Have u ever seen someone that u grew up with that was considered an ugly ducking but now that they are grown up, they are drop dead gorgeous? I recently saw an old schoolmate at the mall. We went to Catholic grade school together. When we were in the 8th grade, she had very bad acne and almost no hair due to some sort of childhood disease (cancer?). Anyway, I saw her and we instantly recognized one another. I was so glad that I wasnt one of those kids that insisted on making fun of her when we were younger. She was gorgeous. Her skin was clear and her hair was beautiful. She had definitly turned into a swan. She exuded confidence and sex appeal. Turns out that she is a school teacher. It made me happy that she had become successful dispite being the butt of jokes when we were kids.

Thats cool.
Maybe if ur ugly as a kid, u try very hard to change that as an adult?


I was alright looking as a kid. Then at 13 came acne then 15 came glasses.


I became a geek in 2 years. It would be embarrassing when i see people i ain't seen since i was 10 lets say. So iam the reverse. I still got acne and glasses
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I fit that description to an extent. I couldn't get a date at all through high school, and then after I got engaged it started where other people became interested in me.

I was the shy and quiet one. never been kissed until I was 18

charlottegelin said:

Same here. Except I was 19.

TMPletz said:

no-one wanted to go out with a nerd like me. my husband can't understand how that was, he says all the boys at my school must've been blind and stupid easy for him to say, mr popular that he was, lost his virginity at the age of 14 or something always in trouble for bringing girls to sleep over at his mum's house! He says (to make me feel better) "I woulda f*@#ed ya!" when he looks at my school photos!! I reckon even HE wouldn't have

charlottegelin said:

charlottegelin said:

Yeah but I bet ur fine now.


I went the other way. True despite acne i still got laid at 15, but i still am ugly I wish i could be good looking now at 19.

thesexofit said:

19 is still young. Quite likely you will still grow into your features with more time

TMPletz said:

Me too.

I actually had sex the first time about 20 minutes after my first real kiss.

Yes, it is strange how when u're in a relationship people start checking you out more. Having said that, I'm usually completely oblivious to it and my wife has to tell me when a girl is looking at me, so perhaps they were looking before and I just didn't have my wife around to show me. I doubt it though. I looked ok as a kid and just look ok now, but I'm fine with that.

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Fauxie said:

when you are in a relationship I reckon you don't broadcast that desperate/nervous vibe any more, more confident in yourself because you know you are loved. You are not walking around alone in the world.

It's funny how women can spot when a woman is flirting with a guy but the guy can't. I have had that problem. Women have to be more clear with their intentions.

If women see a guy with a pretty girl then they think "He must have it going on".If he was alone they would probably ignore him.

I was average looking back then with a pimple here and there. Now i am just average looking minus the pimples. If I had the money to improve my looks i would. The best looking guys usually get the best looking girls.

I was always called chubby throughout my life. At around 30 years of age I started working out and yeah, all of a sudden people were interested. I resented it. I've always yo-yo'd and now I'm back to where I don't want to be. I'll end up going back to the gym and the cycle begins again.


M

Spats said:

It's sometimes the other way around though, a guy thinks a girl is flirting when she is simply using good communication skills to appear interested (eye contact, mirroring body language etc) especially in work situations.
Men and women are quite poorly matched when you think about it.

I have had that problem too and the guy ends up looking like an idiot. Women should have signs for when they really are interested and when they are just being friendly. It would save a lot of embarrassment.

Things would be so much simpler if people all wore T-shirts that said:
"single but looking", "not interested", "stupid but good in bed", etc.

I look basically the same that I did in high school but the little things have changed - I know how to dress better and do makeup and hair and I have new glasses. Clothes also look better on me; I have more of a figure now than I did four years ago.

I'm finding, now that I'm back in my hometown, a lot of my high school peers notice me now when they completely ignored me back then.

Natsume said:

I noticed you the moment you walked into the room and picked your nose.

charlottegelin said:

Romance certainly ain't dead!

I love your comments, charlotte. Always amusing.

seriously not fishing for compliments here, by the way... but I've never really had guys interested in me that I knew of anyway and that didn't change as I grew up either and still hasn't

charlottegelin said:

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thesexofit said:

Maybe. I think most people just grow into themselves. Kids are stupid, they don't know what to appreciate about people. That's why Paris Hilton is popular. Think about it - the adults who care about Paris Hilton are so into image & popularity & bullshit, they literally never grew up. It's sad.



ProActive, my dear

Natisse said:

Awww Nat!

I'll find you a nice bloke on Friday!

My popularity was really a roller-coaster ride when I was younger. Sometimes I was very popular, sometimes I was considered a geek and sometimes an outsider. Today I honestly don't care about popularity. One of the great things about growing older is that you truly learn to accept yourself, regardless of how your shares are doing on the human stock market.
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Spats said:

Women should be robots Or blowup dolls, they're always interested

retina said:

onenitealone said:

lol the thing is I'm not looking... if I was then I'd be really upset about it but it doesn't bother me at this stage weird aren't I?

applekisses said:

Yea, but only HOT girls should get to purchase those - we don't want Spats to get confused

IrresistibleB1tch said:

2 times

I was never popular. Too much attention freaks me out, I like to just BE

Natisse said:

Not at ALL! That's always the best way. I think most people - who are searching for love - aren't necessarily happy within themselves; it's a means of avoiding that issue.

I'd rather be happy, and single, than going out with someone for the sake of it.

Still, I'll have a look around on Friday for you!