Would you date someone you worked with if you were attracted to them? Why or why not? Feel free to discuss.

Sorry to hear that it didn't work out. Bummer.

psychodelicide said:

Oh ...It's Ok now....

...There were good times...


...I'm well over it...

Depending on how closely you work with the person, it's a risky proposition.
I have dated people I have worked with.
The first one was not a good experience. He dogged me out and starting dating another co-worker. It was sickening to be around both of them (mainly because the bitch gloated about it).
The second one was cool. We were together for almost a year, but we didn't work together anymore when we broke up.
So, it can work out, but if it ends badly, it really sucks to have to be around someone you don;t want to be around.
Are you considering this yourself, Psych?

Steadwood said:

1sexymf said:

Nah, don't think I could or would date a coworker. As you said, it is a risky proposition. If the relationship were to end for whatever reason, you still would have to see that person at work, sometimes every day, depending on whether you work in the same department with the ex or not. You're right, it would suck to have to be around someone who dogged you out or to be around someone who you had a relationship with and it ended on a sour note. A person dating a coworker would have to have an agreement before dating, no discussing the relationship with other coworkers, since some coworkers like to get in other people's business and gossip. Another reason why I couldn't or wouldn't date a coworker would be the rumors that would be going around the office as to why the relationship ended. I've never dated a coworker, and probably never will for the above reasons stated.

psychodelicide said:

Co-sign on people wanting to be all up in your business. That can be even worse than having to look at someone you hate everyday!

Agreed, that would totally suck! I've learned not to reveal too much about my personal life to coworkers, unless if I can really, really trust them.

psychodelicide said:

I've made the mistake of doing that numerous times. i had to learn the hard way not to do that. I should have listened when a wise friend of mine told me NOT to do that.
It always came back to bite me on the ass.

1sexymf said:

Sorry to hear that. Unfortunately, some coworkers who act like your friend really aren't.

psychodelicide said:

Yeah, I tend to keep them at arms length now.

Then there's the flip side of the coin: Some people can date a coworker and it works out beautifully. My two older brothers dated women they worked with, and they both wound up marrying them and having kids. So you never know; I guess it depends on the two people involved.

1sexymf said:

I hear ya, then bosses tell me to "get more involved with the people you work with". Fuck that! Why should I get involved with coworkers when most of them aren't really your friends anyway and just try to get personal information out of you? Not worth it, in my opinion.

psychodelicide said:

Mm hmm, before you know it, everyone will know who you've dated, what you ate for breakfast, what color your panties are, what you talk to your cat about, what time you go to bed, how many times you pee a day, if you take showers or baths, etc, etc.

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1sexymf said:

So true.

No.
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I know of two people who had a relationship in secret who worked in the same office, friends of my ex. They eventually got married, had kids and are still together.

But it is still taboo in an office to be having a relationship. I have read that if it sours, then its hard for these two people to get along and work together. Eventually either one decides to leave that employment.

I would never have an office affair.

1stly u aint at work to make friends or relationships u there to do what u gotta do get paid and go home.

TheRealFiness said:

you forgot "get paid and go home, then get laid "

Mach said:

The getting laid part is the best

Personally, it'd be too much "other person", too much of the time.
When do you have your own space?

I've seen more fail than succeed.

Many companies (mine included) require that if a relationship ends up in marriage, one of the parties must leave the company.

tA

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psychodelicide said:

This is a .

theAudience said:

My job has a similiar policy TA Baby.

IrresistibleB1tch said:

I agree. But I think it should be the exception, not the rule.
But if you're in love, you're in love.
I once dated a co-worker and it really wasn't a big deal. We didn't work all that closely together and without even discussing it together we were both completely discreet at work. Sure, it was a bit awkward when it was over, but that faded fairly quickly.

Dating is fucked no matter what.

jerseykrs said:

At times, it can be.

I have a serious crush on a co-worker riight now.