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The pickins are slim in my field.   To all my little Hulkamaniacs, say your prayers, take your vitamins and you will never go wrong. | |
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psychodelicide said: Would you date someone you worked with if you were attracted to them? Why or why not? Feel free to discuss.
just say no! i never have and never will. it can cause too many problems. | |
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StaticDeth said: Way way to much drama can come along with this. I say don't date/ or fuck people you work with. Puts your job on the line way too much. Besides its nice to have fun at work but building long lasting realationships dont happen. Because when that peson you're cool with has more hours than you one week and you have to bump them to get your hours back.... they won't be your freind any longer. Save the dram for your mama!
 You are totally correct.RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you. | |
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amorbella said: psychodelicide said: Would you date someone you worked with if you were attracted to them? Why or why not? Feel free to discuss.
NO!!! NO!!! NO!!! RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you. | |
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rocknrolldave said: psychodelicide said: Would you date someone you worked with if you were attracted to them? Why or why not? Feel free to discuss.
Like Steadwood, I also married a coworker. I would never in a million years dream of working with my wife again - I think it would signal the end of our relationship 
Of course, we have to meet our partner somewhere, so why not at work? Just bear in mind that if you do, once the relationship is up and running, give it a chance to breathe and develop by moving to separate offices Glad to hear it worked out for you.  RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you. | |
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EarthAirFireWater said: psychodelicide said: Would you date someone you worked with if you were attracted to them? Why or why not? Feel free to discuss.
I've gone off the whole dating idea altogether lol...SUCH a waste of time and you cut out most of the bad stuff by avoiding it  I hear ya, it's practically impossible to find a decent man nowadays!RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you. | |
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Tom said: psychodelicide said:  So true.You wear panties??  RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you. | |
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Tom said: It's not worth it to date a coworker, especially if you are hoping to move up to a management or other higher position. When I was in school, one of the faculty had to give up a promotion because he would be overseeing his then girlfriend, who was also on staff.
Wow, that sux that he lost his promotion just because of his girlfriend. Not good.  RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you. | |
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Cow said: I wouldn't wish to date any of you.
Oh wait, I thought the thread said "Dating a Cow-worker". Disregard. RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you. | |
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rocknrolldave said: EarthAirFireWater said: well I was only half joking  I really HAVE gone off the idea because it's just too painful even before the actual dating starts, to be blunt, but never say never I guess
 If you were only half-joking, then I guess you were only half "so wrong" then
Don't give up on it, Natisse, cos it's when you ain't looking that it comes round the corner and HOOKS you good and proper  Agreed, when the time is right, it will happen for you, I firmly believe that.RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you. | |
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EarthAirFireWater said: rocknrolldave said: If you were only half-joking, then I guess you were only half "so wrong" then
Don't give up on it, Natisse, cos it's when you ain't looking that it comes round the corner and HOOKS you good and proper I'd really love to believe you Dave...but I've been waiting for that 'round the corner' for many years now and it doesn't look like coming along any time soon thats probably a good thing coz right now I wouldn't be ready for it anyway, but still... lol 
ok rant over I've been waiting around the corner for a long time too, but haven't given up hope that the right guy will come along and capture my heart.RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you. | |
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HulkHogan said: dating a co-worker?
The pickins are slim in my field. RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you. | |
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brownsugar said: psychodelicide said: Would you date someone you worked with if you were attracted to them? Why or why not? Feel free to discuss.
