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starting again? anybody have any experience of their long term relationship splitting up and moving out their home for good?..what happened to you? where did you go? how did it work financially?...did you leave any children and how did that affect you?.....these are all questions that i am facing at the moment and i dont know what is going to happen.....i am a right cheery sod at the moment, hope i can feel happy again soon  | |
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blackbob said: anybody have any experience of their long term relationship splitting up and moving out their home for good?..what happened to you? where did you go? how did it work financially?...did you leave any children and how did that affect you?.....these are all questions that i am facing at the moment and i dont know what is going to happen.....i am a right cheery sod at the moment, hope i can feel happy again soon
ps.....does anybody have a spare room for a few months?  | |
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blackbob said: blackbob said: anybody have any experience of their long term relationship splitting up and moving out their home for good?..what happened to you? where did you go? how did it work financially?...did you leave any children and how did that affect you?.....these are all questions that i am facing at the moment and i dont know what is going to happen.....i am a right cheery sod at the moment, hope i can feel happy again soon
ps.....does anybody have a spare room for a few months? 
One advise: get yourself together before moving from the one relationship to the other. When your heart gets broken it's very hard to say whether you love somebody or not. For as far as I know, your inner feelings today will be different than those of tomorrow. I reall think you need to take an emotional rest, when I read your posts. Good luck  | |
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MarieLouise said: I'm a one eyed muppet with a pregnant cat so don't ask me
That's not helping. | |
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MarieLouise said: blackbob said: ps.....does anybody have a spare room for a few months?
One advise: get yourself together before moving from the one relationship to the other. When your heart gets broken it's very hard to say whether you love somebody or not. For as far as I know, your inner feelings today will be different than those of tomorrow. I reall think you need to take an emotional rest, when I read your posts. Good luck its a mess i know.....thanks marie | |
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blackbob said: anybody have any experience of their long term relationship splitting up and moving out their home for good?..what happened to you? where did you go? how did it work financially?...did you leave any children and how did that affect you?.....these are all questions that i am facing at the moment and i dont know what is going to happen.....i am a right cheery sod at the moment, hope i can feel happy again soon
leaving a relationship is rough. Everyone's situation is different. I was left with alot of sorrow, pain, and no self esteem at all. He went from I love you to I hate you...then from I hate you, to i'll love you only if you buy me.....etc, etc, etc.... I have gone through alot.... One thing is for sure, you have to being to understand what went wrong in the "failed" relationship and make sure it doesnt repeat itself. You also have to learn to love and respect yourself before you can move on to the "next person"..... Personally, I still have a lot of self understanding and self loving to do..... Say it's just a dream...
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amorbella said: blackbob said: anybody have any experience of their long term relationship splitting up and moving out their home for good?..what happened to you? where did you go? how did it work financially?...did you leave any children and how did that affect you?.....these are all questions that i am facing at the moment and i dont know what is going to happen.....i am a right cheery sod at the moment, hope i can feel happy again soon
leaving a relationship is rough. Everyone's situation is different. I was left with alot of sorrow, pain, and no self esteem at all. He went from I love you to I hate you...then from I hate you, to i'll love you only if you buy me.....etc, etc, etc.... I have gone through alot.... One thing is for sure, you have to being to understand what went wrong in the "failed" relationship and make sure it doesnt repeat itself. You also have to learn to love and respect yourself before you can move on to the "next person"..... Personally, I still have a lot of self understanding and self loving to do..... thanks for your advice,  | |
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retina said: MarieLouise said: I'm a one eyed muppet with a pregnant cat so don't ask me
That's not helping.  I'm not sure.
Little pussies and to view the world with only one eye might be very consoling once in a while... | |
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oh man. just take care of yourself first. do the things you've always wanted to do but couldn't because of the relationship. i just got out of one very long one. i miss him and still love him, but i know it wasn't the right thing for me. its gonna hurt for awhile but be productive instead to get your mind off of it. | |
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had one relationship, move in together, out, in, split up. Got back together living in separate places, got on fine, eventually went our separate ways. Still in touch now albeit very loosely.
Shit happens I suppose, but I can say it’s better to be out of a doomed relationship. Pick up the pieces, sort yourself out, go and find somebody more suitable. Happy is he who finds out the causes for things.Virgil (70-19 BC). Virgil was such a lying bastard! | |
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PREDOMINANT said: had one relationship, move in together, out, in, split up. Got back together living in separate places, got on fine, eventually went our separate ways. Still in touch now albeit very loosely.
Shit happens I suppose, but I can say it’s better to be out of a doomed relationship. Pick up the pieces, sort yourself out, go and find somebody more suitable. exactly! | |
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blackbob said: anybody have any experience of their long term relationship splitting up and moving out their home for good?..what happened to you? where did you go? how did it work financially?...did you leave any children and how did that affect you?.....these are all questions that i am facing at the moment and i dont know what is going to happen.....i am a right cheery sod at the moment, hope i can feel happy again soon
I was a right mess when I broke up with the only bf I'd had a long relationship with, we were together for 4 years and lived together the entire time. I tried to run away by moving to England to work, but since I was running from myself and the busted relationship and not running to England, it all went down the shitter. It took me a long time to get my head together really properly after that, it was only in April of '04 after he and I'd messed about for a few days that I really got, and accepted, closure. We're all different but I'll say again what I said to you before - TIME, LET IT TAKE TIME. We're not talking hours or weeks, it's months and years. Don't go for the rebound, have meaningless sex if you feel like it but take care of yourself ONLY for a while. Be big about things with your ex, whatever you do DON'T LOSE THE KID! Good luck, I'm always here if you need to talk.  | |
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Teacher said: blackbob said: anybody have any experience of their long term relationship splitting up and moving out their home for good?..what happened to you? where did you go? how did it work financially?...did you leave any children and how did that affect you?.....these are all questions that i am facing at the moment and i dont know what is going to happen.....i am a right cheery sod at the moment, hope i can feel happy again soon
I was a right mess when I broke up with the only bf I'd had a long relationship with, we were together for 4 years and lived together the entire time. I tried to run away by moving to England to work, but since I was running from myself and the busted relationship and not running to England, it all went down the shitter. It took me a long time to get my head together really properly after that, it was only in April of '04 after he and I'd messed about for a few days that I really got, and accepted, closure. We're all different but I'll say again what I said to you before - TIME, LET IT TAKE TIME. We're not talking hours or weeks, it's months and years. Don't go for the rebound, have meaningless sex if you feel like it but take care of yourself ONLY for a while. Be big about things with your ex, whatever you do DON'T LOSE THE KID! Good luck, I'm always here if you need to talk. thanks jen, when would be a good time to talk | |
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