What are your turn-ons and turn-offs in the opposite sex (or same sex, for our gay orgers)?

here we go: turnoffs
super neat guys
naggers
crybabys
sloppy drunk
too eager
guys that shape there eyebrows
and guys that bite their fingernails down

turnons
patience
really rough guys or blue collar workers
makes me laugh
accepts some of my grossness like if my stomach hurts i should be able to fart if i want to.
extremely sexy
respects me
a nice ass
a person who likes to talk about things with substance
smelling good
soft lips

Turn-ons:

Mature
Good sense of humor
Can laugh about himself
Even-tempered
Sane
Financially astute (no i'm not a gold digger, but a guy who knows what he wants)
Isn't dramatic and hysterical
Bravery
Tenderness


Turn-offs:

Macho bullshit (I'm a man, that's why!)
Cowardice
Drunken belligerence
Immaturity
Control freaks
Cheaters
Liars
Losers
Momma's boys
Anal Retentives
Psychotics
Woman haters
Irrational
Dependents


Gee, I could go on and on, but I wouldn't want to bore you.

I'm bi but my turn-ons and offs are the same for both sexes


Turn on

Intelligence, first and foremost
Nice hands
Scent
A wicked sense of humor
People into Prince
People who love kids
Musicians

Turn off

Arrogance
dirt under fingernails

Stymie said:

I had better watch out the next time you're in the D

Turn-ons

Humour
Courage
Nice Eyes - especially long lashes like Mr Snuffleupaguss
Natural smell
Self-assurance
Independence

Turn-offs

Stupidity
Recklessness
Hairy nostrils - it's the worst
Over-powering scents, especially soapy-smelling aftershaves
Disrespect of elders, animals and children
Hair-gel
Trimmed facial hair
Fashion victims
Dirty nails
Mistrust
Money or career-obsessed

I don't know if I have the energy to sort them out...

gemini13 said:

Hey babe, apart from the immaturity.....I'm your man!

brownsugar said:

oh good grief let me add some more:
turnoffs
disrespect for women
vain-get outta the fuckin' mirror!
posers-of any kind
okay i'm done.
[Edited 10/7/05 10:31am]

brownsugar said:

I think we got the message after your first post.

Is it okay if I take a shower once a day?
[Edited 10/7/05 10:32am]

Turn ons -

Integrity
A good person
A funny person (a good laugher is a bonus)
Sarcastic
A person who cares about others more than themselves.
A Great Body with the above mentioned

Turn Offs -

Selfish
Pretentious (selfish's second cousin)
Material possesions obsessed (clothes, cars, jewelry)
Plastic (in looks or otherwise)
High Maintenance Women (too busy to deal with that shit)
Bossy (do not ever tell me what to do)
Lack of integrity (walk the talk or go fuck yourself)

Slave2daGroove said:

Plus we kindered spirits, too. I mught put a hurtin' on ya next time.

gemini13 said:

Can't a guy know what he wants without being financially astute?

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retina said:

sorry dude, fancy McDonald's in Sweden won't do the trick.....




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DorothyParkerWasCool said:

I love your list DPWC.

Stymie said:

Thanx, yours is on point as well. Reading thru these lists gives one hope and lord know sometimes I need it..

Slave2daGroove said:

I' ve got a great set of tits, does that count?

retina said:

Not if he wants pussy.

DorothyParkerWasCool said:

You don't need hope. You are all that and a bag of chips.

Ok...here we go...


Turn ons:

Intelligence
Quirky sense of humor
Great taste in art/movies/music
Self-assurance
Integrity (say what you mean; mean what you say)
Sensitivity
Cares about others as much as himself
Generous
Responsible
Willing to help others
Creativity
Good smelling
Great style
Tattoos
Nice smile
Respectful
Non-judgemental
Loves kids and animals
Willing to take the lead

Turn offs:

Lack of integrity
Selfishness
Insensitivity
Shallowness
Hypocrisy
Closed-mindedness
Uncleanliness
Self-righteousness
Undirected anger
Irresponsibility
No direction

TURN-ONS
eyes and the ability to use them
nice forearms
clothes that fit his personality
just a lil' bit of stubble
sense of humor
healthy sense of irony/skepticism
good conversationalist
open mindedness (KEY)
good record collection (or at least a love of music)
and okay, i won't lie - THE ASS.

TURN-OFFS
too much cologne
stank breath
xenophobic attitude
tendency to call lots of things "weird" in a judgmental way (HATE that)
label whores
guys who believe conversation only has one side: theirs
cell phone-a-holics
***INSECURITY***
guys who don't groom themselves - i'm not talking manscaping here - just the basics...swab those ears, clip that nose hair, CUT THOSE NAILS, trim those sideburns a bit, maybe get that hair trimmed and neatened up a bit. basic maintenance.

Okay, when I hear the words "turn-ons" and "turn-offs" it makes me think from a sexual perspective, so this is not necessarily what I'm looking for in a woman regarding a long-term relationship. It's just what "gets me going":

Turn-ons

Feminine looks
Feminine mannerisms
Feminine clothes
Intelligence
Self-confidence
Spontaneity
Passion
Maturity
Openness to trying new things in bed
Soft skin
Nice scent

Turn-offs

Radical feminism
Stupidity
Laziness
Loud-mouths
Body hair
Butch style
Exaggerated pickiness
Passiveness
Too much make-up
Masculine features

abierman said:

Oh, of course not. What do you take me for? I bring all my dates to Burger King.

retina said:

try McDonald's.....it might work! and don't be too (damn those McFlurries!!!!)

Turn-ons:
Female
Breathing
Nice legs
Drinks Coke

Turn-offs:
Male
Dead
No legs
Drinks Pepsi

Byron said:

Oh lawd, told you once, not telling you again!

turn ons:

me


turn offs:

2the9s

sosgemini said:

that ain't what he told me....

my list:

ons:
intelligence
sense of humor
geekiness (in the areas of art & music are an absolute plus)
a sense of individuality


offs:
low self-esteem
snottiness
bad hygiene
ignorance


i know i've got more for both lists but i gotta think about it...kinna hard, since i've never dated to begin with.

sosgemini said:

Oh please, motherfucker! Please!!