just say no! i never have and never will. it can cause too many problems. Same here, I would never date a coworker, even if you paid me. It does cause too much drama.RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you. | |
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Just read this on Monster.com about office romances. Very interesting, because the article says that interoffice romances are being discouraged in the work place, and even the people who left comments about this article are saying not to get involved with a coworker as well:
Should You Disclose Interoffice Romances to Your Boss? Ah, love. You don’t know when it will hit you. When you were in school, you may have felt it for a classmate. Growing up, your classmates became your coworkers -- and suddenly love wasn’t as simple. While in our little fraternal Monster Content group the development of an interoffice romance would seem almost incestuous, these relationships seem to abound around the globe -- and not just between single folks or those in the confines of cubicles. And while there is a clear stigma (and, in many cases, a clear company policy) attached to top-down dating, or dating between bosses and their reports, the lines are blurry when it comes to sideways dating, or dating between colleagues. In the case of boss-report dating, the danger is clear: The work-related power differential inherent in the roles of the participants doesn’t make for a healthy relationship -- or a healthy office environment. But what about equals working for the same company? Increasingly, it seems, companies are putting the kibosh on these kinds of affairs, too. Surprisingly, they are learning about these affairs from the scorned husbands and wives of one or more of the affair-ees. More specifically, they get the word via lawsuits, as the vengeful significant others take legal action against the companies for “negligent supervision,” which is defined as the employer’s “duty to supervise its personnel in such a way as to keep others from harm’s way.” So employers are basically torn between protecting the privacy rights of their employees and protecting the reputations of their respective companies. And finding a solution to this dilemma opens up a can of worms. What kind of policy can employers lawfully uphold that wouldn’t overstep privacy laws? What about the cases of employees who aren’t married -- or who are separated, betrothed or just happen to have vengeful exes? What about gay relationships? Should employers be privy to this kind of personal information? Hmm. Comments Employers should keep their noses out of it. Worse yet, employees should keep it off the job. Unless you send a wedding announcement to the office, I don't want to know who you're dating, or sleeping with, or when, or why. If you do send an announcement, expect me to say "congratulations" and continue on with our professional relationship. I had two subordinates work for me who engaged in a relationship. In a social context, the husband of one asked me about it, and I honestly had to say "I know nothing of it. Everything I've seen between them has been well within the bounds of professional propriety." In my mind, they handled it perfectly. Had it not worked out -- turned in to a messy divorce, or the two of them turned out not to be a "perfect match" things could have been different -- but I expect the bounds of professionalism to prevail then, and would have informed them so if necessary. Posted by: Tess | June 23, 2005 08:02 AM You should be very careful with office dating. What I have seen have made the employee less productive. They let the relationship get in the way of work. Posted by: Sherry Becker | July 6, 2005 01:28 PM My mother used to say, "Honey, NEVER dip your pen in company ink." It's a policy I violated several times during my young professional career, and I regretted it every time. Many times mother knows best. Posted by: MixMasterMatt | July 8, 2005 08:48 AM WELL,THE OFFICE IS DEFINITELY NOT THE PLACE FOR A LOVE-NEST REGARDLESS OF WHO IS INVOLVED. Posted by: OLOLADE | July 8, 2005 09:48 AM The old adage “Don’t play where you work, and don’t work where you play,” holds true. Violation leads to problems in both places. At work, if a relationship goes sour, you can’t just walk away. At play, there is nothing ruder than someone who wants to find clients when you are trying to learn to dance. Or, since I am a consultant, pumps you for advice as a “friend” rather than pay for it. As far as play is concerned, I’m a computer dunce. As far as work is concerned, I’m a geek. Much simpler. Clint Posted by: Clint Huntemann | July 8, 2005 09:57 AM For your heart's sake don't mix work and play. I got bit by that little snake when I found myself attracted to my married instructor. Instead of following my heart's desire, I made sure he never knew, and boy did that hurt. Posted by: Megan | July 8, 2005 11:45 AM Ok, I just took this contract position (10 weeks) and the moment I saw Mr. Wonderful, it was like lightning hit. We exchanged a few smiles, and a couple of glances. When I told him what time I ususally head out for a smoke, he started arriving the next day. We have been chatting through email. The company I work for is Huge, and if I do get another job there, it wont be near him at all. He's a contractor that works for the company, and I am in admin. in the meeting room. I think I'm safe..... Posted by: Truly Smitten | July 9, 2005 02:05 PM Negligent Supervision? Are we in kindergarten? Good grief! Posted by: Loveriot | July 12, 2005 01:28 PM I am engaged in a relationship with a co-worker and everyone at work knows the two of us are a couple and have been for almost a year now. Our offices are across the way from each other. When we are at work we are at work, and when we are out of work that is our business, we have our own kids and seperate houses and for now thats the way it is. Its no one's business what we do outside of work. We talk at work and talk to others but its always professional. I mean really were consenting adults not giddy teenagers..at least not at work! There have been times when one of has been upset and it gets kind of awkward at work but we work through it. Otherwise I guess it wouldn't be love Posted by: JEN | July 12, 2005 02:01 PM Well, I'm with the majority -- Mom use to say, never play in your own backyard. Work relationships are very difficult in a small setting; people's feelings get hurt, if they stop dating one and then another, real drama begins. It's really a road map to destruction if you're not careful. However, mature - well rounded men and women can have have pulled it off. Some times you would never even know they're in a relationship, because the take care in making sure it stays that way. Just as with any reltionship care and consideration are a must. Personally, I wouldn't do it again. Posted by: Queen Val | July 12, 2005 02:04 PM Discretion goes hand in hand with valor. Since so many people are spending longer hours at work, romance is bound to happen more often. You may just find that special someone when you least expect it. But for all the pleasure you expect, you will probably pay for it with at least some pain. The bottom line is, you are at work to provide a service, so that should be your primary objective. But if you can court a romance with someone there and pull it off OUTSIDE the workplace, you have to follow your heart. And like Lenny Kravitz sings, "Let love rule!" Posted by: Visionaerie | July 12, 2005 06:39 PM RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you. | |
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