I recently talked to my friend about cancelling our trip to Spain/Italy. All of this is because I want to be with my best-friend in his time of need (see other thread). She seemed surprised that I wanted to cancel. In turn I kind of got upset. I didn't say anything about it though. It's almost like I'm flaking on her or something. I just don't feel right going.

I'm only sayin'


M
[Edited 8/26/05 11:19am]

One thing I can say to this is that it is hard dealing with a long term illness, especially one that is serious.


On one hand you want to stop everything and give your full attention to the one you love.

On the other hand, life goes on.

It's a HORRIBLE paradox.

Do what YOU know you need to do. Everything else will fall into place.

I dont know what the fuck is wrong with folks!!! Your friend could be on his death bed and she is talking about a trip!!! Tell the bitch to get a life and get her priorities straight!!!

Spain will be there, we dont know yet how this will turn out for your friend!!! Peeps stuipidity never ceases to amaze me!!!

As much as your friend may understand why you are cancelling, she will still be upset because she's not going to get to go on the trip. If you are backing out of the trip and in effect "letting your friend down" then you've got to allow her to be upset.

JimmyNothing said:

Don't get me wrong, she's been very sensitive about the whole situation. I just expected her to say "Don't worry, I'll cancel everything. Everything is cool." I mean, come on, they gave my friend 6 months. I'm pretty sure we can go after that sometime. She has no employment constraints and she has friends that live where we were going.


M

Nothinbutjoy said:

Could not have stated it any better than this. Go with your heart!

JimmyNothing said:

I understand this, in a way. She has friends in Spain and Italy. She's gone by herself before alone. I didn't tell her to cancel her plans. All I know is that if it was the other way around I would've reacted differently.

M

Miguel, I wish you and your best friend all the strength in the world. Do what your heart tells you to do. Whatever it is. Just make sure you are not left with regret about something you did or didn't do, which you can't take back. Spain and Italy will still be there next year or the year after.
(((((YOU)))))

i was heading to Spain in September/October to see relatives and friends and my 'friend' cancelled on me as well.

rachel3 said:

Agreed, the least Miguel's friend could do is be a little bit more understanding. I can understand her being disappointed in not being able to take the trip, but my gosh, I would think a terminally ill friend would come first!

psychodelicide said:

Thank you for saying that. My friend is my priority right now. I think maybe some people on here don't know that my friend IS terminally ill.

M