On one of Ace's threads, I noticed someone posted a bit about how their father was 26 years older than their mother. As a notorious dater of older men, I feel there's nothing wrong with this.

But, what is the general feeling you get when you see an older fellow and a younger chick? Share your own experiences with age differences, too, by all means.

What is the biggest age difference you've ever had in a relationship? What do you feel the difficulties involved were?

Nero said:

hehe...my dad's girlfriend was 28 when they started dating and my dad was like 44 or 45... they just recently broke up...my dad is now 57.

my mom was 33 and was dating an 18 year old. ugh! that sucked!

As long as all are of legal age I see no problems. If it works, it works.

If I wasn't with my boyfriend right now. I would LOVE to date a man in his 40s or 50s. I think they are extremly sexy and seem more secure with themselves. I really don't look down upon a younger woman that dates an older man. I really see the appeal. Ever since I was a kid I always related very well to older people. I was the weird kid at recess who wanted to talk to my teachers rather than go hang with my classmates. I really feel just as comfortable with older even more so than men my age actually! And there is that safe, secure, taken care of feeling you get with older men...and you can just tell they really appreciate and respect you and your time.

Nero said:

That was me. I thought for sure I'd choose an older man, as my mother did, but my husband is only 2 years my senior. I am, of course, offended when I see an aging man 'trade-in' his aging wife for a younger version, but in terms of true love, to sound cliched - age ain't nothin' but a number.

jillybean said:

As Lloyd Cole said, "The reason they call it a cliche, is because it's true..."

Nero said:

I'm all for it.


My last girlfriend was 15 years younger than me. I also had a one-night-stand a few years back with a young lady who'd just turned 18.

My girlfriend was hyper-intelligent and incredibly mature for her age. When we ended the relationship, it had nothing to do with age.

As for the 18-year-old, she was the aggressor and (as it was understood this would be a one-night thing) we didn't give the long-term compatibility much thought.

Ace said:

Ace, you're one of the hottest guys I know.

I dated a 21 year old, just a few times though, so I'm not sure if it counts.

Nero said:

Thanks, but you flatter me. You know I think you're swell, too (although I do worry that sometimes you can wield your intelligence as a weapon when no fight is called for). You have great potential - don't disappoint me.

Ace said:

I'd probably shag you.

Nero said:

In that case, forget about that intelligence-as-a-weapon nonsense and get over here!

Ace said:

You'd not even be the oldest shag I'd have anymore.

You wonderful, beautiful, skinny Canadian man.

Nero said:

my feelings? yuck

the age gap cannot be overcome. age = wisdom and learning experiences, different perspectives and places in life

what kind of 40 yr old guy wants to hang with a woman who is still grappling with 20 year old issues? immature guys might go for that but i say yuk

XxAxX said:

my dad apparently. I don't consider him immature though.. I hear what you are saying but...I do think it's possible..difficult but possible, and I feel there's a big dif between 20 and say 27,8,or9.

a 10 or 15 year difference might work....other than that, i think could be difficult...different eras, different beliefs, not too sure it would work....
Just my opinion....

I know I'm just a kid but I've dated people 4 or 3 years older than me...

Then again we all know how things like that end up.

my current is 11 years older than me.


it jsut seems I date older men.

I have no problem with it, as long as I am not looked at as the trophy or whatever

Never done more than 3 years younger & 4 years older than me .

As far as goes my opinion about it, i'll just say that i wouldn't mind that habit if it wasn't precisely an habit. IMO a bloody patriarcal habit that women keep encouraging.

So bad...
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the guy i'm seeing is 9 years younger...and he's...oops i mean its fantastic.

Personally, I don't have an issue with dating older men b/c I've always dated older men. The man in my life not only has to be able to stimulate me sexually but mentally as well. Younger men and men around my age don't challenge me enough.
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CarrieMpls said:

well said.

i'm seeing a woman who is eleven years younger than me. i'm 32 and she's 21. we have discussed the age gap and we both seem to be fine with it. after all, her parents share an age gap similiar to ours.
we just enjoy each others company. it's as simple as that. nothing more to it. understandably, i may have had a few more experiences than her in regards to life but she may have different perspectives as well. we both went off to college and have lived abroad so we do share those experiences.
the thing that surprises me the most about this relationship is the fact that she is blonde - my type of woman is darker in both looks and personality. latin, black, etc etc.

so far, so good.

the biggest age difference i've had in a relationship is now...eight years difference

and i love it

i could never date guys my own age...i dont feel like babysitting thanks.

SammiJ said:

The biggest age difference I've had in a relationship was 20 years.
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SammiJ said:

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people should date within their age range, race, and economic "zones".

Imago777 said:

Huh? Why?

Krystal666 said:

That's not important right now.

Do you have naked pix?

orgnote me.

Imago777 said:

Okay Pat Robertson
WTF?
[Edited 9/2/05 14:55pm]

Imago777 said: