For me, I think being the baby of the family and the only girl out of two brothers helped me with getting away with things. My parents were more lenient on me than they were with my older brother. I didn't really grow up with my older half brother, but my blood brother and I are pretty tight. He's only two years older than i am, so we grew up liking almost the same things, like cartoons, toys, etc. Sometimes I think I'm the female version of him.

I was the eldest and when my baby sister was born I felt like I was on my own. I played by myself and drew pictures to fill my time. I still do the same thing now! I do in fact prefer solitude, but it's hard to come by these days unfortunately.

2teh9s said:

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ON THE CONTRARY MR!

Having to live with all boys....my pee rate is as fast as it can be HA thats why I won in our pee contest earlier.....
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Youngest of 5 and the only girl.....I guess they protected me a little ....

JuniperBeans said:

If by "win" you mean pee'd all over the seat, then yeah okay.

Mine went right in!!

Fleshofmyflesh said:

I'm the baby as well.

i'm my father's youngest and my mother's youngest
i have two half-sisters
one full brother
two step-brothers
and one step-sister
by the time i came along
i was pretty much ignored
i often say that i raised myself
i've always kinda done my own thing

I'm the youngest of four...but we're so spread out that I'm not sure it affected me the way it may normally affect the "baby" of the family. My oldest sister was like a second mother to me (she was in college by the time I was getting into kindergarten)...and I can guarantee I wasn't spoiled...lol

Not sure how it affected me, really...

i am the middle child. always hated it. i had to be the adult when i didn't want to be and i had to be the one to break up the fights. my older brother had everything because he was the first and my younger sister got everything else because she was the baby and the last one my mom could have. i was the only one planned but i still don't like being the middle-child.

Older of two. I'm a stereotypical first child in some ways, as far as always preferring the company of adults, being an assertive type, that sort of thing. But I don't feel like it was huge for me. I think it was huge for my sister, because she grew up being compared to me, and we have different strengths. As adults, I think even that is less of an issue.

She and I didn't enjoy each others' company when we were little, and I also have that self-sufficent, happy-in-my-own-head streak that some others have described. . .

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I'm the middle daughter of three girls and we are all two years apart. My older sister is very reserved and shy but very sweet and kind. My little sister is extremely noisy - she talks nonstop about nothing and loves attention, but she does have her shy streak. I have a very loud voice and also like to talk. I tend to think that everyone in the world "owes" me and I constantly play the victim.

shanti0608 said:

I'm an only child too. I quite liked being the only one but I seemed to have grown up in nicer circumstances (not much fighting). Hope your life is much better now!!

I agree with you that being an only child made me quite shy and quiet. I also really enjoy my own company and am not much of an attention seeker (I think).
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Fleshofmyflesh said:

My landlord is the youngest of TEN children - and with him being in his 60's now, many of his siblings have passed away now. He is very self-sufficient and confident and is quite hard, in that he doesn't show feelings much and doesn't let things bother him.


I am the middle of three boys, so I have both the older brother and younger brother experiences to draw on...whereas it very clearly shows that my younger brother was the younger one - Spoilt? Maybe..Weird? Definitely!

And my older brother is very conservative and home-based.

I'd like to think i sit in between them as the best parts of both of them

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

.. oldest of four, same here.

LolaM said:

Thanks! Yes, my life is better now. I swore that I would never marry a man who was like my dad. I managed to marry someone the complete opposite.
I do talk to my dad now, we had been estranged off & on for many years at a time.
He blames me for my mom & I running away when I was 12.
He does call me when he needs to talk and I guess that is alright. Sometimes he expresses that he is sorry for how he treated us.
He is remarried and has an adopted son who is now 16 yrs old. I did not really get to know him until he was about 13 yrs old, my dad adopted him at birth. I guess I did not have a sibling until I was an adult. My lil' bro is cool though. He does not have much time for his big sis lately though, he plays in a band, works, goes to school and has a much older girlfriend!

"Marsha, Marsha, Marsha!!!"


Im the middle child of 3 girls. with just our mother to raise us, So if you ever wonder wtf is wrong with me just remember that

shanti0608 said:

I'm glad things have turned out so well for you. Sounds like you'll have to keep an eye on that lil bro of yours tho. Older lady, huh!!! hee hee

LolaM said:

Tell me about it, big sis is not happy about her but he has been dating her over a year now. She better not hurt him, I will make her pay!!

shanti0608 said:

I'm sure it will all be fine. He could get hurt just as badly by someone of his own age. Just keep an eye on him.

Note to self..... do not piss Shanti off.....

LolaM said:

Ha, that's funny, no one that knows me has ever been afraid of me.
My stepmom tried to get rid of this girl but her & my dad have spoiled my brother since the moment he was born. They let him do as he pleases so when this girl came along he was only 15 and they tried to restrict him from seeing her. They tried to explain to him that she could go to jail because he was under aged and they were having sex. Nothing worked so my dad convinced my stepmom to back off and let them be. I just hope she does not wind up getting pregnant...
Not much I can do, I live in Florida and they live in Tennessee..

shanti0608 said:

I'm sure he's much more savvy than you think. Just be there for him

I only have an older sister.. I am the baby, so basically i was pampered and resented totally by my sister!

I am the middle child..

Strong, and as my Mom says, the one who is loved the most..

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shanti0608 said:

i know that feeling well. with some friends and relationships, people have gone a little nuts around how self-sufficient i am and how i'm able to just sit in a room by myself and keep myself completely content and occupied. i had one roommate who explained to a guy i was dating, "anxy can sit in his room making his little mix tapes and stories with the door shut for three days and not even realize how long he's been in there." well, heh....yeah.


I am the same way as an only child. I found it odd and actually got annoyed when others assumed I was spoiled. It was only magnified being the granddaughter of a Baptist minister, and the assumptions behind that. Sure I would get .25 here and there for candy, and if I were spoiled, it must have been before I was aware of what that meant, and it didn't last beyond the age of 6. We didn't have money to throw around, so I was mostly content with what I had, which wasn't always the latest toys and games. There were times that I've felt alone, but the older I got, the more I crave the alone time, so I can focus on what I like or need to do. I'm more quiet and tend to have briefer conversations, and that sometimes bother the talkative must-be-around-others- all-the-time-or-I'll-die types, which are interstingly enough the type of people I gravitate towards. I think the biggest challenge growing up and even at times today is just being accepted by others for my quirkiness, and tendencies to not needing to be out and about and around people all the time. I can handle crowds and group settings, yet I look forward to the alone time.

I would get asked all the time if I ever wanted siblings. Sure before I entered high school, and attempts were made, but when I knew that wasn't going to happen, I was over it. Now I just wished I had a pet to keep me company.

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Anxiety said:

That's where I was "sort of" lucky! We always had animals around but my dad was very abusive towards them also. that was the only downside to having pets is having to see them get hurt.
I always thought of the dogs & cats as my siblings.
Going through what I went through as an only child and having parents that hated each other, made me realize that I trust my dogs more then ppl. I grew up having NO fear of dogs and it made me connect with dogs in a unique way.
Right now I have 3 dogs and I would have more if I could afford it.