look at a persons financial situation or how driven and ambitious they are before u enter a relationship with them....does it make any difference to u? (someone was talking to me about this earlier...)

Nah, I date people for who they are inside and what good qualities they can bring to a relationship, not how much money they have.

psychodelicide said:

Don't really mean just how much money they have...but how motivated and hard working they are? Would that affect ur decision?

No, though extremely ambitious women don't seem to be my type. As for the financial situation, I don't care about that at all.

Ah, I gotcha now. Well, I definitely would want a guy who would work hard for things, not sit around and expect things to be handed to him.

psychodelicide said:

How much money the other person has does not matter.

i do care about someone being able to handle their own business, but i don't go around looking for someone who can handle mine. i've always been very independent with my finances, and i guess i look for people in relationships who have the same attitude.

Ocean said:

I respect ambition.
But you can have ambition and never be rich.
And that's fine with me.


I will date a blue collar person in a minute.

Hell, I'll date a struggling artist with barely any funds.

As long as they have strong, unique character and a vision that they're pursuing.

I'm attracted to individualists,
to counter-culture types,
to revolutionaries with their own ideas,
to poets,
to trend-buckers who don't give a damn about the status quo.
They don't always have money.


Sometimes I meet men who floss and think I'm impressed by SUVs and jewelry. Some point out and mention their cars by make and model
(how obvious and shallow is that )
They have their suits and degrees and talk about how much money they make.

But I feel sorry for them.There's nothing beneath that veneer.
They followed what they thought was the prescription for the American Dream and never tried to define their own unique rhythm.



Give me a po'boy and po'friends with originality any day.

I entered into a relationship without even considering any of this. I'm very sensible when it comes to my money and it was only luck that this guy turned out to be equally sensible and driven, so I married him.

If she can't make a decent living selling her milk, or what not, there is no reason for me to court her when she's in heat. Our offspring would just go to the "Factory".



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It ALWAYS depends on the person. And not their immediate situation. Their history and their potential is what is important.

I would never date a poor guy, and I would never date a guy with no sense of financial stability or how to attain and maintain it. That's just asking for trouble.

ChargingBULL said:

Sort of.

I don't care what she does for a living as long as it doesn't involve a profession that inflicts pain (test lab on animals, Republican Party volunteer, etc.) or that she makes wildy more money than me.

Yeah, I know--but I'd prefer girls not make that MUCH more than me.

AsianBomb777 said:

I thought you were gay.

AsianBomb777 said:

Hey u...been quiet around here without u lol

I don't care what AsianBomb does for a living. I'll have his babies regardless.

Fauxie said:

I'm never going to EVER be able to explain our joking to my right-wing Republican Unckle when I visit Bangkok next year.

Ocean said:

I've never been told that I need to shut the hell up so politely before.

Nero said:

so do most of us.

AsianBomb777 said:

Hey what can I say..I'm a polite kinda girl

AsianBomb777 said:

Anxiety said:

So is he, or isn't he? I'm so confused. I've really thought he and ReturnofDOOK were an item?

Nero said:

You're spoiling something beautiful with all your questions.

I want her to have talent, skills and/or goals which enliven her life, no matter if I'm in it or not...and I want to be inspired by her, by seeing her move towards everything she wants to be and become. I would do terrible with a partner who felt they only needed to encourage my success, and never explored their own desires.

Money doesn't play a role...only when or if she and I were to ever talk marriage seriously would finances become a topic of conversation, and that's only to determine how we want to handle our incomes.

I just look at their arse.

Byron said:

Beautiful.

bkw said:

No, this is beautiful