I've had to deal with this for about 12 years, and it's not fun. I keep waiting for her libido to catch up again to what it once was.

It takes a lot of patience.

TMPletz said:

woman usually hit their sexual prime between 35 to 45 .... if she falls n that age range and not there then well errr ummmm ...

I think it's amazing how people are saying they wouldn't leave the realtionship and not too long ago, some of these same people were talking about how IMPORTANT sex was in a relationship on another thread...wow...

Sex is Symbolic Therefore important in expressing onez self in a relationship...if they have their genitalz removed when they are old- then it would by kinda assy to leave them just cause of dat (unless they wanted it in the first place, and decided to wait till cock or fanny is removed to tell em)- but if the problem is deeper then it is an excellent idea for the partner to leave.

depends on the reason.

little...may try to work on things.

none...no way...i'm outta there....i don't NEED it all the time but its an important part of a relationship to me.

charlottegelin said:

You horn bag!

althom said:

jerseykrs said:

mm hmmm

Janfriend said:

LAWD, sex IS still important There's a difference between whack/terrible sex & matching your sex drives... you know that, right?



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hmm well as long as u feel desired and loved

Anybody here that says sex is not important is either getting a lot of it or is LYING!!!

There are various levels of intimacy in every relationship, but the physical intimacy (in my opinion) is one that is a cornerstone because it allows us to communicate and bond without the words getting in the way. Physical connections are a fundamental NEED for all mammals.

There are most certainly "exceptions" including illnesses, but if the other person simply isn't having it....then it IS a HUGE problem....

Good points Muse, lillith, missy and most of the ladies.....guys.....you get no points for TRYING to be politically correct....sex is a big deal.....

TMPletz said:

Every women is different. You are a great man for being patient and understanding.
Like I said before, I tell every dr that I see and they act like it is normal...

I think we all pay way too much attention to TV and magazines these days. We compare ourselves to others and that can be a problem.

pardonme4livin said:

Physical connection and intimacy is different for a man & a women. We both have different needs. There is more to intimacy then SEX.
Most women need to feel a connection or a bond with their men to be intimate & physical.
I know couples that have sex all of the time but do not have the strong connection & bond that my husband & I have.

I think it is truly impossible to keep your sex drive going consistant in a relationship, especially if you are a women..

pardonme4livin said:

i agree with this...i think that people who are in a relationship where they have similar sex drives or have lots of sex dont realise the effect it can have on a relationship if it aint there....no matter how much in love you are.....in fact the more feelings you have for your partner....it harder it is to live with little or no intimacy....sex is the glue that holds relationships together....without it....everything falls apart

blackbob said:

In a relationship that has a good sexual element, it is only a small part of that relationship. In a relationship where sex is difficient, it is a HUGE part of that relationship! (or something like that!)

CalhounSq said:

sure if you say so...

I'm starting to think that I may be asexual because I think sex is just overrated

no i couldn't leave my old man just because of that. this is a hit home type of thread for me tho cuz I have had alot of illnesses and surgeries since we got together and our sex life changed alot. I nearly died 3 times last year and his main focus is still sex.

blackbob said:

Janfriend said:

'kay

yroseoft said:

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blackbob said:

Been down this road before! You first must explore the myriad of reasons your partner may not wish to engage in sex. For women it is (in most cases) emotional and if another part of the relationship is lacking in any way, it can result in no sex. I have a very high libido, so I cannot speak from the other side. I'll always want it!

pardonme4livin said:

You big old horn dog!!!!

althom said:

What? I gave the obligatory "In my opinion"

pardonme4livin said:

Yeah! In 'my opinion" you're a big old horn dog!

Sweeny79 said:

i agree with what your saying. sex is important whether its admitted or not. and i don't see how it being important is shallow-it is a very intimate thing. and when one person in the couple seems uninterested for long periods of time, something is wrong and a change has to be made unless of course like other people on the thread said for medical reasons then thats different.

I would leave and then call them friend. Why stay together if your not gonna fuck?

jerseykrs said:

But trying to convince someone with a high sex drive that they need to accept sex 12 times a year is fucked up as well.

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

And I agree with you here. I wouldn't leave my partner if the lack of sex had to do with they had become paralyzed from the waist down.

Unfortunately, that would involve me chopping off my hand.

sinisterpentatonic said:

I just said that before reading this post Great minds.....