so i broke up with tommy, as he has this hideous habit of saying the N word at the drop of a hat.

i don't understand why people feel that it is okay to slur other ethnicities just because we both happen to be white? why are people so fucking stupid???

cborgman said:

well, just see it as an opportunity to educate.

Rhondab said:

no freaking way. at 30, if he hasn't learned how inappropriate that is, i am so not gonna continue to date him. i could never end up with him, not only on general principle of it, but also all of m neices and nephews are black, so i could never take him home to meet my family for fear he'sd open his mouth.

IrresistibleB1tch said:

hi hon.

what's weird is this is the second guy i have broken up with for the same thing. what the hell is wrong with people? especially as gay men, you would think they would be a bit more compassionate and aware of how ridiculous it is.

Never be rude to an Arab,
An Isreali, or Saudi, or Jew.
Never be rude to an Irishman,
No matter what you do.

Never poke fun at a Nigger,
A Spic, or a Wop, or Kraut.
And never poke fun at at...



From; http://www.serve.com/bonzai/monty/
http://www.serve.com/bonz...detoanArab

HamsterHuey said:

eazy killa...

cborgman said:

why do you think he is just suppose to learn because he's 30. This is why this stuff continues. You have the perfect opportunity to check him and educate him and you're gonna pass. He needs to hear it from a peer and not from Al Sharpton.



You don't have to date him but I'd definitely let him know what the deal is.

IrresistibleB1tch said:

Did ve win zer var, fraulein Bitch? Zer secund vun. Danke.

TheRealFiness said:

The punch line is that the singer gets whacked...

It aint no fun if you have to explain it... Americans and Brit humour...

IrresistibleB1tch said:

I've had this problem as well. Poeple find out I'm of German descent, and they automatically think that I'm some kind of Nazi that agrees that I'm part of the "Aryan Race". It's fucking ridiculous. And embarrassing.

Congratulations on being one of the few humans who will stand up to racism..

I applaud you! :clap2: and hug you, too!

I get really frustrated these days, people, all people come up to me, and either they talk to me in Thai, Spanish, or Korean..

I don't know any of those languages, and why do they assume? Beats the shit out of me.

sag10 said:

people regularly assume that I'm Dominican and I'm not. I don;t mind when people ask me but some people just assume it and that makes things awkaward. Like when someone speaks to me in Spanish and I'm all like, "huh?" Or when they tell other people that i'm dominican without verifying it with me first and then I'm all like, "wha? who told you i was dominican?"

not that these people are racist or anything. just that they should never assume.

Did he say nasty things about colour people ar just the "N word"?

See. I live in a country where you can say THAT word without being considered a racist.I mean, it's just a word. It's the context what makes it dirty.

So I guess I might get into troble if I ever went over there

sag10 and JasmineFire. Read again what you just said.
You hate people assuming you're not all-american!!!
THAT sounds more racist to me.

It's even worse when you're not white and folks say it about your people. Then when you give them the look they say "oh, but you're not like that", just because you don't fit the stereotype.

PANDURITO said:

No, I am very proud of my Latin culture...

Please don't misconstrue what I have posted.

Being asian, I was always preceived as being the "least threatening" of the minority races growing up. Ergo, my white friends freely told me about how much they disliked mexicans and blacks, etc, etc.

During my teenage years I went through a maturation of my understanding of race and soon divorced those friends for newer, more "modern" friends.

sag10 said:

OK.
Adios

Oops

Goodbye

PANDURITO said:

I would like to hear you use the word nigger in a sentence and it not be racist. "I was walking down the street and I saw a nigger." ????

I'm just curious and I'm not being an ass but I really want to know what context makes it not racist.

And I don't mean "What up my nigga?"

Rhondab said:

Sorry. I meant in Spanish. I live in Spain and we can say negro to a negro without sounding rude.
"Caminaba por la calle y vi a un negro..." You can say that.

But I know this is another culture so

That is my absolute MAIN problem with dating. Everything is cool and then they say something stupid. It's funny how they (whatever they are) feel like it's okay to poke at other races, except mine. What hypocrisy. At that point it's ovah!!!!

AND...I don't care if anyone mistakes me for another race. I don't understand why people trip. When I was 5 people thought I was Japanese or Philipino and that is great by me. With me humanity comes first before race. Yeah my ancestors did some great things but THEY'RE the ones who did it not I.

M

Rhondab said:

I have to agree with you there. You say in that in certain neighborhoods or around certain people, you just might catch a beat down. I don't think there is any instance when you use that word and it's OK in any kind of way.
And as for the original topic, people would make offensive remarks to me about othee cultures, mainly black and expect me to side with them When I let them know, I've got black neices and nephew and will probably have black children myself one day, they feel stupid. And usually, that weeds out assholes, racist and other undesirables I don't want in my life.

PANDURITO said:

ohhhhh....negro is a different...

The "n" word is "nigger"...not negro. Negro is the race of the person...I still don't know what the hell a nigger is suppose to be.

Just an ignorant-ass person - regardless of race, not that anyone uses it in that way.

PANDURITO said:

Yes, even in Mexico, the word Negro (which literally means black) is used as a description than a racist comment. Mexicans in America have started to change it because they know how it sounds and they usually say Moreno (like Rita Moreno) which means dark skinned.


M

This stuff piss's...pisses me off . With me I don't know, I know people who talk bad about other races and I get upset...I kind of stand up for that race. It hurts hearing about this stuff. These people are so uneducated. Well I guess one day people's minds will change, these days are better than the 60's atleast.

This is a lack if intelligence thing. Watch for signs with the next person, they're usually there.

To me, if I wouldn't be someone's friend, why would I be in a relationship with them?

The other thing is, when will be people ever realize that Race doesn't exist?

It was invented by a scientist in the 1700's to control people. The word "Caucasion" was because this scientist thought the people from the Caucas mountians (outside of turkey) have the perfect skull shape so white people became caucasions. It's beyond ignorant in today's age to keep these social constructs alive from generation to generation.

Culture (learned behaviour) exists but racist horseshit is also learned behaviour and it has to end because there are more important things in the world to deal with.

Rhondab said:

oh, sorry hon, i misunderstood. i thought you meant i should keep seeing him.

no, no, BELIEVE that i said something... more than just one something. that ignorant fuck got all kinds of hell from me.

sag10 said:

thanks hon.

it wouldn't be so frusterating if this was the first guy i have een through this with.