Ex-Moderator | nakedpianoplayer said: i gotta add this...
there was a guy that i dated a while back, he was SOOOOO not my type we kept seeing each other, and before i knew it, i was CRAZY in love with him... i surprised myself as to what a great gift i woulda walked right by because he wasnt my 'type'. the idea is to get past the outside, get to the inside and find the heart and soul of the person. thats where love grows, not from anything in your jeans . You know what? I gotta agree here. I've been struggling with this one myself. On one hand, I can understand the notion that people can't help what they're attracted to. On the other, there are all sorts of folks that I wouldn't normally find as my version of attractive (my 'type' tends to be quite different than the usual) who once I got to know them, I find them downright hot, for various reasons. Attraction really does work that way for me. As others have stated, it's gotta be more than the weight that's bothering you. I don't know. I gotta think if it's truly meant to be, you'd be able to see past what you consider a flaw to all the other wonderful things this woman has to offer you. Since it appears you can't, as said also, best to let her go. As quickly as possible. |
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ufoclub said: however you try to cut it... if you're not hot for the person, you should just be close loyal friends! that's my opinon, and I've been on both sides of this equation.
True..for me, there has to be a physical attraction. But we all have our own definition of beauty. There are some women I find attractive that my friends don't, and vice versa. | |
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well i did date this guy that was physically attractive but was very disrespectful and ugly on the inside. I didn't find that out until later. I knew within the first date that his looks outweighed his personality, but yet i continued to date him for another month or so until everything ended pretty nasty and me driving off and leaving him on the side of the road to walk home. I should have done away with it as soon as i knew he wasn't likeable but i tried to make myself like and it didn't work. I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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CarrieMpls said: On one hand, I can understand the notion that people can't help what they're attracted to. On the other, there are all sorts of folks that I wouldn't normally find as my version of attractive (my 'type' tends to be quite different than the usual) who once I got to know them, I find them downright hot, for various reasons. Attraction really does work that way for me.
I don't see a contradiction here. You're attracted to whom you're attracted to, it's that simple. Sometimes it is a person that many others can agree is attractive, some times just a few. Sometimes you're not attracted at first, but start to feel attracted at a later point, just like you say. The important thing is just to feel attracted, for whatever reason. If you don't, you might want to look for someone else. Then you could always argue that physical attraction is not the most important factor in a relationship anyway, or even one of the primary things, but that's another discussion.... And just to clarify, I'm basically just agreeing with you here. I just wanted to add more words. | |
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missfee said: Adisa said: I beg to differ. It's true that visual stimualtion is more important to a man and emotional stimulation is for a woman. However, my wife of 4 1/2 years, whom I've been with for 9 years, is not my "type". True, she's attractive in her own way, but she simply isn't the type of woman I'm immediately attracted to. Hell, even she knows it, as do all of my old-school homies and family whom have seen the girls I've dated before her. But, she's my sweetie regardless. And, honestly, everyone is sooooo envious of the relationship and love that we have for one another...but in a loving way. Our friends and family truly do wish they were in relationships as wonderful as ours. They've all told us so. so what kind of women did you date before your wife, and how do they compare to your wife? Honestly, your classic beauty types. Halle (my last GF was a dead ringer), Nia Long (this GF was a good friend years after we broke up), Lark Voorhies (my first crush/GF could've been her sister), you get the picture. My wife has been compared to other celebrities as well, just celebrities that aren't my "type". However, these females in my past were not the total package that my wife is. First she's secure and comfortable with herself. Second, she's not the jealous and angry type. Third, she's hella smart, sweet, kind, nurturing, loving, thoughtful, confident, and spiritual. Finally, she's just the woman for me...we got a spiritual connection, that's all. I'm sick and tired of the Prince fans being sick and tired of the Prince fans that are sick and tired! | |
