I am curious about this. I've heard this from time-to-time and I wonder...if a gal has strong opinions on things...do some men find that intimidating? If so, why and what is the alternative?
If not, what is attractive about a woman who has her own ideas about things?

applekisses said:

Intimidated? Hardly. I love an opinionated women. It's hot.

Are some men intimidated by that? I'm sure. But would you want a man who's intimidated by a strong-willed woman?

Ace said:

No way...but, it seems to be the way lately...

In your opinion, what is "hot" about an opinionated woman?

applekisses said:

It means she's confident and comfortable in her own skin.

Ace said:

I agree
But, what could possibly be attractive about a woman who is not confident and who is uncomfortable in her own skin?

applekisses said:

A vulnerable woman appeals to our animalistic instinct to protect so yes, that can be attractive too.

Did I walk right into your trap now?

retina said:

What trap?

retina said:

Retina thinks I'm a feminazi.

applekisses said:

I expected you to say "I knew it! You men just want us to be meek and submissive!" which, of course, would have been a complete misunderstanding of what I said.

AnotherLoverToo said:

Honestly? Yes.

I still admire you for many things though.

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retina said:

AnotherLoverToo said:

I didn't think that word existed anymore.

applekisses said:

Insecure men seem to prefer that.

Ace said:

retina said:

Nooooo...I didn't think that at all. In fact, I agree with you...and I also have those vunerable times...but, women are very complex and aren't just one way. I've found that some men have difficulties handling the more "expressive" women.

Ace said:

There must be a whole lot of insecure men out there... (I hope to not offend any dudes with that statement...sorry!)

applekisses said:

I know a lot of guys do. It's usually the type of guys that don't understand women in general.

retina said:

I'm wondering...why would they think women shouldn't have their own minds and ideas?

applekisses said:

I am passionate about--and post about--a lot of different things in life. For some reason, it's my posts about women that people remember and judge me by.

It's unfortunate, but....

AnotherLoverToo said:

That just proves my point!

applekisses said:

I don't think they're against women having their own ideas, I just think they don't know how to handle them.

retina said:

But whyyyyy?

retina said:

No, just annoyed.

SammiJ said:

I think you misread my statement. I can see how you probably read it. Try reading it again.

applekisses said:

Not enough females in their lives from an early age, society trying to convince them that only men make the decisions, influence from their mates at the pub....take your pick.

applekisses said:

they're easier to "mold". that's why.

im not scared of any of you'z wimmenz


















































ok im spooked by some of youz
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It's unfortunate when we're unable or unwilling to see, know and get to appreciate the person as a whole, nuanced being.