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QUESTION... If you were upset or angry towards someone would you talk to them about it or simply shut them out? just curious... | |
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Depends on the situation
and what it all entailed | |
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I ignore them after I've said what I wanted to say. | |
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JoeyMFinCoco said: I ignore them after I've said what I wanted to say.
but the point is you WOULD say what you wanted to say, right? | |
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ella731 said: Depends on the situation
and what it all entailed true! | |
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EarthAirFireWater said: JoeyMFinCoco said: I ignore them after I've said what I wanted to say.
but the point is you WOULD say what you wanted to say, right? Yes. | |
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It really depends on what they did to upset me. If it's something that I think we have a possibility of sorting out then I'm more likely to talk to them and try to sort it out. We can get just as easily upset over trivial matters as serious ones, so the question is - is this worth losing a friend over? Of course, sometimes the answer is yes, I have shut out people (and have never spoken to them again) because what they did was beyond my bounds of acceptability. Lemmy, Bowie, Prince, Leonard. RIP. | |
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AsylumUtopia said: It really depends on what they did to upset me. If it's something that I think we have a possibility of sorting out then I'm more likely to talk to them and try to sort it out. We can get just as easily upset over trivial matters as serious ones, so the question is - is this worth losing a friend over? Of course, sometimes the answer is yes, I have shut out people (and have never spoken to them again) because what they did was beyond my bounds of acceptability.
all very good points...thanks | |
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EarthAirFireWater said: If you were upset or angry towards someone would you talk to them about it or simply shut them out? just curious... It sounds like you should be asking that person, not us, Natisse. Whatever it is, I am sure you just must have gotten the wrong end of the stick. Hope it gets sorted out - sure it will | |
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JoeyMFinCoco said: EarthAirFireWater said: but the point is you WOULD say what you wanted to say, right? Yes. yep that's what I thought...me too I think the majority of people would actually given the situation was rectifiable | |
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Me personally ?
I'd start a thread about them. | |
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rocknrolldave said: EarthAirFireWater said: If you were upset or angry towards someone would you talk to them about it or simply shut them out? just curious... It sounds like you should be asking that person, not us, Natisse. Whatever it is, I am sure you just must have gotten the wrong end of the stick. Hope it gets sorted out - sure it will I sure hope it will | |
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EarthAirFireWater said: If you were upset or angry towards someone would you talk to them about it or simply shut them out? just curious... i am going to assume that this person is a friend ... someone that is loved so ... HELL yes i would talk to them ... | |
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EarthAirFireWater said: all very good points...thanks
Hope you can work it out (assuming you're in that situation and not just asking out of curiosity). Lemmy, Bowie, Prince, Leonard. RIP. | |
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AsylumUtopia said: EarthAirFireWater said: all very good points...thanks
Hope you can work it out (assuming you're in that situation and not just asking out of curiosity). um half and half actually...mostly curiosity tho | |
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Mach said: EarthAirFireWater said: If you were upset or angry towards someone would you talk to them about it or simply shut them out? just curious... i am going to assume that this person is a friend ... someone that is loved so ... HELL yes i would talk to them ... I would too | |
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Maybe they are "shutting you out" from their anger because....there isn't any anger?
Do you know what I mean? Maybe they haven't told you what it is that you have done to upset them cos you haven't upset them?! | |
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rocknrolldave said: Maybe they are "shutting you out" from their anger because....there isn't any anger?
Do you know what I mean? Maybe they haven't told you what it is that you have done to upset them cos you haven't upset them?! well I'm HOPING that's the case but my instinct is telling me otherwise...time will tell I guess! | |
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ella731 said: Depends on the situation
and what it all entailed absolutely. i hate the idea of shutting anyone out, & it's not in my nature to do that, but sometimes you can be hurt or offended, or whatever, to such a degree or so many times, that it feels best to accept that the wound is open, stop debating why it's open, and move on. really though, you have to discuss it first. | |
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Talking with them if possible is the only way to understand...
...Doing it isn't always that easy.... | |
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Steadwood said: Talking with them if possible is the only way to understand...
...Doing it isn't always that easy.... yep | |
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Life's too short to hold grudges.
If they're someone important in my life, I'll talk it through. If they're not important, I'll move on. | |
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i would talk to them first rather than just shut someone out without seeing if the situation can be resolved first | |
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Curse them out.... and write them off! | |
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I am talker for sure...I would want them to know how I felt....even if it didn't help or fix anything...I would have to get it off my chest.... | |
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Reincarnate said: Life's too short to hold grudges.
If they're someone important in my life, I'll talk it through. If they're not important, I'll move on. | |
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Depends on the situation...Ive done both. The shutting out part usualy comes with the hurt you feel from whatever it is that happened to make you upset in the first place. It drives me nuts when people will state their side and then ignore the situation like it never happened or what they had to say is all there is to say and no other words are to be spoken about it so I try not to do the iggy thing and if I do its only for a couple days to calm down a bit and collect my thoughts on the situation. | |
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There is no situation in which I won't try and talk it out...some say I talk too much...lol Just walking away and shutting people out is a cop out of sorts in my eyes. If I shut anyone out, it's only after trying to talk things thru and get past whatever is between us, but they refuse to do so on their end...if their actions and reactions all indicate that they're unwilling to do the same, then I take the hint, and let them be and go my own way. But I'll be able to leave them knowing I did the right thing, and at least tried...that I showed that I wanted to correct whatever was wrong between us.
But I don't think I really ever shut anyone out of my life who has, at one point or another, meant something important in my life...I'm always open and willing to putting things behind us, no matter how much time has passed...as long as they're sincerely willing to as well. | |
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Byron said: There is no situation in which I won't try and talk it out...some say I talk [b]too much[/b]...lol Just walking away and shutting people out is a cop out of sorts in my eyes. If I shut anyone out, it's only after trying to talk things thru and get past whatever is between us, but they refuse to do so on their end...if their actions and reactions all indicate that they're unwilling to do the same, then I take the hint, and let them be and go my own way. But I'll be able to leave them knowing I did the right thing, and at least tried...that I showed that I wanted to correct whatever was wrong between us.
But I don't think I really ever shut anyone out of my life who has, at one point or another, meant something important in my life...I'm always open and willing to putting things behind us, no matter how much time has passed...as long as they're sincerely willing to as well. NOOOOO only kidding hon | |
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