So he/she cheated, but you have YEARS together and if you are truly in love with the person, why breakup or divorce over infidelity or a tryst? Does your partner "stepping out" just diminish all the "Love, Admiration, etc" you two have accumulated over the years? Does it not matter that this person is your so called soulmate that you still wish to spend the rest of your life with? Tell me folks....HOW DEEP "IS" YOUR LOVE?

Myself...I would not break up with my partner of wife over infidelity as we need to examine why it happened in the first place. I know how it can be easy to get into a social rut or routine in a relationship and working on reinventing old shit can be a strain at times. If I am committed to that person wholeheartedly and something like this happens....it happens...we will get by it...and work on the reason it happened and not let it happen again. Then we can learn to play even better!

My Love "is" that deep! I won't break up with the person who is right in my life over sex. But that's just me!

I think being the one who held a marriage together for 16 years only to be verbally abused,slapped and berated in front of your kids is enough reason for a divorce...But who the hell I am I to say anything...I have never known love so I have no opinion

Number23 said:

LMAO!

wtf?

2the9s said:

I have no idea. But I think it fantastic.

EvErSoLeSa said:

Damn!...but um.....Ok....are you on topic or what?

DexMSR said:

no

Adults commit Adultry.

Everyone makes mistakes.....I am in no place to give advice....

I don't think I would leave over it, however he better not think I'm giving him a freakin free pass by staying

hmm depends on the situation...although i do believe

"fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me".

DexMSR said:

I believe in you
You know the door to my very soul
You’re the light in my deepest darkest hour
You’re my saviour when I fall
And you may not think
I care for you
When you know down inside
That I really do
And it’s me you need to show

How Deep Is Your Love?

100% on it.

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Due to my parents' histories (shared and solo) I choose not to have affairs and do not want my baby to have one (or more) either. I made this clear before we married.

16 years later I feel the same and I hope that if my baby were to have an affair I would have the strength to leave. As much as I love him, I have seen affairs bring too much pain and wish no part of it.

I think i couldn't get the thought of some other guy boning her out of my head
that is betrayal
(sorry to sound so blunt)

For me, it would all depend on the circumstances surrounding the affair, as well as the history that I've had with my partner.

It's not a matter of how deep your love is. Some people can be madly and deeply in love and not survive infidelity, others who are moderately in love might manage it. It's a matter of where and how sharply you've drawn boundaries for the relationship.

I personally would find it very hard to forgive infidelity. On the other hand, I could see myself allowing her to sleep with someone else under certain circumstances. Go figure.

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retina said:

I understand and can relate.

DexMSR said:

do you want that in inches?






my answer:

people lie. love is nothing but a vulgar 4 letter word, and a silly game; it's all about who plays it better. but if you "love" this person; then obviously talk it out and find the real meaning behind the infidelity. which pretty much just comes down to being horny. i think it'll always be in the back of the other person's mind. broken trust is basically no trust.



hope that helped ya Dexy-poo!!! whap whap!

chico4U said:

Not necessarily. When I was with my ex, I cheated for 2 reasons:

1-He accused me of cheating all the time and since I was getting my ass kicked over it, literally getting my ass kicked, I finally decided that if I was going to get in trouble, I might as well do the crime

2-It was more for emotion and intimacy than out of sheer horniness. I was looking for comfort rather than jollies.



Dexy-Poo

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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

quit getting all smarts on me and shit!!




but seriously...you weren't FORCED to have sex. that was ultimately your decision. you can be intimate and comforted, and still keep your stuff under lock and key right?

chico4U said:

Sure. but who want's blue balls? I don't

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

someone once said ,, "when ya ain't gotta man; ya gotta hand!"
needless to say she was unheard of ever since.

Would I forgive him if he cheated? Probably, but it would be an awful time for a long time after, because there would be a third person in the marriage that would be on my mind constantly, not very easy to forget. I have a family to think of and I would sacrifice my happiness for the sake of our children (I know my husband would feel the same). Everyone is a loser if this were ever to happen.

I have to agree with those that say it depends upon the circumstances. I have had a very deep, meaningful relationship with a woman that did not involve vaginal intercourse. In my most recent relationship, despite my futile efforts to build a worthwhile connection, there was lots of sex.

I think I would be able to forgive a sexual indiscretion, provided she had no emotional attachment to the person. I know firsthand how frustrating it can be to care so much for someone and yet have little more to show for a relationship than sex. I still miss her, but we could have had so much more.

DexMSR said:

chico4U said:

todd305 said:

beautifully said!!

I could never trust that person again, my 2 cents. The person who fools around made that decision themselves to do it. Once a cheater always a cheater, kick them to the curb.

todd305 said:

So you only had anal sex then? To each their own...



You make it sound like love and sex are mutually exclusive.

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