MartyMcFly said: MartyMcFly said: [Flame bait snip - luv4u] [snip - luv4u] I was flamed Damn you McFly. | |
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LleeLlee said: MartyMcFly said: RICIDULOUS!!! I was flamed Damn you McFly. [snip - luv4u] | |
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MartyMcFly said: LleeLlee said: I was flamed Damn you McFly. [snip - luv4u] You're becoming extremely annoying. | |
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People can improve themselves. And people that are not that intelligent can become smarter. But you can only do so much with looks. If the girl is butt ugly she is only going to be able to improve her looks so much. And she is only going to get uglier over time. Better for a woman to be hot at one time and then decline over time than be ugly the whole time. | |
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Fauxie said: Ace said: I don't stop for one second to consider my "attractiveness" if I meet someone I find attractive (and my standards are generally ridiculously high ). I engage them in conversation and, if they're interesting, I pursue it (or they pursue me ).
I've dated actresses, models, whatever...there is no one "outside my league". There are, however, people whose intellectual capacity is below my league. That's great that you have the self-assuredness that you don't let it dictate in any way how and who you date. Surely you understand it goes both ways though re your last comment. If you're asking if I'm aware that there are people that are smarter than me, yes I'm aware of that. | |
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shaomi said: Fauxie said: Have you always taken into account your opinion of your own attractiveness when looking for a partner? Is it true that most of the time we know our 'league' physically and we tend to look within that range for potential partners, then find someone in that range whose other characteristics are desirable to us?
I posit that we are therefore, on the whole, pretty superficial beings, and despite our best efforts to champion the cause for inner beauty, outer beauty still holds the most sway. I think there's truth in the fact that we consider ourselves physically too attractive for some and not attractive enough for others and that this dictates to some extent how we find a partner. It's all well and good to say that people have different tastes and find different people physically attractive, but ultimately there is a basic level of agreement among people about what is attractive in people and what is not. Does this mean, therefore, that all but the very attractive have, to some extent, to settle for less than they'd desire? But would we freely admit this? I think we may well try to claim that our partner is the most attractive to us physically, but is that really true? If given a choice between our partner as they are and basically the same person but physically more attractive, who would we pick? Are we just comfortable with how the whole thing works and do we just accept it as a fact of life? Are you someone who has taken this into account when dating? Or are you someone who takes issue with this idea, instead gravitating towards people who you find attractive regardless of your own physical self-image? I'd love to hear your thoughts on this. Well... i've always considered myself special but i wasn't that attractive b4 a few years, when years of learning about how 2 look & behave 2 b attractive made me become so (or so i guess from what people tell me)... This being said, it's true that there was a time when it REALLY got on my nerves when a girl i had no interest in tried 2 catch me. So 4 many years the girls i had were not the girls i REALLY wanted 2 b with. The girls i wanted 2 b with were DA BOMB! Not bimbos, but the girls everybody wanted 2 b with cuz they were so beautiful AND so intelligent AND so charming. But the girls i was with were, well, girls that might have been cute or clever, but they were not everybody's fantasy. That got on my nerves 4 years... Then, it began 2 change... I guess i became what i had always wanted 2 b, there4 i began 2 b able 2 date the girls i REALLY wanted 2 date. I guess my last 6 girlfriends or so were "girls that everybody want 2 b with" (well, FACT IS that everybody wanted 2, anyway, which sometimes also means lots of trouble because some men r really wolves & would do anything including lying 2 fuck ur girlfriend). Of course i didn't chose them 4 that reason. I chose 'em because they were so... Wow! & it happened that everybody thought like me. Now that my ego has been satisfied, i happen 2 have also learned the true meaning of deep love along the way. But anyway, i guess i'll keep on being with "dabomb" girls... Just because i don't c any reason 2 stop now that i'm there... & just 4 the pleasure 2 make 'em all jealous . [Edited 9/27/05 15:38pm] [Edited 9/27/05 15:40pm] [Edited 9/27/05 15:42pm] & now i'm gonna date Lise !!! | |
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Fauxie said: This was a serious thread.
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Nomad said: I've not dated but I think I've always been attracted to guys that are way out of my league
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althom said: Nomad said: I've not dated but I think I've always been attracted to guys that are way out of my league
Oh SHADDAP!!!!! | |
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abierman said: althom said: Oh SHADDAP!!!!! | |
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Ocean said: Spats said: I do pick girlfriends carefully. My friends have actually said i pick them too carefully. I would rather have a short relationhip with a beautiful girl than a very long one with a ugly girl. I am in my prime years. If i am turned off by their looks we not going to have much of a sex life. What's the point in being with someone if you are not going to have a sex life?????
