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Fixing Low Self Esteem? I have low self esteem. I don't know how to fix it. I don't have time for volunteer work so that's not an option. If it doesn't fit, it's ugly anyway. | |
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It could be a congitive disconnect between your perception of events and reality (ie - your thoughts about what others may think about you may not be a reality).
If you have the option, maybe go talk to a psychologist. There are cognitive techniques / exercises that you can employ that can really help out. I studied Psych in college, but clinical wasn't my cup 'o tea, but I know there are resources out there to help you out. Best of luck! | |
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LaCoyta said: I have low self esteem. I don't know how to fix it. I don't have time for volunteer work so that's not an option.
Would you do volunteer work if you had the time? | |
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LiveWithIt said: LaCoyta said: I have low self esteem. I don't know how to fix it. I don't have time for volunteer work so that's not an option.
Would you do volunteer work if you had the time? Probably not. If it doesn't fit, it's ugly anyway. | |
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LaCoyta said: LiveWithIt said: Would you do volunteer work if you had the time? Probably not. What if they paid you? | |
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LaCoyta said: LiveWithIt said: Would you do volunteer work if you had the time? Probably not. What if it was volunteer work to kick 9s ass? | |
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TwinkleBitch said: LaCoyta said: Probably not. What if it was volunteer work to kick 9s ass? There's a long waiting list for that program. | |
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Also, random sex with strangers seems to help. | |
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ReturnOfDOOK said: TwinkleBitch said: What if it was volunteer work to kick 9s ass? There's a long waiting list for that program. i know some that would pay hard earned cash for the opportunuty. ANd then there are those who'd pay just as much to watch. | |
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Would you like an appreciation thread?
An "ode to" thread? Volunteering is overrated. | |
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TwinkleBitch said: ReturnOfDOOK said: There's a long waiting list for that program. i know some that would pay hard earned cash for the opportunuty. ANd then there are those who'd pay just as much to watch. Please. LaCoyta will defend me. She loves me. | |
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2the9s said: TwinkleBitch said: i know some that would pay hard earned cash for the opportunuty. ANd then there are those who'd pay just as much to watch. Please. LaCoyta will defend me. She loves me. I see her running at top speed to your defense...pushing over Lleena (who's also running) in the process. | |
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AsianBoi777 said: Would you like an appreciation thread?
An "ode to" thread? Volunteering is overrated. It is? | |
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AsianBoi777 said: Would you like an appreciation thread?
An "ode to" thread? Volunteering is overrated. I think a boob job would be much more effective. | |
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I always thought about going to a hypnotist. My self-esteem goes right through the floor. | |
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LaCoyta said: I have low self esteem. I don't know how to fix it. I don't have time for volunteer work so that's not an option.
I'm sure you feel better now... | |
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LaCoyta said: I have low self esteem. I don't know how to fix it. I don't have time for volunteer work so that's not an option.
low self esteem is something that hits most of us at some time or other I think...know your self-worth and try to get through this bad time  | |
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LaCoyta said: I have low self esteem. I don't know how to fix it. I don't have time for volunteer work so that's not an option.
If there are things you don't like about your life that are bringing your esteem down, try and change them. Don't like the way you look? Change your hair, get some new clothes, work out a little Don't like your job? Seriously look at other options and what you could be doing If it just comes down to general shyness and lack of confidence, think of self-esteem as a muscle - you gotta exercise it to make it grow: get out and socialise, meet people, live life. For me, what worked best was getting a job in a pub - meeting people every day and having to be more outgoing than came naturally. Eventually, it did come naturally  | |
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EarthAirFireWater said: LaCoyta said: I have low self esteem. I don't know how to fix it. I don't have time for volunteer work so that's not an option.
low self esteem is something that hits most of us at some time or other I think...know your self-worth and try to get through this bad time Exactly. Think about all the people who love you for you. Write down some qualities that you like about yourself and put them on the wall to read everyday. That sought of helps me most of the time... I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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2the9s said: How about a snappy new avatar?
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REDFEATHERS said: 2the9s said: How about a snappy new avatar?
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Are there any self esteem night classes you can go to in your area? They can be helpful.. | |
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rocknrolldave said: LaCoyta said: I have low self esteem. I don't know how to fix it. I don't have time for volunteer work so that's not an option.
If there are things you don't like about your life that are bringing your esteem down, try and change them. Don't like the way you look? Change your hair, get some new clothes, work out a little Don't like your job? Seriously look at other options and what you could be doing If it just comes down to general shyness and lack of confidence, think of self-esteem as a muscle - you gotta exercise it to make it grow: get out and socialise, meet people, live life. For me, what worked best was getting a job in a pub - meeting people every day and having to be more outgoing than came naturally. Eventually, it did come naturally I don't like my looks. I'm pissed that Cindy Crawford is twice my age and looks better than me. I'm terrified of hair salons and am all thumbs with my hair. I can't really afford new clothes. I've been saving for some but all I have is $250 and that won't buy a stunner's wardrobe. Alot of clothes aren't suited for me. I workout but it doesn't get me Jessica Simpson's body. So I hate my body. I wanted to lose 5lbs by the end of this month but that doesn't look like it's going to happen. I guess I'll have to live through photos of Jessica Simpson. She has everything I can't have: a great body, beautiful hair, and beautiful clothes. My job is okay. I can't leave yet because there's a chance that in November my crew is getting a pay raise. If I don't get that raise, I'll be crushed. One thing that pisses me off is my lack of talents. It takes too long to get really good at anything. I also procrastinate, am shy, lazy, eat when I'm bored, can't train myself to eat healthy. I'm a wreck. Too bad I can't beecome model beautiful by the end of the month. [Edited 7/13/05 7:27am] If it doesn't fit, it's ugly anyway. | |
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ReturnOfDOOK said: Also, random sex with strangers seems to help.