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Adisa said: missfee said: so what kind of women did you date before your wife, and how do they compare to your wife? Honestly, your classic beauty types. Halle (my last GF was a dead ringer), Nia Long (this GF was a good friend years after we broke up), Lark Voorhies (my first crush/GF could've been her sister), you get the picture. My wife has been compared to other celebrities as well, just celebrities that aren't my "type". However, these females in my past were not the total package that my wife is. First she's secure and comfortable with herself. Second, she's not the jealous and angry type. Third, she's hella smart, sweet, kind, nurturing, loving, thoughtful, confident, and spiritual. Finally, she's just the woman for me...we got a spiritual connection, that's all. Thats great.. I love to hear positive stories like this. It gives me hope that the right guy has come or will come into my life and that I will hopefully recognize it and marry him. I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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i know this is gonna sound kinda contrived, but i was driving yesterday and this song came on by Musiq (i heard it coupla years ago, but it didn't really move me like it did yesterday)...i think i'm gonna go ahead and push on with this relationship...i don't think i'll find too many other females who can put up with my quirks
appreciate all of your input, guys. Don't Change Lately you've been questioning If I still see you the same way We gonna both physically change Now don't you know you you'll always be The most beautiful woman I know So let me reassure you darlin that My feelings are truly unconditional [Chorus] See I'll love you when your hair turns gray I'll still want you if you gain a little weight The way I feel for you will always be the same Just as long as your love don't change, No I was meant for you and you was meant for me yeah And I'll make sure that I'll be everything you need Girl the way we are is how its gonna be Just as long as your love don't change Cause I'm not impressed, more or less By them girls in the T.V and magazines Cause honestly I believe that your beauty Is way more than skin deep Cause everything about you makes me feel I have the greatest gift in the world And even when you get on my last nerve I couldn't see myself being with another girl [Chorus] So don't waste your time worrying bout Small things ain't relevant to me Cause to my understanding your all I want and need See what I'm trying to say is I'm here to stay Baby, baby darling I swear that I, I swear I ain't going nowhere no. You are my baby Don't you change baby I love you, got to know, Yeah, yeah you look better on your facebook page than you do in person | |
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Natisse said: I hope I'm not rocking the boat too much here, but my honest answer is no... and I'll be so bold as to say I think that it's the case with most people
for me personally there would have to be SOME kind of attraction A lot of folks agree, and he did say she was pretty....he just ain't liking the body. Understandable. I know cute females who are too skinny or underdeveloped in important areas. We like what it is we like. I'm sick and tired of the Prince fans being sick and tired of the Prince fans that are sick and tired! | |
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meltwithu said: i know this is gonna sound kinda contrived, but i was driving yesterday and this song came on by Musiq (i heard it coupla years ago, but it didn't really move me like it did yesterday)...i think i'm gonna go ahead and push on with this relationship...i don't think i'll find too many other females who can put up with my quirks
appreciate all of your input, guys. OK. Was NOT expecting you to say that. But much fortune to you ... and since we've all been in your bizness, update us periodically. | |
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SynthiaRose said: meltwithu said: i know this is gonna sound kinda contrived, but i was driving yesterday and this song came on by Musiq (i heard it coupla years ago, but it didn't really move me like it did yesterday)...i think i'm gonna go ahead and push on with this relationship...i don't think i'll find too many other females who can put up with my quirks
appreciate all of your input, guys. OK. Was NOT expecting you to say that. But much fortune to you ... and since we've all been in your bizness, update us periodically. will do...not gonna tell you when we do the horizontal mambo though...a real brutha doesn't kiss and tell you look better on your facebook page than you do in person | |
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meltwithu said: i know this is gonna sound kinda contrived, but i was driving yesterday and this song came on by Musiq (i heard it coupla years ago, but it didn't really move me like it did yesterday)...i think i'm gonna go ahead and push on with this relationship...i don't think i'll find too many other females who can put up with my quirks
