... see above ... cus anything is possible ...for me it would be a "trust factor " thing ... i mean ... if she wants to jump on me on the first date ... i wonder how many others she has "jumped on " on the first date ....???.... is she just desparate.... and i do not mean it to be demeaning to women ... becus i do think that it happens both ways .... (just from the limited "talks " i had with females over the years on this topic ...).....

Anxiety said:

I love your answer..very well said.

It's possible if you both are *Bleeeeepppp* , then your made for eachother

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elusivefatale said:

If the chemistry is there. You are "hopefully" two consenting adults, and know this first tryst can potentially do something good for the both of you, then enter at your own risk. I can't say that I have had any truly meaningful relationship after sex on the first date, in real life that is.

Hail to the org!

I don't get the way American's have dating rules - If it feels right - do it. if you want to, try for it. Simple as.

sometimes people just gel, there's no reason why it shouldn't not work.,

prime example that it can work


rounding the corner to a year here

elusivefatale said:

I'm living proof! I had sex on the first date with a girl and we stayed together for 2 1/2 weeks. During that time we went to the cinema once and the local KFC twice. Now if that's not a serious relationship, I don't know what is!

Spookymuffin said:

Because over here in these fucked up American States...we "sheep" have allowed society and religion to place a certain "taboo" over sex, when it is something that should be enjoyed as the most wonderful barometer of pleasure and desire, then the hypocritical society that WE ARE will have every fucking magazine cover tell us how to sexually please, sexually empower, sexually objectify the human body just to make a dollar!!!

OK...jumping off the soapbox!

DexMSR said:

WTF you need a soap box for anyway?

JoeyMFinCoco said:

DexMSR said:

Thanks for enlightening me - i never knew the cause of your dating system. Feelings shouldnt' be surpressed, though I spose it might make the sex better.

elusivefatale said:

yeah its possible. my past relationship first night turned into 10 years. but now i think its best to take it slow even if you wanna jump somebody's bones. i think that the way things are now ya gotta put some thought into sex before you get all excited. cause their are some crazy mofo's out there!
[Edited 8/25/05 10:00am]

i think that is changing alot ... as to it being "taboo" and stuff ... maybe i am wrong on that ... we certainly as a whole are more "religious" than in say europe ...

again for me --- it comes down to "long haul " .... and if i had sex with someone on the first night ... i doubt that it would work ...

elusivefatale said:

orgnote me.

jerseykrs said:

done and done

sex on the first date and

3 years and a week later we are still together

elusivefatale said:

Yep.


.....and after 7 1/2 months, "teddy bear" and I are still lovin it

Well, it depends on whether the person you're having sex with is your actual date or not.

CarrieMpls said:

yeah and exactly what I was thinking, kinda, but in words and not a general concept that I couldn't articulate. But it was more or less exactly word for word what I would've typed if I'd have thought about it and were able to write in that way.

BreddieMercury said:

Ok that really honestly made me laugh! Thank you!