send a text to my ex girlfriend who i lied to and who i am trying to win back telling her that i would leave her alone for a while but that i still loved her and cared for her and i was sorry that i hurt her.....
..she send me back this text a few hours later

....'i had so many dreams for you and me and you fucked up!'.....what does this mean, girls?.....we fell out two weeks ago, i suppose she is still keeping in contact...isnt this a good sign or am i kidding myself on?

It means you fucked up

is this the girl that called you a bunny boiler?

what Nikki said.....you fucked up, leave it!


Better realize it now.....it took my ex one year to realize that she fucked up.....

abierman said:

sorry, don't take my advice.....I'm not a girl!

but she is still texting me , isnt that a good thing?

blackbob said:

It could be ,just don't call/text her and see what happens.

if you don't contact her she will think you're not interested anymore and want you again ..i think

anyway just let her miss you
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It's pretty evident from that text that she wants me.

Sorry mate

bkw said:

in the end....we all want you....

blackbob said:

Men always complain that women don't communicate in a clear way. They do though, it's just that it's more complex and nuanced than most men can handle. Knowing that, she even spells it out for you and you still don't get it.

retina said:

I have to agree here. You're looking for something that's not there. Take her words at face value and leave her alone like you told her you would. If she's ever ready to talk to you again, she will.

why does she keep texting me then?...just to annoy me?

blackbob said:

maybe because you texted her first.....and she doesn't want to be rude.....but she spelled it out for you.....

I hear you, been there myself.....try to let it go, get drunk or chase other women.....

After reading about all of this going on, I'd have to say leave her alone . She needs to straighten her life out and if you try to stay involved you're going to get hurt so much more than you are now.
If you were my brother I'd hit you upside your head and then take you out for a drink.

shellyevon said:

yeah man, binge & purge!!!!! sometimes it helps.....

Move On. You do not need that kind of drama in your life. You will find someone better than her.

He asked the girls !!

there may be hope just give it time ,if she does not contact you ,forget her .You're a nice looking guy you won't be single for long.

i was thinking of asking her to see me this weekend face to face, i will tell her everything, how i feel, what has happened between us and if she still wants to end it then i will have to accept it....what do you think?


ps i know i am a pain in the arse but i have to try

Dude, I hate to bust your bubble but it's over. The trust is gone, you can try to hang on to the attraction that's left but it probably won't work.

Learn from each others mistakes and move on.

she is mad at you and doesn't want to talk, text, or use smoke signals to try and communicate with you. She sent you a text messgae back because you texted her first. that's all. it may be different if she sent you a text message outfo the blue BUT SHE DIDN'T. go watch graffiti bridge and cry or whatever it is that men do to get over being dumped.


i'm sorry to sound so harsh.



don't ask to see her face to face. you fucked up. she's mad. seeing her face to face for a "talk" will only make her hate you more. go take social dancing lessons. learn to hustle.

JasmineFire said:

i havent texted her for two days....she sent me one out the blue last night at 12.30....

blackbob said:

and then she took out the 'Tarzan'.....deal with it!
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and maybe you should change your sig, dude!

I feel some of your pain...but this is still going on? I think you should take a step back and take a look at your whole scene. There's a lot of drama going on.

superspaceboy said:

i know, its like a bad tv soap opera, even i am getting sick of it.....i think i have lost her, she used to go off me even when i did nothing wrong so what chance do i have when i have done something wrong....sorry for moaning about this...i will get over it soon.....thanks to all my org pals for their help

blackbob said:

NO! Stop obsessing over her. All of us tell you to leave her be...you really should.

It's hard on the will power...but it's really for the best


[harsh edit]
[Edited 10/13/05 11:33am]

superspaceboy said:

I think you should leave it a while , there is nothing worse than someone phoning and texting all the time when you tell them its over. Give it time and maybe whataver she is angry about will pass in time and she will be in touch.
If she has told you not to contact her then leave it as long as she knows she can phone you when she is ready.