BreddieMercury said:

Very romantic.

This was completely mad: I fell in love with an Egyptian man in three days while passing through Cairo. Went back for two more weeks, fell in love some more. Went back a year later for three weeks. Carried on a three-year long distance relationship between U.S. and Cairo. Enabled him to leave everything and fly to America for the first time in his life on a fiance visa two months after 9/11. I let him move into my house and married him a month later. Then reality set in. What frickin' mess.

I am moving back to London. It's only fair since he moved out to California last year. I guess it's my turn (but you won't see me complaining!)

Yeah, Natsume took mine: I moved for someone. Glad it's working out for you, ma'am. I'm a little gun-shy about doing that again.

ReturnOfDOOK said:

Rinluv said:

There's nothing wrong with that at all. Actually, its quite romantic.
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jerseykrs said:

Hotlegs said:

Thank U, Thank U. I appreciate it

wellbeyond said:

Heh.

Sacraficed my own sanity and general well-being in some pretty severe ways.

Crazy enough for ya?

I'm not sure I'd do much different if I could go back, for some complicated reasons, but going forward, it sure as fuck won't happen again.

I moved...twice.

I moved from Cincinnati to Chicago to take a job closer to her in the hopes that I might be able to pursue the relationship I had wanted since college. It worked, and we had a few beautiful years together. She eventually went to business school, and we broke up soon after.

Shortly prior to her b-school graduation, I moved from Chicago to NYC in an effort to rekindle the romance. I knew she would likely move to NYC following graduation. I was right; she did move there -- she even stayed with me for a while while she searched for a place of her own -- but I couldn't save the relationship.

Oh well -- she was the first true love of my life. Can't say in retrospect I would have done anything differently.

Now I'm much older, and I'm in love again. It doesn't look as though this relationship is going to work out (for psychological reasons). I must say that taking a chance on love at all demonstrates tremendous courage, especially given the discouragingly low probability of success. Hats off to all of you (or us, as the case may be).


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Rinluv said:

Your Welcome Always.

Hotlegs said:

Same situation. Still not over. Very torn. I have come to realize that regardless of the reason why, some people are only meant to be in our lives for a season. In this length of time u may experience the good and the not so good but, that era was our moment. Now it is over. Unfortunately, once u try to go back it makes it even harder realize it.

purpleizpassion said:

"You can't build a house of leaves and live like it's an evergreen. . .it's just a season thing. . .it's just that thing the seasons do. . .and that's the way this wheel keeps turning, now. . .that's the way this wheel keeps turning. . .and when you wave goodbye then you just might find if you give it time you will wave hello again. . .you just might wave hello again. . . and that's the way this wheel keeps turning." --J. Mayer, "Wheel"

tackam said:

I like that. Thanx.

That is what I thought was happening and that is partly why I'm torn. Maybe we should wait again. Maybe it's too hard to wait. Maybe waiting was part of the problem. Maybe we just want but, we can't have because the oppertunity was slept on. Maybe we waited too long... OK! enough of the mushy crap. Can't take it anymore.

heartbeatocean said:

What's a fiance visa? My wifey lives in the states... she's moving over here to the UK...

Militant said:

It's probably different for the UK. It's incredibly bureaucratic. There's an application that must be filled out. The authorities then interview the fiance who lives outside of the U.S. If they get approved, they can come to the U.S. and apply for a Green Card and eventually citizenship on the condition that they get married to the U.S. citizen in 90 days. But it takes years and years to get this all through. Not recommended.

Probably the "chili dog".

Natisse said:

I considered spending $1000 just to be on the same stage as him lucky I came to my senses

tackam said:

Hotlegs said:

Really?....

Rinluv said:

Yes.
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ReturnOfDOOK said:

LMFAO!!!!!

ThreadBare said:

I think of it as moving FOR London as much as I'm moving for my boyfriend. If he lived someone completely undesirable to me I wouldn't jump in so quickly. But I love where he's living so it's quite convenient.

sorry it didn't work out for you, thread...

Militant said:

For the UK, I know that if you get a fiance visa, you have 6 months to live and work in the UK. Then you have to get hitched or get out. I am considering doing that after my student work visa expires.

If you're already married, then your wife should be able to enter and work since her hubby is a citizen.