Here's a sure sign....

Your wife had an abortion, tried to hide it from you, and you had a vascectomy a year ago.

jerseykrs said:

fuck!

6) your partner is in bed naked with someone who isn't you

i dunno. i have a really laxed attitude on the whole thing. if i was in a relationship with someone who said they cheated and fooled around with someone and it was just some dumb sexual thing, i'd call my partner an ass and i would want to make sure they didn't catch anything, but i could get over it. if, however, someone was having a full-blown affair with someone that i learned they had some kind of emotional attachment to, then i gotta kick 'em to the curb.

everyone gets dumb and horny, and sometimes it gets the best of people. i'd like to think higher of myself and the person i'm with, but i guess i've just had enough life experience that such shenanigans don't really bother me, other than STD concerns and the like. emotional attachments are a far deeper thing, and you're dealing with loyalties and alliances and entire parts of someone's emotional character in which you are not permitted to be part of. THAT grosses me out.

Hopeully, Mani is reading this.

missfee said:

I say he's having an affair with the waiter

Here was my fucked up situation.

My boyfriend many moons ago cheated on my on the regular. I would feel in my gut that he was doing it but I gave him the benefit of the doubt. I would think abut how jealous I was and how I should be more grown up about it. Well, he eventually told me about all the times that he had cheated on me. I WAS RIGHT EVERY SINGLE TIME.

So now I trust my gut, and it's a big one.

M

missfee said:

is liking pie a crime?

Anxiety said:

Just cuz he is so sexy. Don't be angry. Join us.

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

so what did he do to cause you to have doubts?? like would he lie about where he was going, or would he go for days without calling you, and then call acting like everything was fine?

6) your partner is in bed naked with someone who isn't you

missfee said:

We never lived together, thank God, but when I would leave he would go out. I caught him once. He told me that he was going to go dancing with friends. I felt like shit even though I still believed he was cheating on me. Later on he confessed after every single time he cheated on me. Like a stupid ass I stayed until I couldn't take it no more. Wheneve he said "I have to talk to you" I knew what was coming. The thing is. We used to have sex regularly. It was never "Why are we not having sex anymore." We had a healthy sex life." We both played safe with each other. He said he just wanted more. He eventually told me that he wanted to have a relationship where he could be with anyone sexually and I could be just committed to him. Yes, that's what he said.

We are still friends though. He has been with a new boyfriend in an open relationship for about 5 years. It works for him. It wouldn't work for me.

M
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I haven't read this thread yet and this has probably been suggested.....

when your mate is overly obsessed with your actions or accuses you of cheating, could be deflection of their own guilt.

I haven't read this thread yet and this has probably been suggested.....

when your mate is overly obsessed with your actions or accuses you of cheating, could be deflection of their own guilt.

AirFireWaterEarth said:

Of course life is not black and white sweetie but having been on the rough end of cheating my reply would be.....

Life is not black and white but promises are. Don't promise if you don't mean it..that is it. If you want me to keep my promises then you keep yours. That is a partnership,
IMHO

Here's a sure sign....

Your wife had an abortion, tried to hide it from you, and you had a vascectomy a year ago.