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 damn ...
what do you like about yourself ... no matter what it is or how silly you may think it is find that one ( or 6 ) small thing(s) and focus on that... expand it and be greatful you cant really improve low self esteem by always bashing yourself in every aspect  good luck
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LaCoyta said: rocknrolldave said: If there are things you don't like about your life that are bringing your esteem down, try and change them. Don't like the way you look? Change your hair, get some new clothes, work out a little Don't like your job? Seriously look at other options and what you could be doing If it just comes down to general shyness and lack of confidence, think of self-esteem as a muscle - you gotta exercise it to make it grow: get out and socialise, meet people, live life. For me, what worked best was getting a job in a pub - meeting people every day and having to be more outgoing than came naturally. Eventually, it did come naturally I don't like my looks. I'm pissed that Cindy Crawford is twice my age and looks better than me. I'm terrified of hair salons and am all thumbs with my hair. I can't really afford new clothes. I've been saving for some but all I have is $250 and that won't buy a stunner's wardrobe. Alot of clothes aren't suited for me. I workout but it doesn't get me Jessica Simpson's body. So I hate my body. I wanted to lose 5lbs by the end of this month but that doesn't look like it's going to happen. I guess I'll have to live through photos of Jessica Simpson. She has everything I can't have: a great body, beautiful hair, and beautiful clothes. My job is okay. I can't leave yet because there's a chance that in November my crew is getting a pay raise. If I don't get that raise, I'll be crushed. One thing that pisses me off is my lack of talents. It takes too long to get really good at anything. I also procrastinate, am shy, lazy, eat when I'm bored, can't train myself to eat healthy. I'm a wreck. Too bad I can't beecome model beautiful by the end of the month. [Edited 7/13/05 7:27am] Girlfriend, it's time to stop pitying yourself and snap out of it. You're bummed cuz you wanted to lose 5lbs...if you only need to lose 5lbs then you can't be all that fat can you? And uh, there aren't too many people that have Jessica Simpson's body type or Cindy Crawford's looks. As far as being pissed about not having a talent, why not look for a hobby that you may enjoy first? Then maybe you'll get good at it and find your talent. Sounds like you're just lazy, only you can change that. You're problem is that you want to look like a super model. A lot of us do but it's not gonna happen. Be happy with what you have and work with that rather than complaining about it. And be happy that this is the only "problem" you have right now. Sorry for the bluntness but the reasons you are giving are ridiculous. Be happy you have a job and you're not obeise and you're not dying of cancer or something. | |
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CarrieLee said: LaCoyta said: I don't like my looks. I'm pissed that Cindy Crawford is twice my age and looks better than me. I'm terrified of hair salons and am all thumbs with my hair. I can't really afford new clothes. I've been saving for some but all I have is $250 and that won't buy a stunner's wardrobe. Alot of clothes aren't suited for me. I workout but it doesn't get me Jessica Simpson's body. So I hate my body. I wanted to lose 5lbs by the end of this month but that doesn't look like it's going to happen. I guess I'll have to live through photos of Jessica Simpson. She has everything I can't have: a great body, beautiful hair, and beautiful clothes. My job is okay. I can't leave yet because there's a chance that in November my crew is getting a pay raise. If I don't get that raise, I'll be crushed. One thing that pisses me off is my lack of talents. It takes too long to get really good at anything. I also procrastinate, am shy, lazy, eat when I'm bored, can't train myself to eat healthy. I'm a wreck. Too bad I can't beecome model beautiful by the end of the month. [Edited 7/13/05 7:27am] Girlfriend, it's time to stop pitying yourself and snap out of it. You're bummed cuz you wanted to lose 5lbs...if you only need to lose 5lbs then you can't be all that fat can you? And uh, there aren't too many people that have Jessica Simpson's body type or Cindy Crawford's looks. As far as being pissed about not having a talent, why not look for a hobby that you may enjoy first? Then maybe you'll get good at it and find your talent. Sounds like you're just lazy, only you can change that. You're problem is that you want to look like a super model. A lot of us do but it's not gonna happen. Be happy with what you have and work with that rather than complaining about it. And be happy that this is the only "problem" you have right now. Sorry for the bluntness but the reasons you are giving are ridiculous. Be happy you have a job and you're not obeise and you're not dying of cancer or something.  | |
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REDFEATHERS said: CarrieLee said: Girlfriend, it's time to stop pitying yourself and snap out of it. You're bummed cuz you wanted to lose 5lbs...if you only need to lose 5lbs then you can't be all that fat can you? And uh, there aren't too many people that have Jessica Simpson's body type or Cindy Crawford's looks. As far as being pissed about not having a talent, why not look for a hobby that you may enjoy first? Then maybe you'll get good at it and find your talent. Sounds like you're just lazy, only you can change that. You're problem is that you want to look like a super model. A lot of us do but it's not gonna happen. Be happy with what you have and work with that rather than complaining about it. And be happy that this is the only "problem" you have right now. Sorry for the bluntness but the reasons you are giving are ridiculous. Be happy you have a job and you're not obeise and you're not dying of cancer or something. i agree with this also. my self-esteem is very very low. but i know there are people out there whose lives are just shit and i have a lot to be blessed about. so you also have to think about the things you do have such as good health etc,etc. | |
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