appreciate all of your input, guys. Don't Change Lately you've been questioning If I still see you the same way We gonna both physically change Now don't you know you you'll always be The most beautiful woman I know So let me reassure you darlin that My feelings are truly unconditional [Chorus] See I'll love you when your hair turns gray I'll still want you if you gain a little weight The way I feel for you will always be the same Just as long as your love don't change, No I was meant for you and you was meant for me yeah And I'll make sure that I'll be everything you need Girl the way we are is how its gonna be Just as long as your love don't change Cause I'm not impressed, more or less By them girls in the T.V and magazines Cause honestly I believe that your beauty Is way more than skin deep Cause everything about you makes me feel I have the greatest gift in the world And even when you get on my last nerve I couldn't see myself being with another girl [Chorus] So don't waste your time worrying bout Small things ain't relevant to me Cause to my understanding your all I want and need See what I'm trying to say is I'm here to stay Baby, baby darling I swear that I, I swear I ain't going nowhere no. You are my baby Don't you change baby I love you, got to know, Yeah, yeah Ahhhhh That's so sweet. So there must be something there.... You see her beauty, you do... Ahhhhh Congrats..... | |
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meltwithu said: i know this is gonna sound kinda contrived, but i was driving yesterday and this song came on by Musiq (i heard it coupla years ago, but it didn't really move me like it did yesterday)...i think i'm gonna go ahead and push on with this relationship...i don't think i'll find too many other females who can put up with my quirks
appreciate all of your input, guys. awwwww thats the most wonderful thing you could have said !!!!! having questions along the way is ok... working them out is a great thing... i know i dont know you at all, and i hope this doesnt sound silly, but man, im proud of you for making the choice you made honestly, you thought it through and SOME folks were even kinda nasty about it but you pulled through and came walking out like a REAL man one that can see the value of a great woman even WITH a few extra pounds. i hope she never finds out about your original questions, but i hope she is able to see YOUR inner beauty and all the wonderful qualities that you have. i wish you both the best, i hope the sex is top quality , and i appreciate you allowing us to peek inside your personal life.. thats not always an easy thing to do around here. best wishes sweetie, and just in case she IS the marrying kind.... can those of us that answered the thread up till you gave your decision be invited to the wedding ??? best wishes man.... i mean that with all my heart great choice ! One of the best days of my life... http://prince.org/msg/100/291111
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abierman said: straight answer: no! it doesn't work!
I actually agree with you. | |
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missfee said: well i did date this guy that was physically attractive but was very disrespectful and ugly on the inside. I didn't find that out until later. I knew within the first date that his looks outweighed his personality, but yet i continued to date him for another month or so until everything ended pretty nasty and me driving off and leaving him on the side of the road to walk home. I should have done away with it as soon as i knew he wasn't likeable but i tried to make myself like and it didn't work.
Yea, that doesn't work. Well, maybe for guys but not for many women I tried dating a guy that had zero happening upstairs but he was so fuckin' FINE, but I couldn't make it past 3 dates. The dick wasn't worth all the blank stares I had to give him | |
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Adisa said: Natisse said: I hope I'm not rocking the boat too much here, but my honest answer is no... and I'll be so bold as to say I think that it's the case with most people
for me personally there would have to be SOME kind of attraction A lot of folks agree, and he did say she was pretty....he just ain't liking the body. Understandable. I know cute females who are too skinny or underdeveloped in important areas. We like what it is we like. fair enough...very true we like what we like | |
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Hotlegs said: Spats said: Just because the dude does find the extra weight hot does not make him shallow. He recognizes what a great person she is. But if the physical attraction is not there it's not going to work!!! And just because a guy wants a girl with the hour glass figure does not make him shallow either. We cannot help what we are attracted to.
