why did you take the plunge?

I was trippin'

I walk much more carefully now. I won't take that fall again.

nilegettolrahc said:

because I love himmmmm! We both wanted to get married. It was just the natural thing to do for our relationship.

bluesbaby said:

how long did u know each other before yall got hitched??

SammiJ said:

I was casually going out with this guy about 3 years maybe? take it or leave it kind of. Took us a year to say I love you - it seemed mainly a physical thing to be honest.
Then one day he was going to buy a house with his sister and his dad. We started looking at houses, and his sister pulls out because her relatively new boyfriend said don't do it because they might buy a house together. So, he asks ME to buy the house with him.
All of a sudden I just saw him in a new light. He was very prepared to be in this for the long haul. We bought this house, the next year we married in the backyard and it all seemed to just happen so naturally.
And the best thing is, that he has turned out to be my soulmate and best friend as well as bed-buddy. We don't disagree on important things like money or parenting. It is truly amazing.
Before this I had no dreams of white weddings (which I didn't have anyway) or desire to marry.

I would love very much to be be married..... I was born for it. (believe it or not)

I was married for 13 years..... I will marry again but this time I know who I am and what I need..... I didn't know a damn thing at 20...

SammiJ said:

five years

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

its true, from 20-30 that's when you grow up. marriages in the 30s have a much better chance of lasting

Why would you very much like to be married? You can do the same things when you are unmarried as you can when you are married. You are not missing anything.

bluesbaby said:

so did u perform your own ceremony? (here's where i get called a heathen)

cuz that's what we wanted to do

Mach said:

and there ya have it

Natisse said:

pretty much ... it was a choice we made after 3 + yrs of dating

nilegettolrahc said:

Because she was and is the best thing that ever came into my life. Because we're each other's best friend. Because we love each other that much to make a life-long commitment.

You can be and do all of that without getting married.

I was always looking from High school on, for that person that I can relate to, be best friends with and share the rest of my life with. Make a family with. Never to be lonely or come home to an empty house. Together, making each one a better, stronger person. Taking care of each other. Someone to be able to share everything with. Someone to love for all time.

Marriage is more than just shacking up. It signifies a strong committment before God and everyone else that you will not leave that person come good or bad but are dedicated to the relationship 100%, no matter what. (Barring of course common sense things like abuse, cheating, etc.) The ceremony and verbal promises just make it more solid, but certainly an unmarried couple could have that. I would think it would be just less common.

This Dec we will be married 15 years.

It's a special relationship...we are blessed truly!

TheRealFiness said:

no, but we did have 1 protestant and 1 episcopal priest