Anbody get can smarter. Just go to school. A person can only do so much with their looks though. You have to be attracted to a partner for it to be long lasting..but looks alone isn't love its lust..... I'm an pretty unattractive man....hope you're right! | |
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pardonme4livin said: Ocean said: You have to be attracted to a partner for it to be long lasting..but looks alone isn't love its lust..... I'm an pretty unattractive man....hope you're right! Oh well I'm sure someone will take pity on u | |
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Ocean said: pardonme4livin said: I'm an pretty unattractive man....hope you're right! Oh well I'm sure someone will take pity on u Not interested eh? | |
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Ace said: Fauxie said: That's great that you have the self-assuredness that you don't let it dictate in any way how and who you date. Surely you understand it goes both ways though re your last comment. If you're asking if I'm aware that there are people that are smarter than me, yes I'm aware of that. | |
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Fauxie said: LleeLlee said: I think you're a handsome fella and you know you are Fauxie. I usually gravitate towards personality, yes looks come into it, I think they do for everyone, but I would go for an interesting intelligent person rather than a beautiful air head. See that's the thing, I don't. I have a poor self-image and always have. I never had a gf in school, dated, or anything. I was shy and had a poor self-image, as I said, and I think that's the reason I would hang around the girls I found most attractive who were the most sought after and would chat with them, as I guess I thought I didn't stand a chance so there was no harm to be done to me there. I've only just realised this through thinking about this thread. Interesting! I wholeheartedly agree with you regards an interesting intelligent person over a beautiful air head, but I don't think that negates my original point. I'm thinking about the very first stages, when seeing someone, or indeed not seeing them if indeed we do filter people out. That's a shock, you're very handsome. | |
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unlucky7 said: Fauxie said: See that's the thing, I don't. I have a poor self-image and always have. I never had a gf in school, dated, or anything. I was shy and had a poor self-image, as I said, and I think that's the reason I would hang around the girls I found most attractive who were the most sought after and would chat with them, as I guess I thought I didn't stand a chance so there was no harm to be done to me there. I've only just realised this through thinking about this thread. Interesting! I wholeheartedly agree with you regards an interesting intelligent person over a beautiful air head, but I don't think that negates my original point. I'm thinking about the very first stages, when seeing someone, or indeed not seeing them if indeed we do filter people out. That's a shock, you're very handsome. Well, thank you. I guess I'm just very introverted and unconfident about my appearance, though I would never think myself insecure or negative about myself in general. | |
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pardonme4livin said: Ocean said: Oh well I'm sure someone will take pity on u Not interested eh? If it doesn't work out with Nat ..I'll let ya know lol | |
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Fauxie said: unlucky7 said: That's a shock, you're very handsome. Well, thank you. I guess I'm just very introverted and unconfident about my appearance, though I would never think myself insecure or negative about myself in general. Let me put you @ ease Faux: you're a cutie Now get over it | |
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gemini13 said: MartyMcFly said: No you were not. I, however, was "snipped" by an overzealous moderator. You're becoming extremely annoying. FLAMEBAIT!!! | |
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MartyMcFly said: gemini13 said: You're becoming extremely annoying. FLAMEBAIT!!! No, the truth is just harsh. | |
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HamsterHuey said: MartyMcFly said: FLAMEBAIT!!! No, the truth is just harsh. damn straight! | |
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MartyMcFly said: gemini13 said: You're becoming extremely annoying. FLAMEBAIT!!! Stop being so childish and I won't find you annoying. | |
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gemini13 said: MartyMcFly said: FLAMEBAIT!!! Stop being so childish and I won't find you annoying. Oh yes you will..... | |
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abierman said: gemini13 said: Stop being so childish and I won't find you annoying. Oh yes you will..... | |
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Ace said: I don't stop for one second to consider my "attractiveness" if I meet someone I find attractive (and my standards are generally ridiculously high ). I engage them in conversation and, if they're interesting, I pursue it (or they pursue me ).
I've dated actresses, models, whatever...there is no one "outside my league". There are, however, people whose intellectual capacity is below my league. And there it is! I too have had the experience of dating a wide range of women in my lifetime and never once took my own looks into consideration when pursuing a femme. I simply guaged my level of intrigue solely on how the chemistry worked or did not. Then moved from there. The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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Generally, men aren't conditioned to think that women are too good for them physically. I think men have more problem handling a woman that's more accomplished than they are. The reverse is probably true for women.
Personally, I don't feel any type of woman is out of my league. It just comes down to who I find attractive. I have standards to which I won't go below. These are standards of physical traits, personality, and intellect. Most people with an abundance of one are going to be deficient in another area so it basically comes down to having the right combination. I would have to admit intellect is the least important for me. All I look for is a good amount of common sense . Personality is the most important. There are intangibles-- such as the way a woman carries herself-- that will dictate how the relationship goes. Physical attraction is somewhere in between. A woman's eyes, smile, style of dress, and shape are all factors. Something distinguishing is a plus. Orgnote me if you're qualified | |
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Baby...
U know its clear to me... That you could use a date tonight. A body that could do u right. Am i QUALIFIIIIIEEEDUH? Im in agreement with Whodknee on this--it basically comes down to having the right combination of personality traits, or at least being able to tolerate them in the even that they do have some deficiencies. But i think as to appearances-- they all usually have to at least appear kempt-- as far as hygienically (i check fingernails), style of dress (i'm very particular on this point) and teeth (im extremeley picky in this regard, and im not really sure why.) And if you were wondering yes, i check all of this in about the 1st 20-30 seconds. If i cant examine them, im really unlikely to do anything else. Dynamic Savior Said: Also, do you think that ugly people are God's cruel joke on humanity (like the platypus and the heterosexual) or another form of population control? | |
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I had a friend who hit on girls he KNEW that were outside his league, becuase his theory was that it doesn't matter if 99% turn him down. If he scores with just 1%, he's scored with a bombshell. | |
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