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Do You Think Most People Enter Into Relationships... ...
Like this: 
Jumping right in without thought, letting the adrenaline high of new attraction dictate everything... Like this: 
Calculating, deliberate, analytical...entering into a relationship because it "makes sense", with each move made to guarantee against any unforeseen "checkmates"... Like this: 
Putting on costumes and playing roles, trying to figure out who you need to be and what you need to say in order to get the other person to fall in love with you... Like this: 
You throw enough darts, you're bound to hit the "bullseye" sooner or later...right??... Or like this: 
Finding a connection first, and letting the issue of having a relationship come second... What do you think motivates most of us to want to start a relationship??... | |
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after my last one, I have come to accept that they are all useless. | |
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jerseykrs2 said: after my last one, I have come to accept that they are all useless.
They all serve their purpose, don't you think??... | |
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Byron said: jerseykrs2 said: after my last one, I have come to accept that they are all useless.
They all serve their purpose, don't you think??... well, in a way, yes. | |
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Certainly for myself, in the past, it's been jumping in and being all excited for about six months. Then it turns to shit.
Thus, I've tried thinking in the past year of doing things because they make sense. Little in the world of love and relationships makes sense though. 
Damn your questions, Byron. Insatiable taught me everything I know about balls.
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all of the above.
i hope 2 experience the last pic. | |
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With my first relationship...i went in2 it like this:
Then i decided after it was over..i would be more like this
and after a connection was found....i became more like this:
i wanted 2 make sure that this time my heart wouldn't get broken...i was far more careful... and that paid off big time...  | |
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I think all these cases happen depending on who & when. I guess we wanna start relationships just cuz we humans ARE like this, wanting 2 b loved & all...
As far as i'm concerned, i've noticed that most (but not all) women started relationships quite on a defensive & suspicious mode, cuz lotsa men had behaved like shit with 'em. Like: "this guy seems 2 respect me so much: there's GOT 2 b a trap somewhere!". As 4 myself, it really depends, but i've always tried 2 b honest with the other & get her 2 b honest with me. I'm only human, though, & i sometimes played games in order 2 "figure out who you need to be and what you need to say in order to get the other person to fall in love with you". I'm more confident in myself now so i try not 2 anymore. I'm just at the beginning of a relationship right now & i'm really tryin' 2 find the right balance between being sweet & open 2 the other's difficulties & respecting myself by not accepting shit by fear of being left alone, which i used 2 do waaaay 2 much b4. I'll let u know  | |
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Byron said: ...
Or like this:
Finding a connection first, and letting the issue of having a relationship come second... This is me 99.9% of the time. I get analytical after the fact. Wanted: Virtual Sugar Daddy to help me buy stuff on Farmville and move up the ranks. Use of Viagra not authorized. Get your two minutes and go! | |
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This was me when it came to getting married...
I wasn't worried about any possible "checkmates", but I did get married because it "made sense"...  I was very logical and analytical about it, looking back...it was the "right thing to do", what I was "supposed" to do.
My relationships since, though, have been like this...
Which means there haven't been many...but I find it hard to be any other way, now... | |
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I've probably tried all of the above and none of them work.
I'm crap at relationships. Best to leave well enough alone.  |
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CarrieMpls said: I've probably tried all of the above and none of them work.
I'm crap at relationships. Best to leave well enough alone. Let's get married then!  | |
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althom said: CarrieMpls said: I've probably tried all of the above and none of them work.
I'm crap at relationships. Best to leave well enough alone. Let's get married then! 
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CarrieMpls said: althom said: Let's get married then!
I knew that was coming!  | |
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althom said: CarrieMpls said:
I knew that was coming! You're scaring her...!!  | |
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Yes...yes...yes.....yes.... and yes.
 I have been in on one to many serious threads today.
I am boycotting this one!  | |
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Byron said: ...
Like this:
Jumping right in without thought, letting the adrenaline high of new attraction dictate everything... Like this:
Calculating, deliberate, analytical...entering into a relationship because it "makes sense", with each move made to guarantee against any unforeseen "checkmates"... Like this:
Putting on costumes and playing roles, trying to figure out who you need to be and what you need to say in order to get the other person to fall in love with you... Like this:
You throw enough darts, you're bound to hit the "bullseye" sooner or later...right??... Or like this:
Finding a connection first, and letting the issue of having a relationship come second... What do you think motivates most of us to want to start a relationship??... You're deep my brotha'.... Good observations.....  | |
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funkpill said: Byron said: ...
Like this:
Jumping right in without thought, letting the adrenaline high of new attraction dictate everything... Like this:
Calculating, deliberate, analytical...entering into a relationship because it "makes sense", with each move made to guarantee against any unforeseen "checkmates"... Like this:
Putting on costumes and playing roles, trying to figure out who you need to be and what you need to say in order to get the other person to fall in love with you... Like this:
You throw enough darts, you're bound to hit the "bullseye" sooner or later...right??... Or like this:
Finding a connection first, and letting the issue of having a relationship come second... What do you think motivates most of us to want to start a relationship??... You're deep my brotha'.... Good observations..... Agreed. Pill. Byron is touching bases on some hot issues in relationships. | |
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Personally, I prefer this approach myself:
 When I read about the evils of drinking, I gave up reading. | |
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MadameS said: funkpill said: You're deep my brotha'.... Good observations..... Agreed. Pill. Byron is touching bases on some hot issues in relationships. Thank you, both... *smile* | |
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bkw said: Personally, I prefer this approach myself:
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bkw said: Personally, I prefer this approach myself:
I guess I tend to do this...  | |
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I can't answer either way... Its been 19 mounths... One keeps calling and I keep sending it to voice mail!  | |
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DeactivatedMUSE said: I can't answer either way... Its been 19 mounths... One keeps calling and I keep sending it to voice mail!
Forward the voicemail to me...  | |
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Byron said: bkw said: Personally, I prefer this approach myself:
I guess I tend to do this... Aww Byron   | |
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Byron said: DeactivatedMUSE said: I can't answer either way... Its been 19 mounths... One keeps calling and I keep sending it to voice mail!
Forward the voicemail to me... Oh heeeeelllll No! You'll call and wreck me! | |
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DeactivatedMUSE said: I can't answer either way... Its been 19 mounths... One keeps calling and I keep sending it to voice mail!
I knew you were home!!!!! | |
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MadameS said: Byron said: I guess I tend to do this... Aww Byron Nah...spent too many of my years denying it existed...feels kinda good to have it out in the open now..*smile* | |
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althom said: DeactivatedMUSE said: I can't answer either way... Its been 19 mounths... One keeps calling and I keep sending it to voice mail!
I knew you were home!!!!! | |
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althom said: DeactivatedMUSE said: I can't answer either way... Its been 19 mounths... One keeps calling and I keep sending it to voice mail!
I knew you were home!!!!! | |
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