Nero said:

I dont want to have to use violence....i just want peace.....he may be gone for right now, but fear is still in the back of my mind....

got lots of text messages from him last night.....WTF???
now that ive let go, hes contacting me.....WHAT A SHIT HEAD.....

amorbella said:

If he does tell him "thanks but not today..... or for the rest of your sorry life" and then politely close the door in his face. Don't slam it, he'll only think that he's got you angry.

Well done for getting rid of him. Stick to your guns and don't let him back into your heart. He will only trample it again. You deserve much better than this and you will find it.

amorbella said:

Glad u get better. My therapist once told me that in a separation there's first sadness, then anger, then reconciliation (not necessary litterally, but inner reconciliation), i think she was right, so this anger phase is good

I decided not 2 c my 2 last ex anymore, when both they & me wanted 2 stay close friend. But i just happened 2 realise i just couldn't, that i would destroy me more than anything, so i guess it could b helpful 2 u not 2 have any contacts with him anymore. B careful, though, cuz my 2 last ex somehow became ghosts in my mind, skeletons that i keep trying 2 take out of the closet... I don't know what else is could do, it still hurts less 2 have 'em as ghosts than 2 c them & suffer from it.

Time & inner peace only heal, i guess, & connecting back 2 one's own life. B vigilant with what u feel, there will b many phases in ur mourning, i guess, & that's the normal precessus. One just has 2 b careful with the contradictory emotions one feels in this case, accepting them but being careful of not BECOMING them...

Wish u the best, Amorbella...

amorbella said:

I've been in your position before about 3 years ago. Had an asshole for a boyfriend. He was messing me about for months, I heard he was seeing people behind my back and told him to sling his hook. As soo as I got rid of him, he was sniffing around like a dog, ringing me, texting me. I ignored him so he thought he would ring me and tell me he was gonna be a daddy. I laughed, told him he was a stupid B*****S and put the phone down. About two days later he told me he only said it because he was trying to make me jealous to get back with me. I then told him I was seeing someone else (I wasn't) and sent him a card for a psychiatrist!!! I didn't hear from him then for a long time

Tell this guy to bugger off!!!!! Have a ball, take care of yourself for a while and you'll eventually find someone who really cares for you.....I did.

LolaM said:

it was hard, but i figured out he was trying to play games.....i dont want to play

shaomi said:

its not easy feeling lonely, but im sure ill do just fine.....

LolaM said:

ive learned several things from this, which i know i have alot more learning to do..
but the most important thing is that I need to love myself, and never listen to others negativity.

amorbella said:

amorbella said:

Very good advice

I'm happy to hear that you are moving on Amorbella.
Anger is a sign in the stteps toward healing. Soon you'll be at the last step - peace.
[Edited 7/24/05 11:17am]

amorbella said:

Yeah, don't give in, he will just do it again. A person who plays mind games is a Loser.

Then again, maybe he will realize what he has done

1sexymf said:

not sure if im moving on, but iam sure im letting go...

If you ever start to miss him just think of all the times he made you cry, that'll do the trick.

PurplePassion65 said:

Agreed. I'm currently employing that strategy, and while I want to remember the good stuff in the long run, replaying bad stuff in my head is what prevents me from doing something stupid, like calling him. It works. And whatever works, I highly suggest doing.

Throw your energy into something positive. It can be anything u like.

tackam said:

I just think of what hes up to.....the fact that hes playing games, and not going by his word is enough to not want to call.....

TeaAndTe said:

spending more time with family and friends....

this is what im feeling at the moment:

Ooh, ooh, ooh...

I, recommend getting your heart trampled on to anyone, yeah
I, recommend walking around naked in your living room, yeah

Swallow it down (what a jagged little pill)
It feels so good (swimming in your stomach)
Wait until the dust settles

1-You live you learn, you love you learn
You cry you learn, you lose you learn
You bleed you learn, you scream you learn

I, recommend biting off more than you can chew to anyone
I certainly do
I, recommend sticking your foot in your mouth at any time
Feel free

Throw it down (the caution blocks you from the wind)
Hold it up (to the rays)
You wait and see when the smoke clears
(repeat 1)

I, I, oh, oh

Wear it out (the way a three-year-old would do)
Melt it down (you're gonna have to eventually, anyway)
The fire trucks are coming up around the bend
(rpt 1)

You grieve you learn, you choke you learn
You laugh you learn, you choose you learn
You pray you learn, you ask you learn
You live you learn

You drink you learn....

bkw said:

very true....

amorbella said:

Ha ha this entire album got me through a lot of my breakup

amorbella said:

AAAAAMEN!! YES!


for you hon good on you

You need sex. Preferably with me.

Novabreaker said:

She needs herself, 1st, then she needs love, preferably with someone who respects her.


[Edited 7/25/05 3:25am]

Novabreaker said:

no, i dont need sex, i need toget over the feeling hes going to show up at my doorstep

shaomi said:

thank you!!!
Im not sure about the love part but I know I need myself right now.....

he sent me an email today....

he basically said

DONT NOT CONTACT ME....WTF???

he sucks!!!!

amorbella said:

Sounds like he is a twat, tell him and if he has a problem..send him to me

mdiver said:

Ive told him to fuck off so many times this weekend.....he sees im not crying or scared. Hes sees im getting stronger and hes lost control.....