And just because a person is always looking for something better to come along does not make us shallow either. Life is short and most people want the best they can get. Whether it sounds shallow or not looks are important, it's what physical attraction is all about. Without that what do you have? You sure as hell don't have any sex. You rarely see a great looking guy with a ugly ass woman and a great looking babe with a fat balding guy. (unless he's wealthy). Looks are important to people. Well , I know you've made some valid points. As an attractive women, I've never been in the overweight catagory nor have dated a guy who is in that catagory .Let's face it now, rather some people know or not, they're a reflection of what they attract rather they now it or not. So, I agree on your points that looks are are an important aspect along with chemistry in a relationship. Over the years, I found that looks is just one aspect but chemisty is also important. Looks are only a superficial thing and only skin deep. So, I found it's best to get to know the man behind the penis rather than leap too fast and have regrets later. However, in a situation like Melts, he needs to be ufront with her and let her know whats on his mind rather keep laging the relationship on . [Edited 8/8/05 8:34am] Hey hotlegs, just because you aren't overweight doesn't garner attractiveness. Just thought I'd add that. You're the illest! How about this...my ex told me once while I was dropping weight, that he didn't notice....he was too busy looking at my ass. Dude, he said that after at least 45 dropped off. I lost 50. I guess it's up to the individual. I was a bad ass bia before it dropped and a bad ass bia after. Not being overweight garnering attractiveness is silly. Was this reply even neccessary? Probabally not But I had to say something. | |
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CalhounSq said: missfee said: well i did date this guy that was physically attractive but was very disrespectful and ugly on the inside. I didn't find that out until later. I knew within the first date that his looks outweighed his personality, but yet i continued to date him for another month or so until everything ended pretty nasty and me driving off and leaving him on the side of the road to walk home. I should have done away with it as soon as i knew he wasn't likeable but i tried to make myself like and it didn't work.
Yea, that doesn't work. Well, maybe for guys but not for many women I tried dating a guy that had zero happening upstairs but he was so fuckin' FINE, but I couldn't make it past 3 dates. The dick wasn't worth all the blank stares I had to give him yes tell me about it. I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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KatSkrizzle said: Hotlegs said: Well , I know you've made some valid points. As an attractive women, I've never been in the overweight catagory nor have dated a guy who is in that catagory .Let's face it now, rather some people know or not, they're a reflection of what they attract rather they now it or not. So, I agree on your points that looks are are an important aspect along with chemistry in a relationship. Over the years, I found that looks is just one aspect but chemisty is also important. Looks are only a superficial thing and only skin deep. So, I found it's best to get to know the man behind the penis rather than leap too fast and have regrets later. However, in a situation like Melts, he needs to be ufront with her and let her know whats on his mind rather keep laging the relationship on . [Edited 8/8/05 8:34am] Hey hotlegs, You're the illest! Just so that you know, I don't think weight necessarily has anything to do with attractiveness b/c looks are in the eyes of the beholder(particulary with men as Melt has demonstrated). Also, let's keep in mind that attractiveness is sometime not mearly defined just by looks only but also intellect in many cases. I find that some on the org tend to carry the assumption that I'm overweight since I have some empathy for women who are overweight which is inaccurate assumption. So, this is why I wanted to make it clear what my true physical built is like since there is no photo of myself available on this site. When in fact as a women, I have compassion for their plight which is only natural. [Edited 8/9/05 7:33am] | |
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KatSkrizzle said: A dingy man is a crime against nature. Women can be dingy, but a man?
In society, there is a double standard with dingyness in the sexes. Society will tolerate more dingyness from a man more so than a woman b/c a woman has been percieved over the decades in Western Society as being well kept and glamourous. [Edited 8/9/05 7:12am] | |
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Ex-Moderator | retina said: CarrieMpls said: On one hand, I can understand the notion that people can't help what they're attracted to. On the other, there are all sorts of folks that I wouldn't normally find as my version of attractive (my 'type' tends to be quite different than the usual) who once I got to know them, I find them downright hot, for various reasons. Attraction really does work that way for me.
