I say no.

I remember after Mo' Better Blues came out, men were trying that Shadow bullshit.

That's annoying.

I'm a basic in-out girl. Rhythm, feelings, strength ... that matters to me.

But moving in circles and spelling out words with the strokes are annoying

And questions like "whose is it?" are infuriating.

What say you?

SynthiaRose said:

Well at the end of the day Synthia, the guy can spell his name in it , stroke it, go round and round as long as he last long as he like b/c I don't want a two minute man(like 2 hours is more my style). All I know is that he better hit the spot or else he's got to go.

Im a fan of the round and round, myself-- but i dont like to be asked questions beside "where do you want me to come?". Period.com

cinnamonjo said:

Exactly. Now, if his ass can't figure that shit out then, he should not be fucking.

cinnamonjo said:

SynthiaRose said:

Hell yeah! YOU try getting your fair share of the duvet off my wife without some nifty footwork and distraction




*Realises everyone else is talking about sex..


Oh THAT..no, we don't do that. We're British, you know.

rocknrolldave said:

May i ask what it was you were talking about, D?

rocknrolldave said:

Well I'm glad I saw your post Dave. I was about to make a fool out of myself.

cinnamonjo said:

You know, getting my share of the bed clothes, enough pillows, not getting slowly pushed out to the edge of the bed to the point of falling out.


Why, what did the rest of you mean...?




PS What exactly ARE fancy moves and words?! Help me out here!


*starts taking notes

SynthiaRose said:

They were actually trying to copy moves from some movie?

I don't think the moves have to be fancy but I looove it when they're passionate. A while ago I was with a woman who seemed to think that I was the sexiest thing on Earth. It made everything feel three times as exciting and we totally revelled in each other. At times like that, you don't think about technique for a second.

rocknrolldave said:

Hey, Dave don't let your nationality put a stop to your creativity.

There are only a few basic positions and everything else is just a variation of that. Not very interesting to do some of the other stuff unless you're making a porn movie.

JoeyMFinCoco said:

To be honest, I don't think it's interesting in porn either. I like to be able to relate to what's going on, so when they're doing their usual triple handstands with flip I feel circus-excitement rather than sex-excitement.

the best sex, i think, is when u really care about someone, it's almost like, u get obsessed. there's more passion, even if they're not the best lover in the world, it doesn't matter. feelings.

MsLegs said:

I don't. It's my wife who puts a stop to that

retina said:

I totally agree. My best experiences have involved basic movements but with lots of heat and passion because I cared so much for that person.

sexinthesummer said:

Yes, and to me that actually does make them the best lover in the world.

SynthiaRose said:

me too

I think some words definitely heighten the experience. Choosing the right words is key. Men - don't call her a slut. Not sure where you got this idea, but it's a bad one.
Do say her name and tell her how much you've been wanting to slam it into her, etc.

Fleshofmyflesh said:

Who called you a slut?

JoeyMFinCoco said:

NO one, I'm just sayin'....

Fleshofmyflesh said:

Right, right....

JoeyMFinCoco said:

Joey, behave yourself.

It's common knowledge that men think calling a woman a dirty slut or whore in bed somehow gets them off.

If you're seen sex movies or read erotica you'd know that

Anyway, back on topic ... while I like calling out "Daddy!" to some men (it's really hot!), I do not like being asked "Whose your Daddy."

Then, I won't say it. Cause that's cheesy.

SynthiaRose said:

No, you got it all wrong. Men generally don't do what they think will get the woman off, they do what gets them off!

I don't like a man who says anything like "slut" or any sort of vulgar word in bed. In fact, I'd prefer a man only to comment when I can do something to make the experience better, and it ought not be some stupid phrase like, "suck harder, bitch." I think if a man spoke to me like that, it'd ruin the mood, and send me straight into the desire to kick his ass.

Simple instructions, or a vote of confidence is good enough. "That feels good," will do. Save the talk until after we're finished. In fact, save the talk til after I've had a drink, done all necessary peeing and cleaning up, and had a nap.
[Edited 7/6/05 7:04am]

SynthiaRose said:

YOU know what I'm saying.

Being called a whore or slut or bitch in the bed is so off base with what we want to hear. And I've never been called that in bed, I just know that some men think it's a good idea and I'm trying to help them out by telling them the truth.

I also think the whole "Who's P***Y is this?" is so dumb and corny.

I would rather hear, "I've been wanting you all day and I couldn't wait to get you alone. I want you so bad right now...." and things of that nature.

I hate the word slut ,but i love to be called a dirty girl..its sexy

JoeyMFinCoco said:

They YOU defintitely have it all wrong if you're only thinking about yourself.

I just read SynthiaROse say she likes to call some men daddy. Why the fuck would you want to use the word "daddy" in bed any way? That's some fucked up Kentucky shit if I've ever heard it.

If I ever said anything like that, I'd embarrass myself to death, but if I didn't die of that, I'd go hang myself.

Personal opinion though. I just never got the whole "daddy" shit.
[Edited 7/6/05 7:02am]

Fleshofmyflesh said:

I think he said "generally."