Men, if you love and trust your future wife, why do you need one?

Women, if you love and trust your future husband, what's the big deal in signing one?

I would never..

Unless I was filthy rich and I didnt want his paws on my money..

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

I shoulda got one coz i got big time ass fucked when i got divorced

trust, schmust. bring on the pre-nups. if someone loves me enough, they'll trust my decision for us to sign one.

mdiver said:

you got divorced????

Anxiety said:

OMG!!!

REDBABY said:

Yep.....and maybe again if you are real nice to me

Seriously I got married young and then got bum loved out of a lot of dough

mdiver said:

Dayum.. that sucks..

REDBABY said:

Tell me about it..she was a bitch

I can't imagine marrying someone where it would even be an issue... that said, I don't think it would bother me. I guess it all depends. On lots of things.

CarrieMpls said:

So if he asked you to sign one, wouldnt you think that is a bit strange?

REDBABY said:

It all depends, I suppose. How much money are we talking here?

Yeah, all in all I'd find it odd. But it's not off the table for discussion. I guess it depends on why he thinks it's necessary.

i think pre-nups are great, personally. but i'm someone who really believes in protecting one's sense of self when entering a relationship - not just for me, but for the other person as well. this isn't to say that i'm not into all that beautiful and lovely sharing one's life and coming together as one and all that fabulous shit, but if someone wants to protect and preserve certain things that they want to claim as 100% THEIRS, then hey - i'm all for negotiating those things.

Anxiety said:

My friend is married to a guy, and even in his stoopid pre-nup, he has declared that chair is his, and that table is his.. and all that kinda petty shit, so she can only sit on her chairs and mess with her things..

REDBABY said:

Well that's just petty and sad.

REDBABY said:

well, that's just dumb. his ass would be out the door. i'm talking more about creative property, personal collections, stuff like that.

Anxiety said:

Yes I know, he is a bully and a really nasty person..

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Didn't you start enough trouble with your sex-before-marriage thread?

Ace said:

I can never sew enough discention in straightville

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

No I don't think it would be a big deal. A person shouldn't be marrying for possessions anyways. But I can talk because its not like I'm going to get married anytime soon.

I used to think I'd sign a prenup in a second but now I think it really depends on how the marriage will effect my lifestyle.

Say I married a regular guy w/ a regular job... I keep working & pursuing my goals, our lives fuse pretty evenly & we're happy. Great, I'll sign

However, when you marry a dude who's mad busy & his career SO demanding that you have to make a choice - either live your life as it is in a long distance (i.e. DOOMED) relationship OR you adjust your career/goals/lifestyle in order to be with him - then I think a prenup should have certain stipulations. It doesn't have to be "half" but if I'm giving up my career to be with you (a choice I'd probably never make, but some people do) I would want to be compensated should you decide to leave me one day. I've derailed my financial future to be by your side, you can't just boot me & expect me to pick up where I left off 5/10/20 years ago.

Totally depends on the couple & the decisions they make to be together. Usually it's the woman giving up all her shit & getting left in the end, so I understand the desire to avoid the prenup...