Depends on the situation

and what it all entailed

I ignore them after I've said what I wanted to say.

JoeyMFinCoco said:

but the point is you WOULD say what you wanted to say, right?

ella731 said:

true!

EarthAirFireWater said:

Yes.

It really depends on what they did to upset me. If it's something that I think we have a possibility of sorting out then I'm more likely to talk to them and try to sort it out. We can get just as easily upset over trivial matters as serious ones, so the question is - is this worth losing a friend over? Of course, sometimes the answer is yes, I have shut out people (and have never spoken to them again) because what they did was beyond my bounds of acceptability.

AsylumUtopia said:

all very good points...thanks

EarthAirFireWater said:

It sounds like you should be asking that person, not us, Natisse.


Whatever it is, I am sure you just must have gotten the wrong end of the stick.


Hope it gets sorted out - sure it will

JoeyMFinCoco said:

yep that's what I thought...me too I think the majority of people would actually given the situation was rectifiable

Me personally ?
I'd start a thread about them.

rocknrolldave said:

I sure hope it will

EarthAirFireWater said:

i am going to assume that this person is a friend ... someone that is loved

so ...


HELL yes i would talk to them ...

EarthAirFireWater said:

Hope you can work it out (assuming you're in that situation and not just asking out of curiosity).

AsylumUtopia said:

um half and half actually...mostly curiosity tho

Mach said:

I would too

Maybe they are "shutting you out" from their anger because....there isn't any anger?


Do you know what I mean? Maybe they haven't told you what it is that you have done to upset them cos you haven't upset them?!

rocknrolldave said:

well I'm HOPING that's the case but my instinct is telling me otherwise...time will tell I guess!

ella731 said:

absolutely.

i hate the idea of shutting anyone out, & it's not in my nature to do that, but sometimes you can be hurt or offended, or whatever, to such a degree or so many times, that it feels best to accept that the wound is open, stop debating why it's open, and move on.

really though, you have to discuss it first.

Steadwood said:

yep

Life's too short to hold grudges.

If they're someone important in my life, I'll talk it through. If they're not important, I'll move on.

i would talk to them first rather than just shut someone out without seeing if the situation can be resolved first

Curse them out.... and write them off!

I am talker for sure...I would want them to know how I felt....even if it didn't help or fix anything...I would have to get it off my chest....

Reincarnate said:

There is no situation in which I won't try and talk it out...some say I talk too much...lol Just walking away and shutting people out is a cop out of sorts in my eyes. If I shut anyone out, it's only after trying to talk things thru and get past whatever is between us, but they refuse to do so on their end...if their actions and reactions all indicate that they're unwilling to do the same, then I take the hint, and let them be and go my own way. But I'll be able to leave them knowing I did the right thing, and at least tried...that I showed that I wanted to correct whatever was wrong between us.

But I don't think I really ever shut anyone out of my life who has, at one point or another, meant something important in my life...I'm always open and willing to putting things behind us, no matter how much time has passed...as long as they're sincerely willing to as well.

Byron said:

NOOOOO




only kidding hon