I was dating a guy a couple of years ago, and I thought he was the best guy in the world - honest, caring, positive, sexy (at least to me)... all those characteristics you're looking for in a partner. Everybody around me seemed to think he was great too, cos they were happy for us. So we spent a lot of time together and had the best time, I was really in love. It was a long distance relationship though, and in time I realised that I was running FROM my life here (at home in Stockholm) and not TO a life with him. I also realised I had to heal myself and start loving myself before I could have a constructive, lasting relationship. When I told my boyfriend this, he completely flipped on me. He called me nasty words, spread the word that I was a crazy lying psycho bitch (which of course might be true but for the "lying" part ). He bombarded me with emails putting me down, he really went off the deep end. At one point I was even scared he'd show up at my door, he was that far gone.
Deep breath

So anyway, little by little I talked to others and learned that my ex had done the most horrible things to other women, beat them among other things. I will not put all of it out here cos...well, I don't want to and it didn't happen to me. He had quite the temper but he never threatened me or hit me or anything, I didn't think he was capable of such things. Now that I've found all of this out it's been bothering me a lot because it was a near escape... without a doubt he would have beat me if I'd been able to break up with him face to face. Of course I wouldn't have taken a beating, but still... it's on my mind a lot now and I'm still and kinda scared after the fact.

Have you ever had near escapes like that? Please share

my x-girlfriend spent lost of cash and had a lot of debts in didn't know. I found out and I was pissed (I hate debts and had a bad xperience with a visa card with 250 euros of limit...)

She later dumped me because I wasn't rich and didn't want 2 pay 4 her irresponsability!

It broke my heart and she went back 2 the guy she dated before me who had money!

I heard a few month ago I found out she was spreading the word that I was the best guy she had in bed...

At least my macho reputation increase!

But the broken heart...
[Edited 9/13/05 1:31am]

My good friend had a similar experience. She had never been very confident or happy, and started going out with this guy, who was great at the beginning, like you said. But then he turned into a total psycho and was awful to her, violent and worse. She kicked him out eventually and tried to move on, not before he kicked the door down one last time though. She still has trouble being alone, its awful. I didnt know her when this happened, but Im doing my best to help her get over it now. Asshole. If hes ever unlucky enough to bump into me in the street I swear hell be sorry!!!

Is V, V strange how people change from when you first meet them though....

nothing gets me more mad than men who hit women ....low life scum....if you cant handle the situation....get the fuck out but never lift your hands to a woman.....its the lowest of the low.....glad u got out, teachy

I'm glad U got away from that loser at the right time.
/peace Manki

MikeMatronik said:

Maybe it's just me, but it certainly feels like there are more golddigging women than there are men. Sorry you had to go through that.

btw I'm in serious debt, don't hate me

jacksondeluce said:

Oh yes... I mean he had a temper but so do I so I thought nothing of it. Neither did I think he'd be capable of the things he did to others. I'm still wondering a bit why he didn't do it to me? Not that I'm complaining, just wondering.

blackbob said:

He used it as punishment and control apparently, the woman he was with wasn't allowed to talk to other men AT ALL, and when she was caught doing that, well I get sick just thinking about it.

Thank you I would've been ok though, I got friends with baseball bats and knuckle irons

Teacher said:

How awful!! I'm glad you got away from that jerk!
[Edited 9/13/05 8:57am]

manki said:

Thank you dear Oh wait, I forgot... I'll be in Stockholm on the 19th, so I'll be coming to see you Mosebacke, right?

My ex-boyfriend went insane on me one night. He was punching himself in the head and the would fall to the floor and beat his head on the ground. It was horrible...and all he did was blame me for it when i did nothing. He kept telling me he was gonna kill himself and finally I just told him to get it over with and just do it. Of course he didn't, and I knew he wasn't serious that's why I said that. That was the only night I thought that maybe he could come after me...but he passed out from the last head bang. Thank god.

Yeah, friends with basball bats come in very handy!!

good luck for the future Teach, I hope that this stays with you and you dont allow it to happen again. Patterns are very easy to form, I hope you can be strong enough to see through the next scumbag

jacksondeluce said:

Thanks but it DIDN'T happen to me just to others

psychodelicide said:

You know who I'm talking about girl...

Teacher said:

Well yeah, but he said nasty things etc though? He wasnt great to you?

Sorry, is late!

CarrieLee said:

What a nutter! Blame you for him hitting himself? WTF was he on?

I had one of those too, "I'll kill myself" dudes... a friend of mine called him up saying he'd help for free

jacksondeluce said:

Yeah he was really abusive but it was just in emails so I sorta sat there wondering wtf, I took great offense cos I really loved him and I did a lot to try and make our relationship work.

Teacher said:

I think I do, not sure.

Hey girlie

HollowellSA said:

Hey honey

Teacher said:

I don't know if mine was an escape but it sure worked out for the best

HollowellSA said:

I'd say it was an escape

Teacher said:

Teacher said:

Da Silva will play the 16'th.I really hope U can make it cuz we're gonna
tear the roof off.
/peace Manki

CarrieLee said:

what an asshole, one of my best friends has had a similar experience
with a guy who'd hurt himself like that and even scratch his entire
face open with his nails and run out onto the street blindly without
looking at the traffic and stuff like that.

then he (and to a degree his parents as well) would just blame it all
on her in some twisted way.

eventually she got away from him but it messed her up pretty badly.
of cause the shit just moved on and found another victim to blame all
of his sad shitty actions on.

IstenSzek said:

He said it was because I didn't give him enough love

He still calls me to tell me he loves and misses me. I just laugh at him.

Don't cheat on me.

CarrieLee said:

good! let him have it, the bastard

some people

IstenSzek said:

OH MY GOD!!! HE JUST CALLED ME AT WORK!!!!!

CarrieLee said:

Tell him you were just talking about him on the internet

and that his nickname on the forum is NeedleDick