Have you met someone that you feel at the end of the day, whether having an arguement or kissing and cuddling, that you feel understands your views and how you feel as a person? If not, then what would you consider "your equal" person? Your soulmate????

Would they be someone who knows how to listen while argueing their point during an arguement?

Not afraid to tell you whats wrong when you notice that they are down?

Someone who is spontaneous and full of life?

Lowkey and laidback?

Nope haven't met my equal yet, still looking.

I have met a soulmate.

But not an equal.

I doubt one exists - not in terms of being equal, but in terms of being in the same headspace. God help them if they actually do exist.

In some ways, yes, in that she understands me on a non-verbal level completely. An innate (p?) understanding from just being around each other a lot and just knowing most of the time how the other feels.

Having an argument is often rather ridiculous when it comes to a war of words, since I clearly have the upper hand and could metaphorically bash her over the head with all manner of smartassery and manipulation of a language that is, after all, her second. It's a power imbalance that needs careful consideration. In other ways though, in the sense that she will show me when she thinks I'm wrong, does listen to me, is open about how she feels, and is capable of reasoned, logical argument most of the time, she's a great partner.

Ultimately though, she's more like the opposite of me, which means between us all the areas are covered and we learn from each other, which is how I always wanted it to be - different culture, different upbringing, opposite tempers, she's night, I'm day etc.

I never get bored, we do clash in some ways, but we learn and we're both smart enough with it now to do so in a calm, reasoned way, and always with the understanding that we love each other absolutely.

no, but i've come eerily close on a few occasions.

Yes I have.

nope where are you dammit? I'm ready for a serious relationship and I want one now.

missfee said:

does a person like that actually exist if so they would not be my equal but my superior and I would have to bow down before them

I have met my arch nemesis. His name is Tom Toro. One day I will watch him die a horrendous death. Then I will cackle with glee.

I am so good there is no equal to me

Great question...

I've met several people I consider "soulmates," but I've met perhaps only one person I'd consider as having the almost identical psyche. And what an encounter!

Long story short, first we were mutually captivated, then we fell madly in love, then we were both terrified and revolted by the other, then we eventually profoundly hated each-other. Now, I think we're generally over all the passionate reactions, but we'd do well never to see the other again in this life.

Lesson learned: That study in displaced narcissism taught me I'd sooner wrestle my own demons than having to wrestle them to the second power.

Lammastide said:

Well written!

I have had two soulmates one is my best friend. We call ourselves Platonic Lovers. My other soulmate was my ex. He knows me very well even still.


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Never met a woman who was that special. Came close a few times but they always had something wrong with them.

NEVER!!

I don't really think of my partner as an "equal" in that sense but rather as complementary. I would say that their are many similarities between us but also differneces and that together we make a pretty good team. If we were too equal ther would be all out WAR

I would say that my closest "equals" were my best male friend and my brother.

I tink I have met my soulmate, and possibly equal. Im not sure how I feel about that though! What can you do?!
What he misses in equal terms I have a friend who makes up for them all. We are so similar, and sometimes volatile!

All good I suppose, i need to stop taking these things for granted....

All too often, yet I am still single.

missfee said:

Nero is about as close to an equal as can be.

As for men, pffft, there has been no equal.
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soulmate
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i have to spend all the time with myself it would drive me mad being with someone too similar.

I've found my "equal" among the few friends I've made over the years...

But as Predom said, when it comes to lovers, I consider them my "complementary"...very similar in many ways, yet different enough so that the discovery of who they are is continual, and beautiful. Hopefully they'll feel the same towards me.

Fauxie said:

gosh thats great!!!

Right now, can't say what destiny has set fourth for me so it is too early to tell and the past is the past. I refuse to look back and dwell.

no.

Nope. And starting to doubt that i will with the way guys act with me.

No. I've eclipsed all the men I've ever dated.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Let the church say "GOTDAMN."

GlitterStream said:

It's true! It's pretty rare that I meet someone who is intellectually up to par and I nearly never meet anyone that comes anywhere close to the levels of my spirit and heart.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

are meeting them in the right places??? I don't know if you are really looking for someone, but sometimes when you get busy doing things for yourself, that is when mr. right could pop up and surprise you....

missfee said:

I try not to look cuz that is always when it happens. You can't force this shit.