SynthiaRose said:

Thank you...

Ocean said:

Wise words indeed!

althom said:

you know I think he's a smart man lol

Ocean said:

Money is not an issue with me. However, I would say that the person that I become involved in a steady relationship should have a salary that is compatible or exceeds mine.

MsLegs said:

Does compatible mean equal?

Ocean said:

What do think?

I look at their internal drive but not necessarily their ambition. I like interesting people who have a spark about them because I think people with no drive tend to be dull. Money doesn't matter a fig to me, although I have to admit that I'm happy with my lifestyle at the moment and wouldn't really want to take a step backwards financially. I don't need a lot but I like what I have.

MsLegs said:

Thought u were saying equal...just didn't want to misunderstand

Reincarnate said:

Exactly. For this reason, this is why I say that my mate's salary has to compatible or exceeds mine.
[Edited 7/7/05 0:10am]

Ocean said:

From (bad) experience, I prefer people with drive and ambition. I don't expect someone to be filthy rich but I do expect them to be able to stand on their own financially.

Ocean said:

hey sweetie ...to answer your question the financial aspect of it I don't think would come into it unless they were always leaning on me for money THAT would be a huge turnoff if they didn't want to have at least some independance

In regards to ambition and being driven it wouldn't worry me at all about thier career/job/whatever but it WOULD worry me if they were complacent with not working or doing anything at all

It's not important how much money he has, but I'd be turned off by a man who is not motivated to make something of his life and work hard for his future or for the family (once you have settled). Commitment to the relationship (thus the drive of both him and myself to get out of bed in the morning to work hard for US) is very important to me. But I guess that goes for commitment to the relationship period.

billyjackbitch said:

that's what I was trying to say too but not very well lol

Ocean said:

You...as usual...have yet to answer your own question.....

I need her to have her passion...whether it is financially successful or not is secondary. I'd like for her to be driven to be the best she can be and have something to call her own...

pardonme4livin said:

you just might miss out on the love of your life by eliminating "poor" folk.

however, in my experience, relationship sustainability comes from a healthy mix of pragmatism and romance, with more of an emphasis on the latter (though it won't survive without some of the former).

Ocean said:

I'm glad you appreciated my contribution to your thread...lol

Ocean said:

well i really don't care about money at all. but you can't live off of love alone. two people have to be working at something together. its nice to be with an ambitious and driven person but i'd settle for being with a responsible person who does what is right
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brownsugar said:

However a romantic I am, I am still a realist. I was with someone for love who didn't have a job and didn't seem to interested in getting one. Told myself that love was all that mattered. Today: Fuck that! While he does not have to be rich, we both have to be walking out of the door everyday to work. I love a man who can handle his business.

TheOrgerFormerlyKnownAs said:

see thats what i'm talkin' about

ok, so I'm totally confused.
Am I gay or not?

AsianBomb777 said:

You're gay. Except, apparently not. I'm confused, too.

AsianBomb777 said:

your semi gay dude!

EarthAirFireWater said:

Hey Nat! Can you spare me $50 bucks until Monday?

Reflecting on the qustion a little more, I just want to add to what I wrote earlier. I find people who are too materialistic a turn-off. I'd rather be with somebody who values people than someone who values money. It's a bonus if they have a little money to spoil me with, but honestly if he's too superficial, I don't want to know.

TheOrgerFormerlyKnownAs said:

I'm glad to see an honest answer here. I would expect nothing less from you!

Woman who say they pay no attention to that shit are just plain lying or self-delusional.

Reincarnate said:

TheOrgerFormerlyKnownAs said:

I've been in exactly the same position. Was with someone for 4 and half years who didn't really care about working and just bounced in and out of jobs. I felt enormous pressure to make sure that money was available for things, whereas he couldn't have cared less. I eventually had enough of his crap and told him to bugger off.

I'm not superficial by an means. I wouldn't be with someone I didn't love just because they had lots of money. However, I will never allow a repetition of my previous relationship. If I'm working then I expect someone to work too and take care of their finances. I don't expect my partner to give me money or bail me out so they should not expect it of me either.

I notice that no one has thought about the fact that maybe a person has a disability or a health problem that prevents them from working, contributing to society. What if the person is in a wheel chair and gets barely any money to survive or contribute? Look at the big picture.

It's not fair to judge a person by how much money is in their bank. It is the person you became attracted to that you like.