I don't see a contradiction here. You're attracted to whom you're attracted to, it's that simple. Sometimes it is a person that many others can agree is attractive, some times just a few. Sometimes you're not attracted at first, but start to feel attracted at a later point, just like you say. The important thing is just to feel attracted, for whatever reason. If you don't, you might want to look for someone else. Then you could always argue that physical attraction is not the most important factor in a relationship anyway, or even one of the primary things, but that's another discussion.... And just to clarify, I'm basically just agreeing with you here. I just wanted to add more words. You're right. I totally get ya. It's not 2 different thoughts. I guess it just kinda illustrates the difference between physical attraction and mental attraction, maybe? And that's not even the right way to put it, cause even if it's all the 'mental qualities' that attract me, I want them physically too. lol. Now I'm not even sure what I was trying to say... |
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THIS WOMAN SOUNDS LIKE A REALLY LOVELY PERSON,GOOD ,HONEST,KIND AND HAS A LOT OF LOVE TO GIVE...I THINK SHE CAN DO BETTER THAN BE WITH SOMEONE LIKE YOU WHO SEES HIMSELF AS SUPERIOR TO HER.DO HER A BIG FAVOUR AND END IT, LET HER FIND A MAN WHO ADORES HER BODY AND SOUL. | |
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meltwithu said: i know this is gonna sound kinda contrived, but i was driving yesterday and this song came on by Musiq (i heard it coupla years ago, but it didn't really move me like it did yesterday)...i think i'm gonna go ahead and push on with this relationship...i don't think i'll find too many other females who can put up with my quirks
appreciate all of your input, guys. Don't Change Lately you've been questioning If I still see you the same way We gonna both physically change Now don't you know you you'll always be The most beautiful woman I know So let me reassure you darlin that My feelings are truly unconditional [Chorus] See I'll love you when your hair turns gray I'll still want you if you gain a little weight The way I feel for you will always be the same Just as long as your love don't change, No I was meant for you and you was meant for me yeah And I'll make sure that I'll be everything you need Girl the way we are is how its gonna be Just as long as your love don't change Cause I'm not impressed, more or less By them girls in the T.V and magazines Cause honestly I believe that your beauty Is way more than skin deep Cause everything about you makes me feel I have the greatest gift in the world And even when you get on my last nerve I couldn't see myself being with another girl [Chorus] So don't waste your time worrying bout Small things ain't relevant to me Cause to my understanding your all I want and need See what I'm trying to say is I'm here to stay Baby, baby darling I swear that I, I swear I ain't going nowhere no. You are my baby Don't you change baby I love you, got to know, Yeah, yeah This song always makes me cry! This song should personify the way you think about her as she is! Do not try to make this work out of familiarity or comfort. U need to emotionally be on FIRE for this woman!! She sounds like a great girl and deserves no less. Think about the changes that life takes. What if she gains more weight when u have children? As I mentioned in my comment u have to be very careful when approaching the subject of weight and adressing health not vanity. I truly hope that u are seeing this with fresh eyes and truth. Good luck baby. Shake....shake, shake, shake. | |
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meltwithu said: luv4u said: There's more to a person than their weight. If she got a great personality and is not a slob.
Guys don't know when they got a good thing going, I swear. that's the thing..i know she's a great lady....but this isn't that "a little extra pound here and there" type deal...for her height, she's genuinely about 40-50 lbs overweight. i wanted to suggest we join a gym together, or go walking..but we go out to eat and she doesn't always the most sensible meal if you're trying to watch your weight. it just seems this is a "take me for who i am" type deal... i met her when she was overweight, so i just don't think it's fair to tell her how to live her life. (my mom is overweight, so i know from growing up how shallow men can be when it comes to dating plus-size women) I think you have to accept her as she is or move on. You knew she had a little extra weight when you started seeing her so its not really fair now to turn around and ask her to lose it. I was in the same position with a very good friend a few years back. We got on really well, had lots of similar interests and started going out. Ater a while, I realised I wasn't physically attracted to him and could never see us having sex. There was absolutely nothing wrong with him, I just didn't feel a spark and in my opinion, a relationship without sex (or the desire to have sex) is just a friendship. Needless to say I ended it. Maybe deep down you just don't feel a spark with her and you're putting it down to her weight. I think you have to do some thinking and really work out what you want. [Edited 8/9/05 10:35am] I'll leave graffiti where you've never been kissed | |
