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PrintableAce said: blackbob said: she thinks i am a bunnyboiler...i dont think going to see her would make any difference.....i have lost her...i just have to face up to it....it is probably for the best   I think she Has to know what is ALL about, and if you have the feeling you did something wrong, you keep youself in a passive love. Give her the Chance to believe you, know you, kiss you, forgive you (if she can be able to be mad at u ???) and come back to us with great news ? Only U2 knows what happened ? Only U knows what happens. You have then to settle down, talk and evaluate what will (would) happen. What is a bunny boiler ?  | |
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virginie74 said: Ace said: I think she Has to know what is ALL about, and if you have the feeling you did something wrong, you keep youself in a passive love. Give her the Chance to believe you, know you, kiss you, forgive you (if she can be able to be mad at u ???) and come back to us with great news ? Only U2 knows what happened ? Only U knows what happens. You have then to settle down, talk and evaluate what will (would) happen. What is a bunny boiler ? It means she thinks he is an insane stalker (a la Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction). I don't know why anyone would advise him to contact this woman again. She has made it crystal-clear that she does not want that. You folks have seen too many romantic movies and are putting him in danger of being the subject of a restraining order. Bob: move on.  |
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Exactly. Some of the women on here are living in a romantic fantasy world. Too many romance novels. | |
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blackbob said: billyjackbitch said: Text messages don't count. You should go over there to look her in her eye and tell her again that you are sorry might make a difference. Perhaps also tell her why it is that you lied, because if you lied because you thought it would prevent her from getting hurt, then she might understand. Any effort that is not you (text messages, e-mail, but also the flowers that you didn't bring to her doorstep yourself) are insignificant. The effort should come from you physically. I hope that she forgives you.
she thinks i am a bunnyboiler...i dont think going to see her would make any difference.....i have lost her...it is just so hard going from being in love with each other to being a bunnyboiler in the space of two weeks....it it so cruel....i just have to face up to it....it is probably for the best
[Edited 10/9/05 9:55am] Sorry it shook out this way . At this point I'd leave it alone too.Really not much you can do about it."Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"-Dr Seuss
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abierman said: billyjackbitch said: Text messages don't count. You should go over there to look her in her eye and tell her again that you are sorry might make a difference. Perhaps also tell her why it is that you lied, because if you lied because you thought it would prevent her from getting hurt, then she might understand. Any effort that is not you (text messages, e-mail, but also the flowers that you didn't bring to her doorstep yourself) are insignificant. The effort should come from you physically. I hope that she forgives you.
if I only knew where you live.....I'd bring flowers to your doorstep! Aw,....  | |
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Guys, perhaps I was too hasty with my comment. If she thinks you are a stalker anyway (which I didn't know) then yes, you coming over to her doorstep would probably backfire. Sometimes it is best to just let things cool down for a period of time. After a while the emotions will subside and she will be able to see things more clearly. Perhaps she starts to miss you. So as long as you explained to her what your reason was and you said everything you wanted to say to make things clear to her, you are probably better of letting things be. She can think about your words and make up her mind based on that.
Again, I hope she forgives you because love hurts. It is now hurting you and her and nobody deserves that, because it is an injury of the heart and it can take your sunshine away from you. Nomatter what happens though: once you feel like you did all you could do to mend things and you feel your intentions were pure when you didn't tell her you were still living with your ex-partner, you shouldn't invest any more of your energy, because there ARE more women in the world who would be more understanding. We are all just human and surely you weren't out there to hurt her feelings like that. Good luck and keep us posted. Either way I hope you both feel better soon.  | |
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billyjackbitch said: Guys, perhaps I was too hasty with my comment. If she thinks you are a stalker anyway (which I didn't know) then yes, you coming over to her doorstep would probably backfire. Sometimes it is best to just let things cool down for a period of time. After a while the emotions will subside and she will be able to see things more clearly. Perhaps she starts to miss you. So as long as you explained to her what your reason was and you said everything you wanted to say to make things clear to her, you are probably better of letting things be. She can think about your words and make up her mind based on that.
Again, I hope she forgives you because love hurts. It is now hurting you and her and nobody deserves that, because it is an injury of the heart and it can take your sunshine away from you. Nomatter what happens though: once you feel like you did all you could do to mend things and you feel your intentions were pure when you didn't tell her you were still living with your ex-partner, you shouldn't invest any more of your energy, because there ARE more women in the world who would be more understanding. We are all just human and surely you weren't out there to hurt her feelings like that. Good luck and keep us posted. Either way I hope you both feel better soon. thanks... | |
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