My parents have been happily married for 34 years and they are still "in love" with each other. They walk hand-in-hand in public and even give each other a little kiss if they feel like it, be it in the supermarket or anywhere else. I don't think couples who are in love are so occupied with "oh look who extends my arm" or "I am holding your hand because I want everyone to see you are my girlfriend/boyfriend". They just want to feel each others touch. With all due respect: I don't think you have ever really been in love.

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

But I've heard of more gay-friendly, open-minded whatever cities where that's definitely not the case: San Francisco, Baltimore, Atlanta, etc. I mean -- I'm not an authority on it, but it seems like the assault specter is an extreme one in this day and age.

jerseykrs said:

this bet is mine

I can't believe it...I am literally surrounded by hand-holders! My suggestion for the new Org mascot:

Soulofmysoul said:

I'm 30 and my wife is 29. We've been married for eight years and we hold hands in public all the time. I'd speculate that the couples you're observing are genuinely in love. They don't have anything to prove, but at the same time they may just be affectionate people. After all this time, my wife and I are still very affectionate. Everyone's different, though.

ThreadBare said:

Atlanta is NOT one of those cities and you're right you're NOT an authority.

I love the feel of his skin.

Why would holding hands be a sign of insecurity????

To me two lovers holding hands is a beautiful jesture of their love
for one another.

ThreadBare said:

I understand what you're saying but we get bashed even in San Francisco. Earlier this year(?) a couple got bashed on 17th and Castro. That's the gayest of all neighborhoods. The thing I don't understand is why the people at the neihghborhood bar didn't go outside and kick the living daylights out of the attackers.


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MIGUELGOMEZ said:

He doesn't understand.

OdysseyMiles said:

Yes.

Some people love each other's energy.

My girlfriend and I aren't the holding-hands-in-public type.

We're more the leap-frogging-over-each-other-in-public type.

(Doesn't draw as much attention as one would think.)

Illustrator said:

Yes!

I actually think it says alot more when you hold them by their genitals in public. Now THAT is showing people that what you have is real.

I think holding hands in public is cute!

ufoclub said:

I'll hold your hand hon

Soulofmysoul said:

Whenever my sweet'ums an' me are standing in line for something like the opera, ballet or live theatre, I notice that many of the passerby's ('specially the men) give off an expression on their faces that I translate as
" Now there's a gal whose hold on her man's genitals is real."

[Edited 9/12/05 13:29pm]

holding hands in public-no
oral sex in public- yaay!

CynthiasSocks said:

come to Canada sweets...i'll show you around and ya'll can walk around holding hands all ya want!!!!

not second class to us....

lillith said:

I definately have to move to Canada. If Candadians will have me.....


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Cynthiasocks said:

Which is what I said at the outset, CS. Do my questions offend you? I apologize, if so.


My memory of this topic was jogged earlier today, when I was taking a lunchtime stroll and saw two young women walking hand in hand down the downtown marketplace. Sure, they got looks from some folks, but they didn't seem worried about being beaten or ridiculed. Maybe that's tied to the double standard our society puts on gay men and women, the politics of sexuality and such. Maybe it's deeper.

GottaLetitgo said:

you and me both..... SWAIT TAY I do like lemon in mine though.....it's nothing "blech" about it either

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

i'd HAVE ya but i heard a rumor you are gay...

seriously...we'd welcome you with open arms!!!

lillith said:

Thanks honey. I do have to appoligize for saying CANDADIANS. What the hell is a CANDADIAN. A Canadian in a can?

I'm not an idiot, so will you still have me?

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MIGUELGOMEZ said:

i would have you anyday...with a side order of fries.

and about the error...s'ok...we Canadians are well preserved, some could be considered 'canned'

GottaLetitgo said:

I DONT THINK IT INSECURTY ITS JUST SOMETHING THEY WANT TO DO

You have all won me over. From now on, I'm holding hands with EVERYONE in public. I don't care if I know them or not!

lotta cultures hold hands in public, even same sexes, no biggie.

GottaLetitgo said:

Wow, are you insecure.

Soulofmysoul said:

You have no idea.

GottaLetitgo said:

Well, congratulations on your most successful thread, ever.