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CarrieMpls said: retina said: I don't see a contradiction here. You're attracted to whom you're attracted to, it's that simple. Sometimes it is a person that many others can agree is attractive, some times just a few. Sometimes you're not attracted at first, but start to feel attracted at a later point, just like you say. The important thing is just to feel attracted, for whatever reason. If you don't, you might want to look for someone else. Then you could always argue that physical attraction is not the most important factor in a relationship anyway, or even one of the primary things, but that's another discussion.... And just to clarify, I'm basically just agreeing with you here. I just wanted to add more words. You're right. I totally get ya. It's not 2 different thoughts. I guess it just kinda illustrates the difference between physical attraction and mental attraction, maybe? And that's not even the right way to put it, cause even if it's all the 'mental qualities' that attract me, I want them physically too. lol. Now I'm not even sure what I was trying to say... Sometimes its extremely difficult to pinpoint what you find attractive. The only way I can describe it is chemistry or a spark. When you see the person, talk to them, you get that butterfly feeling in your tummy and its sooooo good! I'll leave graffiti where you've never been kissed | |
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cammille said: THIS WOMAN SOUNDS LIKE A REALLY LOVELY PERSON,GOOD ,HONEST,KIND AND HAS A LOT OF LOVE TO GIVE...I THINK SHE CAN DO BETTER THAN BE WITH SOMEONE LIKE YOU WHO SEES HIMSELF AS SUPERIOR TO HER.DO HER A BIG FAVOUR AND END IT, LET HER FIND A MAN WHO ADORES HER BODY AND SOUL.
what you say cammille has a lot of truth in it she does sound like a wonderful person. however, it is my hope that he doesnt seem himself as 'superior' because that would be totally fucked up ! i think he had some questions... some things he needed to soul search about he did, and it seems he realized that he has a good woman standing in front of him that he doesnt want to lose.... therefore, he decided to stay right where he is. it is my most sincere hope that he moves forward in this relationship. perhaps showers her with all the attention and loving feelings he has been holding back in small ways... move forward in the relationship and enjoy all it has to offer. next time hes cuddling with her, or kissing her, perhaps this time he will progress to the next step and enjoy the closeness that they share i still stand by what i said and wish him all the luck just because you have questions in a relationship doesnt mean that its over before it starts... i think really it means you are weighing it all out and seeing in your heart and mind if this could last for years to come. actually, i give the man props for not sleeping with her before he thought the whole thing out One of the best days of my life... http://prince.org/msg/100/291111
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another flip side to this is that maybe melt really does have deeper feelings for the woman and is just using her weight as an excuse to avoid committing to her...some men do this all the time because they are afraid of being with just "one" woman for the rest of their lives, when they finally find her, they get scared and screw up..women do the same thing too... I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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missfee said: another flip side to this is that maybe melt really does have deeper feelings for the woman and is just using her weight as an excuse to avoid committing to her...some men do this all the time because they are afraid of being with just "one" woman for the rest of their lives, when they finally find her, they get scared and screw up..women do the same thing too...
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i never have...but i am attracted to a broad range of men...i don't really have a "type".
however on a side note...i helped convince one of my best friends to start dating a guy she wasn't initially attracted to...7 years later they are happily married, have a beautiful 1 year old daughter and (according to her) continue to have mind blowing sex. maybe everyone is worth giving a chance.... but you have to decide and decide quickly...before she gets in too deep and you really hurt her. good luck. you're only as old as you feel..............so how old do i feel
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Natsume said: DO NOT even try to go there. There's no way of telling her "nicely" that her weight bothers you. It will end badly for everyone and make this poor woman even more self-conscious about her weight than she probably already is. You cannot change her. If I were you, I'd end it now. You gave it a try and it didn't work, so maybe you are better off moving on....
So I think it's best if you don't bring up the subject at all. Not even a little bit! It's a sensitive area and I feel for you on it. i second this. as a woman who will never be a size 5 (and frankly at my height would never WANT to ... ewww) and who has struggled with weight almost my entire adult life....it is an issue that she will never get over if you are honest with her. if a guy didn't want to date me because of my weight i would much prefer he lie to me and give me a different excuse. if you don't want to hurt her and possibly damage her forever (if you truly care for her as you claim to) tell her it is for another reason should you decide to end the 'relationship'....any other reason. you're only as old as you feel..............so how old do i feel
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